stopthemadness Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Hi everyone. wanted to tell you I went to see a therapist 3 days ago. It went really well! Shes awesome and am very hopeful this is just what I needed. We talked about ALOT of stuff, And am looking forward to meeting with her again. I still miss my ex all the time but Ive made no contact of any kind!! am so proud(smile) However I did see him drive by my house a few times. My sister says dont read anything into that, as all kinds of a--holes drive on my street all the time and hes just one of them. Am keeping a journal now. When I cant sleep or on the mornings I get up early I just write and write. NOt sure where it comes from, but it does. I told my self that This is where the maddness stops!! No more going back and forth!! no matter what!! no just being friends crap. and just checking to see how your doing bulls--t!! Stick a fork in me, Am done!! One of the things am having a problem with is hanging out in my room. Because "he" helped me redo it. But am sure after time and a few more meetings with my therapist that will get better too. I cant undo the last 81/2 years and guess I really wouldnt want to. Like they say. Its better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. I cant make all the hurt I feel go away over night. But I can just put it off to the side in my heart so its not staring me in the face all day everyday.I guess eventuallty Ill wish him well? But its not 2day. Am feeling stronger now and I wanted to share that with all of you. Am still broken but not as broken..
Leandro Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Hi everyone. wanted to tell you I went to see a therapist 3 days ago. It went really well! Shes awesome and am very hopeful this is just what I needed. We talked about ALOT of stuff, And am looking forward to meeting with her again. I still miss my ex all the time but Ive made no contact of any kind!! am so proud(smile) However I did see him drive by my house a few times. My sister says dont read anything into that, as all kinds of a--holes drive on my street all the time and hes just one of them. Am keeping a journal now. When I cant sleep or on the mornings I get up early I just write and write. NOt sure where it comes from, but it does. I told my self that This is where the maddness stops!! No more going back and forth!! no matter what!! no just being friends crap. and just checking to see how your doing bulls--t!! Stick a fork in me, Am done!! One of the things am having a problem with is hanging out in my room. Because "he" helped me redo it. But am sure after time and a few more meetings with my therapist that will get better too. I cant undo the last 81/2 years and guess I really wouldnt want to. Like they say. Its better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. I cant make all the hurt I feel go away over night. But I can just put it off to the side in my heart so its not staring me in the face all day everyday.I guess eventuallty Ill wish him well? But its not 2day. Am feeling stronger now and I wanted to share that with all of you. Am still broken but not as broken.. That's good. Im glad you're making progress.
strength-abounds Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Hey STM, I'm glad to hear that you started to see a therapist. If you let her, she will help you through this heartache you have suffered. It only gets better from here. I have a journal I started writing in when I first found out about my ExW having an affair. I often look back to the beginning to see how much I have progressed through this entire ordeal. You may find yourself doing that from time to time. I truly hope you find peace in seeing your progress. It's goind to be a hard and uphill road, but that road does start going back downhill eventually. Just keep focusing on your goals and you'll make it. May God bless you and remember, there is someone out there hoping and praying to meet someone like YOU!
Author stopthemadness Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 Hey STM, I'm glad to hear that you started to see a therapist. If you let her, she will help you through this heartache you have suffered. It only gets better from here. I have a journal I started writing in when I first found out about my ExW having an affair. I often look back to the beginning to see how much I have progressed through this entire ordeal. You may find yourself doing that from time to time. I truly hope you find peace in seeing your progress. It's goind to be a hard and uphill road, but that road does start going back downhill eventually. Just keep focusing on your goals and you'll make it. May God bless you and remember, there is someone out there hoping and praying to meet someone like YOU! Thanks so much for your thoughts and prayers. My therapist is an awesome lady, perfect fit. Am having a bad bad Day. Wish I could hear his voice or see his face. But am NOT it just helps let it go when I say it. I have some medical issues going on too. I always thought he'd be here for me through it. See I have to do chemo therapy for 6 months. Its in low doses so not sure if I can still work while am doing it? Its just hard to go through this alone. AND i see him driving by my house!! (2xs yesterday) Cant figure out why he dont just focus on his new women already ya know? I go to church every Wednesday so that helps.. anyways tommorrow will be better.....
swfc_77 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 right me and my ex re-decorated my room when she moved in, i re-plastered it, put a new window in, painted it, re-carpet it, wallpaper which we both chose, new furniture we both chose over £2000's worth of stuff. everything. since she has gone i have moved the furniture around, moved my bed, bought new sheets, deep cleaned the room rid of anything belonging to her, i had trouble with finding bloody hairclips all over the place i thought they were breeding at 1 point. i still cant stay in that room, i go out every night just for a few beers with friends. but i come home everynight and things have changed a little since she was last here, which has helped. i cant imagin my room being the same as when we did it together, and couldn't stand finding anything of hers. but now its all changed and all gone. you wont feel instant relief but over time you can tell a difference
Author stopthemadness Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 right me and my ex re-decorated my room when she moved in, i re-plastered it, put a new window in, painted it, re-carpet it, wallpaper which we both chose, new furniture we both chose over £2000's worth of stuff. everything. since she has gone i have moved the furniture around, moved my bed, bought new sheets, deep cleaned the room rid of anything belonging to her, i had trouble with finding bloody hairclips all over the place i thought they were breeding at 1 point. i still cant stay in that room, i go out every night just for a few beers with friends. but i come home everynight and things have changed a little since she was last here, which has helped. i cant imagin my room being the same as when we did it together, and couldn't stand finding anything of hers. but now its all changed and all gone. you wont feel instant relief but over time you can tell a differenceWow someone who knows how I feel about my room. Good to know. Ive been making myself go in there for a few hours every day cause I know I have to get over it. I do sleep in there most nights but I always get up early and end up in the living room. Itll get better am sure. Its a nice room!
shayan Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 you're insight is powerful. You know the secret. Heartbreak is impossible to just mute, you have to learn how to refocus your energy and efforts during the pain onto new things. And eventually your heart lets go, and you feel better. Actually refocusing your efforts will make you feel better right away. reinvest that love into yourself you go chiqita!
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