Mermaid22 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I have now told ex fiancée that I'm moving on, he don't like that I'm not doing the 'lets be friends' thing.... I'm now doing the no-contact rule. Anyway I asked him to come on Sunday to collect the rest of his belongings.. I pack the engagement ring in the bag and went out to get away from it all. Five hours later I got a text. " The engagement ring is on the bookshelf " and it was !!!!!!!!!!!! Can anyone give me insight on why he may of done that !!!???? Cheers
lapse Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Well, my *guess* is that he wants you to have it. It was meant for you, not someone else.
Author Mermaid22 Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Indeed... but he would know more than most what the ring represents..And he would know that the ring represents... a Massive Broken Promise...... Why would he think that I would want to be reminded of that!? I think it's cruel...I made the decision to give him back the ring. In a way he never respected that, because I feel that his not allowing me to get some closure...
PegNosePete Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Either it upsets him too much to take it back, or he wants to keep a connection between the two of you. Sell it and offer to give him the money.
Am4Real Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Indeed... but he would know more than most what the ring represents..And he would know that the ring represents... a Massive Broken Promise...... Why would he think that I would want to be reminded of that!? I think it's cruel...I made the decision to give him back the ring. In a way he never respected that, because I feel that his not allowing me to get some closure... Mermaid, I went back and quickly read your first-time post to get your history – I have most of it in my head now which helps put your question about the engagement ring into perspective. As another poster commented, we will never really know what is going on in his head so all of our comments are merely guess work. Since the break up that has caused him much concern and thinking about his life, did he ever have strong regrets and seemingly wanted to change his mind? If the answer is YES, then I suspect his motive for leaving the ring “in your face” sort-of-speak is that he has now left his mark with you as a constant reminder of him and your old love; the sight of that ring will have you not only pondering his continued interest in you, but perhaps rekindle yours of him. And if I may say should this be the case, it seems to be working in his favor doesn’t it? See how the game works? However, if in fact he is/was undecided and never really made a strong case for getting back together he truly may have left the ring so you can use the “stone” anyway you want as suitable in the future (or now) since it might not be used for another purpose by him in his mind.I’m guessing he tried to rekindle your relationship in a half hearted way, you rejected and situation #1 above is the most applicable. Fill us in please. Am4Real
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