ShadowU54321 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 What do girls really look for in a guy? I've always been the kind of guy to treat girls with the utmost respect and sincerity. I was taught that way growing up and to be honest I feel like I'll always finish last in the long run because girls seem to be attracted to the jerky/******* type for some reason. Does anyone else sympathize with me?
Author ShadowU54321 Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 Come on guys, could someone please at least attempt answering my question, I know your all better than that
You Go Girl Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Well your question is confusing as to which gender you want to answer the question. First you ask women what they want, and then you ask for sympathy from guys and support in that women don't really want nice guys, but jerks. Women don't want jerks. They are attracted to confidence and charisma. Unfortunately, confidence and charisma are often a big part of players charm. Else how could they succeed at being players? What do women want...well that is as varied as women are. Just like you couldn't answer what men really want, speaking for all men. However if you want a woman with similar values, then screen those important issues in prospects, and lose the negativity that women really wants jerks. It'll go a long way.
Trinity2 Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 What do girls really look for in a guy? I've always been the kind of guy to treat girls with the utmost respect and sincerity. I was taught that way growing up and to be honest I feel like I'll always finish last in the long run because girls seem to be attracted to the jerky/******* type for some reason. Does anyone else sympathize with me? These are the girls you want to avoid like the plague. No, I don't symathize at all, I'm happy that you haven't had to waste your time with toxic. Keep treating people as you should:) and don't loose heart:)
Author ShadowU54321 Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 Thank you for the input fellow loveshackers, I was curious about what women really find attractive in men, but I guess like you said, it could vary from person to person. Sorry for the confusion I would love to keep doing what I do and who knows, I might find a girl that accepts my boyish charm and it could go a long way. I'm beginning to think that I may have too many insecurities
sally4sara Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 One day, about 3 months into seeing the guy I ended up marrying, we were hanging at my new apartment. He was helping me unpack and he dropped something made of glass. I heard it from another room and jokingly hollered "is this some kinda screw it up so she never asks you to do it again tactic?" To which he replied "If I want any lip out of you, I'll peel it off my dick!" Sounds like a seriously jerky thing to say right? I came whipping around the corner ready voice my irritation over his response to find him wearing, as well as a grown man could manage anyway, what had to be all of my son's action figure costumes and holding up my son's sledding disk to shield him from the slap down he expected to be delivered for saying such a crass thing. I couldn't help but fall down in hysterical laughter! It was obvious he said the crass comment it in hopes of getting me to come wheeling around the corner and find him looking ridiculous. He wasn't being a jerk so much as he was being playful. But I'm betting you'd never dream of saying what he said because it would feel disrespectful to you. But I tell you the truth when I say there is a difference between respect and reverence. You give people respect because its the right things to do till they earn otherwise. You revere someone you don't think you are equal to or feel you don't deserve. The reverence is off putting because it holds the imperfect person you pay it to, to a standard THEY KNOW they cannot live up to down the road. Learn to be more playful. Do not learn to be a jerk. There is a big big difference. Sharing laughs is a much better bonding tool than always making sure you give "the utmost respect and sincerity" in every thing you do with a woman.
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