I'm afraid I'll end up in love with him and he'll start going out with his ex again

[lizita14]

I don't know what to do. I recently started liking a guy from work. He became my friend and we talked and hang out together outside from work. He just got out of a bad relationship turns out his girlfriend cheated on him with his best friend and they all work at the same place. Only I work second shift with him and his xgf works first shift. Hes gonna change to 1st shift this upcoming week and is going to be working the same hours with his xgf. I like him and I don't want to!! I know he still has feelings 4 her but he says he cant take her back cause she cheated on him. I'm afraid he's just hanging out with me and flirting with me because he wants to stop thinking about her...but in the process i seem to like him even more...what should i do?? should i avoid him or keep talking to him??? Im just afraid i will end up in love with him and then he would go out with his ex and I end up hurt in the end...idk what to do...help!!!

[Titania22]

All romantic interractions carry the risk of being hurt. And all relationships are painful sometimes. There is no such thing as a guarantee in the dating game. Even if someone is being completely honest with you, their feelings or the situation can change at any time. If you don't wish to be hurt, you should completely avoid all men, dating and relationships.

 

Otherwise, you just need to decide if future pain is worth what you get out of the interraction now. If it is, enjoy the flirtation and whatever else. If it isn't, don't interract with him anymore. Only you know if it is worth it.

[lizita14]

Thanks for your answer!! You're right i need to find out if he's worth it!! Idk it's all so confusing!!

[carhill]

OP, use the metric of 'if he likes me, he'll ask me out on a date'. If other, not. If another man who catches your fancy asks you out on a date, act on that request.

 

As mentioned, everything in life has risks. Dating someone stuck on their ex is a risk. Pining away for someone who hasn't shown clear interest is a risk. Sometimes the rewards are worth the risks. Only you know the correct answer for yourself.