alsk1029 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I posted in the OW/OM forum about my story, but I figured I would give this place a little bit of the situation too. Just to throw this out there, the first time I slept with this girl, I was unsure about her relationship status. -Girl has a boyfriend/fiance that lives abroad -Started sleeping with me -Now is confused about who she wants to be with Anyways, I think the cheating of this girl is just out of hand. The most ridiculous things I can think of off the top of my head............. Her boyfriend was visiting her and was in her room reading or something. She called me over and we did oral in the room not even 10 feet away. Again, this guy was visiting and taking a nap in her room and we went into the stairway and had sex. One night when he was there, she started an argument with him and said that she needed to stay with a "friend." Well........... she came over to my place. I am not proud of what I have done, but I figured I would post some of these things that shocked me. I guess I don't feel as bad, though, because I think something is seriously wrong with this guy. He knows that she is cheating on her, but he puts up with it! This confuses and frustrates me to no end!! Anyways, the point of this is: Women, watch your man, and men, watch your women!
leedlee1 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Because theres people like you about!..... Perhaps you should stay away from her untill she has sorted her current bf out?? that is if you are even interested in this girl in things other than sex.
PratyekaYana Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 There would be something inauthentic about a burglar warning me to maintain my home security systems with great vigilance--largely because the threat that I must be wary of is represented in him.
Bryanp Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 How did you know that he knew that she was cheating on him? Did he know that she was cheating with you?
Author alsk1029 Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 How did you know that he knew that she was cheating on him? Did he know that she was cheating with you? He knows because I have heard them talking about it. He knows that there is someone that she is cheating with, but just doesn't know who it is and to what extent.
Bambi28 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I am not proud of what I have done, but I figured I would post some of these things that shocked me. I guess I don't feel as bad, though, because I think something is seriously wrong with this guy. He knows that she is cheating on her, but he puts up with it! This confuses and frustrates me to no end!! Whether there is something wrong with him or not, no-one deserves to be treated like this, do you not feel guilty about what you are doing to him? If you do get together with her, would you trust her not to do the same to you now you know what she is capable of? It may be best to ask her to make a choice, you or him, she cant keep stringing you both along, its not good for your sanity!
TaraMaiden Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 -Girl has a boyfriend/fiance that lives abroad -Started sleeping with me (. . .) Anyways, the point of this is: Women, watch your man, and men, watch your women! Hypocrite.
PegNosePete Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Hypocrite. Technically - no he's not... http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/hypocrite There was no pretence or feigning of moral values...
TaraMaiden Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 There is in this thread. by virtue of the fact that he's warning others of the kind of things he himself is guilty of, (in the same post!) that, in my book, is hypocritical. Either that, or there is no moral value to be judged. because he has none.
PegNosePete Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 by virtue of the fact that he's warning others of the kind of things he himself is guilty of, (in the same post!) that, in my book, is hypocritical. He does not practise what he preaches. He is the pot calling the kettle black. But neither of these are sufficient to fit the requirements for hypocrisy. A pretence of beliefs or standards is also needed, and he openly admits that he is the very person he is warning others to be wary of. And yes I am being a pedant today
TaraMaiden Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 he's slept with her several times. he claims to 'not be proud of what he's done'. he warns others to not do such things, but has shown no indication or inclination to stop sleeping with this girl. That is hypocritical behaviour., You cannot say you are not proud of personal behaviour and warn others, yet continue with the critiqued behaviour. And yes I am being a pedant today No, really......? me too.....
PegNosePete Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 That is hypocritical behaviour., No it's not, according to the dictionary definition hy·poc·ri·sy [hi-pok-ruh-see] –noun, plural -sies. 1. a pretense of having a virtuous character, moral or religious beliefs or principles, etc., that one does not really possess. 2. a pretense of having some desirable or publicly approved attitude. There's no pretence... he makes full admission that he does not practice what he preaches...
Author alsk1029 Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 he's slept with her several times. he claims to 'not be proud of what he's done'. he warns others to not do such things, but has shown no indication or inclination to stop sleeping with this girl. That is hypocritical behaviour., You cannot say you are not proud of personal behaviour and warn others, yet continue with the critiqued behaviour. I don't warn anyone not to do these things at all. I just said that men should watch their women and women should watch their men. I have pretty bad trust issues these days.
Author alsk1029 Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Whether there is something wrong with him or not, no-one deserves to be treated like this, do you not feel guilty about what you are doing to him? If you do get together with her, would you trust her not to do the same to you now you know what she is capable of? It may be best to ask her to make a choice, you or him, she cant keep stringing you both along, its not good for your sanity! I think that he has to be the one to end the relationship with her. He has the choice to leave her or not, but why doesn't he do it?! He willingly subjects himself to this kind of treatment. I really felt guilty about it, but I came to the realization that he is asking for it! I have also thought about your second point about her being able to do this to me. Honestly, it was driving me crazy up until a few days ago when a switch flipped and I realized that she is not the person I am going to marry. Also, she is very open about telling the people she is with, just like how she told her boyfriend, about the side projects. So, hopefully, she will just tell me so I can leave.
Jannah Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I guess I don't feel as bad, though, because I think something is seriously wrong with this guy. I really felt guilty about it, but I came to the realization that he is asking for it! Methinks, your beef is with this man... It's quite evident since your leopard spots are showing....
Author alsk1029 Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Methinks, your beef is with this man... It's quite evident since your leopard spots are showing.... Honestly, after hanging out with the guy, I think he is a good guy. I just can't figure out why he sticks around after being put through all this?
Jannah Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Honestly, after hanging out with the guy, I think he is a good guy. I just can't figure out why he sticks around after being put through all this? Maybe because you are a troll?
Author alsk1029 Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Maybe because you are a troll? what does that even mean!? Anyways, I don't see how my posts in any way reflect any hostility towards her boyfriend.
TaraMaiden Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I don't warn anyone not to do these things at all. I just said that men should watch their women and women should watch their men. I have pretty bad trust issues these days. Hardly surprising, given that you can't be trusted.....
Bambi28 Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Honestly, after hanging out with the guy, I think he is a good guy. I just can't figure out why he sticks around after being put through all this? Maybe its because he loves her, and thinks living with the cheating is better than not having her at all. Its amazing what some people will put up with in order to be with someone. If it makes you feel so bad & confused, it would be better to break it off and find someone who wants only you, and who you can see yourself marrying, and leave her to find someone else to cheat on this poor man with. Find happiness with a single gal!
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