sammid Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I feel like i have a different situation with my boyfriend, we met this past summer, so we've only been dating for about 3 months. However we really connected, it sounds so cliche its ridiclious. I don't know why i opened up, but i started talking, and he started talking (and we were standing on the greatwall of china) and i guess the atmosphere was just perfect. no idea what happened but later that night we got a little drunk and hooked up a little. all in all, we were basically in love til now. when we hooked up he had a girl friend, but decided to break up with her for me, thats how much we really clicked. and i think they were going out for a year. some other factors that make our relationship kind of different is that, i'm 18, a freshman in college and i go to school in philadelphia, while my boyfriend is 15, a sophomore in high school. you would say this is unusual, and weird, and yeah i would agree. but we like each other so much we didn't give a crap what anyone else thought. but it didn't really matter too much unless it was our friends. i look pretty young for my age anyways, and he is a good 5 inches taller than me. my friends give me a lot of crap about our relationship, telling me i'm too old for him and how i'm not getting anything out of the relationship, and he never told me what his friends thought about it, he did tell me one of his friend said that long distances never work out. ...but idon't know, i'm originally from central jersey, so when i get a chance to go home, i try my best to drive up to him (about an hour away) to see him. but his parents are very strict, and don't even let him out of the house sometimes, hes in that very pressured state of SAT's and tests. and the thing is we've been talking about the future and how he wants to go to a school near my school, but that wouldn't be until a few more years after he graduates, and he used to talk sweet, like "you better wait for me" and such. i really liked him and i still do so much, however hes been acting so weird, he doesn't sound the same these past couple of days. there were a few incidents that happened after i came to college, an incident where i got drunk and made out with two guys, and i wanted him to trust me so i told him, and he actually was very understanding, since hes been in that situation before over the summer, he said he wasn't mad, but to not do it again. so i haven't, and then another incident was one day he was talking to me over im, telling me why my friend was telling me to break up with him and something about a very funny conversation in my drafts section of my email. Basically he read my emails in my account, and i was kind of upset, so i read through his emails, but then stopped bc i knew that was bad. then he flipped out on me saying i shouldn't be reading his personal stuff and argued how what he read in my emails weren't personal. so then after that it has been really rocky, and he recently sent me and email saying he knows he hasn't been a good boyfriend and how he'll try to talk to me more, and how he has alot of things going on, and other stuff is bothering him but he said that he can't tell me. i basically tell him everything that bothers me, but he can never trust me. i have this sense of immaturity from him, but i feel like hes very mature for his age,i really don't want to break up with him, and i'm starting to get influenced by my friends who keep telling me to break up with him. but breaking up with him has been on my mind a lot. i don't want to lose him, we've gone through very deep talks about life and family that i've never talked to anyone else before. after meeting him i haven't felt very lonely because he knows what a rough life i've been through and i understand his' as well. but now that we've living two hours apart i don't know what to do anymore. i miss him so much, but i get a feeling hes not feeling the same summer love we had only a few months ago.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 an incident where i got drunk and made out with two guys, and i wanted him to trust me so i told him, and he actually was very understanding, This is a textbook case of you wanting to cause HIM to break-up with you (so you won't have to do the dirty work of initiating the break-up). Otherwise there was no reason for you to have disclosed this action about which he never would have known had you not spilled the beans about it. So c'mon, at least tell us anonymous people on Loveshack how you really feel... (does it now feel that you're tied-down to somebody back home when you would like to be experimenting socially on the college scene?)
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