Great985 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Hi everyone I am a 26 year old guy who was always shy and hopelessly anxious when it comes to talking to women. Add to this I had to spend a large segment of my time looking after my father until he passed away, so I am a bit behind in life. I study at university and work part time. There is this girl I like that works in a store I go to but I never get the courage to ask her out. Sometimes she is really friendly and talkative with me and I see some signs that she likes me and others she is a bit distant. There is also a guy trying to pick her up as well now. Its really hard for me to talk to women and I feel I don't have as much to offer them as other guys since I am poorer and still studying. I have a kind heart and am willing to care for someone and want to be loved. I just can't come out of my shell no matter what and what if she hates me and my presence makes her nervous I don't want to make women uncomfortable and I am always respectful. I'd just would like to ask her out but my anxiety and shyness and self esteem that I can't take care of her as well as someone else gets in the way. I know she is just a normal human being. any help?
dreamingoftigers Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I hate to sound cheesy but maybe write her a note. She might reject it, but it really isn't the end of the world and I really doubt it will make her uncomfortable. Notes are nice, they show you care enough to write it down. You could try sending her flowers, worked for a friend of mine. It sucks that nice guys who would be in total demand by women who are hoping to be one have trouble showing outward signs of interest.
paddington bear Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 You're not behind in life, you've just had a different experience than others and I'm sure have as much opinions about things and interests as any other person. I'm much older than you, and still date poor people (heck I'm totally poor myself). If the guy doesn't have much money, for me that's fine, plenty of free things to do. The point is to spend some time together rather than spending lots of money. If she or any other girl has a problem with your financial status, move on. Regarding your shynes - self-esteem, you somehow have to get over this. It will feel bad if she rejects you, but it will feel a million times worse (and it will ultimately crush your self-esteem even further) if some other guy does what you've been humming and haawing about and just takes her from you! Stop using your imagination: if I ask her, she will say no. If she says yes, I will have nothing to offer, this will happen, that will happen. You don't know all of this until it happens! And it might not happen at all!
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