flow15 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 So I've been seeing this guy for about a month ( I've only seen him a few times but we've spoken every day via chat- as he lives a few hours away from me) the first few times we met up we had a lot of fun and there was a lot of chemistry. then he invited me to go visit him for the weekend, the first two days we had a lot of fun again like the first few times we had met up.. but then that night we had sex and it was a bit awkward as i was nervous (as its the first time i've slept with someone who isn't my boyfriend/someone I'm in love with) and he wasn't exactly gentle about it... anyway after that he was off with me, stopped being so affectionate with me.. we spent one more day together and we were hardly talking, although we were really hung-over that day. Am i reading too much into it to think he's gone off me now and not interested in me anymore? Should I just message him and ask him is it my imagination or have you been acting weird with me since the other day, or should I just leave it. Also should I discuss the awkwardness of the sex or would that make it more awkward? There was so much sexual chemistry before we had sex and now we've had it, its like its dissappeared...
Idalis Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 How was he not gentle about it?? Maybe this a sign of things to come if you were to continue going out with him. I would discuss sex if it was that awkward? Nothing better than communicating about it. It doesnt have to be a negative conversation. I feel if you can have sex with someone then you better be able to discuss sex with that person. If you're not at the point where you can discuss it then you jumped the gun having sex. But its still fixable with communication. And also give it time. You may be the one feeling awkward b/c of what you said that you only have sex with bf's and may be reading more in to his actions than what is actually there. Good luck!
BrianK Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Communicate with the guy, sex changes things. I also think you may have given it up a bit early but intense chat tends to make you think you know the person better than you really do.
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