Nothing happened...what, what?!

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My ex and I made plans for him to come over tonight, but after our tiff last night, I let him know tonight is cancelled and not to come over. Im upset and annoyed enough that I decided to do NC, its been a year now since our breakup, nothing has changed, hes still disappointing me and breaking my heart, and enough is enough.

 

Earlier I got a message from him calling me by my pet name, asking me not to be mad, but he has to work late tonite and cant come over, and asked if he come over tomorrow or Tues nite instead. That would have been fine if not for the small detail that I already told him I dont want to see him! And besides that, he only confirmed the inkling I already had when we set our plans that hed probably end up cancelling on me.

 

I dont get it though, the way that he makes pretend that certain things didnt happen, and act like everything is fine. Everything is not fine! Im annoyed, I dont want to see him, and I told him so! He does this all the time too, and I dont get it...for what possible reason could he possibly act like nothing at all happened?

 

The biggest and one of the first....when we broke up last Nov, at the time we had plans for my daughter, him and I to go out to a holiday carnival. I found out he was cheating and we break up during a bad messy angry emotionally charged phone call...before the end of the call he asks....but we can still go to the carnivall right? I flew off the handle again with that one...and creatively told him no we cant go.

 

A couple weeks later, he calls me sounding all sweet as if nothing happened, and asks me if Ill be free to go to the carnival over the weekend...I went off on him and he acted like he couldnt understand why I was acting all upset and didnt want to go with him. Thats the same vibe hes giving me tonight...he knows Im upset and dont want ot see him. Why send me a message acting like we still had a date for tonight and trying to reschedule? That makes no sense to me...

 

Of course Im not going to answer... Id just like some insight here on what is up with that please!!!

[Eternity001]

Could you elaborate on how you creatively told him that you can't go to the carnival

 

I've been accused of this when I was younger (18-20 or so) and rightfully so. At the time at least I just figured she'd get over it, I didn't want to deal with it and my line of thinking was to just try and act as if it never happened back then.

 

Thankfully I grew out of that and realised some people need to discuss things and need resolution, need to be heard and need you to listen, not for it to be swept under the rug. I was/am a pretty relaxed person in general so it was hard for me but I learned.

 

The reason I did it is because at the time at least, I knew I had the power in the situation and thought she'd never leave me so I was under the assumption I could get away with anything. That lasted for awhile till one day about a year later I got home and all her stuff was gone, another lesson I was taught very quickly

 

Basically what I'm saying is that he's not really taking you seriously and thinks you'll cave in eventually I think.

Edited November 8, 2010 by Eternity001

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Could you elaborate on how you creatively told him that you can't go to the carnival

 

I've been accused of this when I was younger (18-20 or so) and rightfully so. At the time at least I just figured she'd get over it, I didn't want to deal with it and my line of thinking was to just try and act as if it never happened back then.

 

Thankfully I grew out of that and realised some people need to discuss things and need resolution, need to be heard and need you to listen, not for it to be swept under the rug. I was/am a pretty relaxed person in general so it was hard for me but I learned.

 

The reason I did it is because at the time at least, I knew I had the power in the situation and thought she'd never leave me so I was under the assumption I could get away with anything. That lasted for awhile till one day about a year later I got home and all her stuff was gone, another lesson I was taught very quickly

 

Basically what I'm saying is that he's not really taking you seriously and thinks you'll cave in eventually I think.

 

Trust me...you do not wanna know what I said LoL! Yeah, Im not even the sort to curse, and I used every curse word I could think of... I probably used them all wrong knowing me. I get irrational and say funny stuff when Im mad Argh!

 

I think youre right though, on both counts. He hates confrontation, and he was SO looking forward to this carnival. So much in fact Im surprised he hasnt already brought up going to the carnival this year yet...though hes already alluded to it that he wants to spend the holidays with me and kiddo. I swear man.

 

And yeah, I have caved...though we didnt go to the carnival until the very last day of it 2 months later in Jan, I still caved and went. And Ive caved other times too...most of the times just cause I felt like okay, maybe Im just being emotional and this isnt that big a deal and Im the one over reacting and hes being the normal level-headed one here. But yannow what? I think not!

 

Hes leaving town this week for a day, and when he gets back has a major event that everyone is coming to...he even has family coming in from out of town. Of course given my mood, the whole eagerness to see and spend time with him before he leaves town is gone, and I dont want to go to the event either...which will kill him. And suck for other friends that are hoping Ill come out to support them. But I really...really dont want to see him.

[Eternity001]

In that case my only advice is to not cave because if he, like me isn't a big fan of confrontation and you do, you ultimately lose and he gets away with being a prick and the cycle repeats itself.

 

I assume it's like bringing up a child, if you spoil them then they expect things and when you don't give them they wonder what the hell is going on. Let him wonder.

 

My next partner after the one I spoke about before was the opposite and at first I thought, this is only going to be a phase, in my young naivity. It wasn't and she didn't back down but was also more than happy to admit when she was wrong. However if she had an issue she would talk about it and if it was serious then she would stick to how she felt and not back down until there was resolution. She always stuck to her guns and to be honest it's far more attractive than a woman who always rolls over and gives in.

 

Not that I'm saying you do of course

 

Some guys just need the tough love, I did. Sounds like this fella does too.

Edited November 8, 2010 by Eternity001

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Dont get me wrong... Im not into confrontation at all. But I dont think that what I was doing was being confrontational. If I say, I dont want to see you, and then he sends me a message completely ignoring I said that, and acting as if our date is still on and nothing ever happened...whats a girl to think or do?

 

Ordinarily, Id reply back and say thats fine considering I already said I dont want to see you...and no I dont want to see you Tues or Wed either. Then he would come back saying how much he really wants to see me, to not be mad, that he loves me, then after some more back and forth, by Wed night Id end up seeing him. Wed have our date as if nothing ever happened, and while Id be sitting there thinking, okay, we're having a nice time so lets just enjoy the moment, deep down Im thinking...but wait, wtf just happened here?!

 

But yeah, I wish I had been more upfront from the get go, in standing by my word so that he takes me seriously... Hes learned that acting as if nothing happened, sort of makes it so. Like the issue we had, whatever argument we had was all in my head and theres nothing to resolve. When in fact the problems is still there...and keeps repeating itself over and over.

 

Hence why Im just not going to respond to him at all. We're not even together...its been a year now. There are times even when he acts like we never even broke up! Last week when someone asked him how we knew each other, he said we've been together over 3 years, but we took a little break and thats why they hadnt met me yet. I was stunned...didnt even know what to say....so its not like he "forgets" a sentence or an argument, he just "forgets" anything he finds unpleasant...even as far as a whole year of us not being together... Baffling!!!

Edited November 8, 2010 by ReturnToSender

[Eternity001]

Sounds like an interesting fella

 

I'll have to go back and read your back story again, I read it yesterday but there are so many to read and I too are in need of some help so I've been reading them all! but am happy to give any help where ever I can.

 

He sounds like he thinks he's got it all figured out, like I say stick to your guns and he'll **** himself if you can hold out. Sounds like he wants to around you but only wants to deal with the positive side of it and when the negative comes he brushes it off, that's the feeling of power he thinks he has, that to be fair, is only there if you give it to him.

 

If you cave I can almost guarantee you'll probably find yourself going through the same in scenario again in less than a week.

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Interesting fella is a really nice way of describing him LoL!

 

Yeah, I dont think he has much of anything figured out. He wants the loving family vibe, wife and kid, easy going fun times which is where I come in, and he also wants the party like a rock star, just have fun without any responsibilities and the excitement and drama that rivals a reality tv show which is where it seems this other girl comes in.

 

I dont doubt he loves me and what we shared together, and I also dont doubt he loved her and whatever they shared together... She and I are practically on two different planets. When I first found out about her and was really down on myself, he got *very* angry with me and said theres no way I can compare myself to her because Im nothing like her, he doesnt want me to be, that Im stable, hes super proud of me, Im an amazing mom with the best kid he could hope for and that Im still the woman he wants to marry. For months after our breakup, he kept bringing up marriage til I blew up on him and put an end to that.

 

Who knows what he told her....but I do know that she referred to him as her husband on facebook once, and when he found out he about had a panic attack, and by the next day she took it down. Who knows. Im sure its over between them but Im not exactly eager or willing to go back with him and act like 2010 never happened, which is what it seems he'd love to do.

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This thread may turn into a lot of me talking to myself, just wanna splay at the moment. I shouldnt even be thinking about him, and I have to say I did really good all day, but for whatever reason as evening falls Im thinking about him, and I cant help but feel so rude for not replying to his last message. All the same, he easily ignored mine and pretended I hadnt cancelled our night together... Still doesnt make it easier for me to do it to him though.

 

Its so silly....I wanna ask him how his nite at work went....if he had a good day...thinking about a meeting he had that I wanted to know how that went...to tell him the info I found out that hed like to hear about which was what I was thinking of when I had asked him to call me to begin with...to make sure things are okay with the fam.

 

I guess its all just excuses, me wanting something, anything, any reason to have to contact him. But, if he wanted to he could have called, or shot me a message, or whatever. Hes not thinking of me, or how let down I was. I have the feeling he had someone already lined up when he broke things off with the girl he left me for, not that I have a definite feeling, just cause I dont know...I guess I can just imagine thats how he would do it. How much could he possibly miss me or want too see or be with me if when it comes to talking to me or seeing me, he can take it or leave it...more more accurately always be too "tired" for it.

 

I miss so much the times when I knew I would hear his voice, how wonderful it was even for a minute or two to say hello and to hear him say he loves me. I miss so much when he didnt restrict me to a text only...about as impersonal as it gets. The only way he could possibly put more distance between us is if he said he has decided to communicate only through postal mail. Actually, come to think of it a handwritten letter is quite a bit more personal and thoughtful than a text message. Well dang.

[Eternity001]

Seriously, this guy sounds like me a few years ago.

 

I've never been a cheater, my conscience is the most powerful thing I have I think nor did I have anyone lined up or was even interested at the time.

 

In my situation I was just comfortable and thought it would never change, we lived together but things like sending a text message and throwing out I love you's was just really keeping up appearances and was horribly forced on my part. I never put any restrictions on anything I just sent the odd message during the day asking about her day to avoid her having a go at me for not doing it.

 

Like I said I just figured she'd always be there and I put minimal amounts of work in to keep her there but we were young and I was her first for most things and didn't know any different. I myself knew we wouldn't be together forever but was content enough at the time.

 

I know it's hard to break patterns of normality and comfort, as in not sharing certain things you think he would be interested in etc.

 

You seem smart enough to know that you do deserve better, like my ex did. He needs to realise that he can't breeze through life stringing people along and just assuming they'll take his *****. Then we they have something to bring up that's an issue he wants nothing to do with it.

 

Luckily I realised this at 21 or so (27 now), I'm not sure where he's at in life but you have to not enable or allow him to take you for granted which is what it sounds like he's doing.

 

Then again I could be way off, in which case you can tell me to jam it

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Nah you are pretty right...except that hes managed to breeze through like this for many years.. Hes 37 now, and Im not sure this is something that will ever change for him. He'll always avoid "bad times" and only want in on when things are good and nice....just pretend nothing happened and hope the other person goes along and begins to believe it too...

 

During our relationship he actually never let up...he always called everyday, was incredibly sweet and affectionate..much of that is why I really never imagined he could or even was cheating up til the end when he started cancelling on me a lot and was sick a lot and had a headache a lot...he rotated those excuses out to much that I was actually worried about him and always pressuing him to go to the doctor Argh!

 

It wasnt until after we broke up and I found out he was cheating that things changed. That I expected of course, but now when hes acting like we're reconnecting, it different. When he does talk to me, when we are together, hes the same affectionate, sweet guy... But its like hes developed a morbid fear of putting a phone to his ear, and for sure, if Im not happy about something, he just pretends it never happened, I guess hoping to diffuse the situation but it makes me even more upset.

 

I know that the girl he was with had a snap temper and screamed at him all the time on the phone...and when out in public Ive heard....they argued a lot, and I dont know, I guess that at the hint of anything that could possibly be an argument he shuts down, but even as i say it I know its rationalizing. Im not her.

 

He admits he was a jerk, he has done, and still does jerkish things, but at the same time, throughout this year he has done some really amazing things for me on a grand scale, and really is still so sweet towards me that I cant really sit here and say he doesnt care about me. Ive come to realize that the reason people keep asking me how hes doing is because he actually keeps closer contact with me than he does even his family, and other people in his life.

 

But at the same time I dont think Im asking for all that much...all we do is text. Its probably been a good 3 weeks since the last time he picked up the phone to call me...besides of course the other night which he only did cause he said I seemed mad, and then pretended he had another call come in to get off the phone with me...I just checked, that call lasted exactly one minute.

 

Yeah he often will text me to see how Im doing and just to chat a bit that way, but Its so ridiculous, perhaps even pathetic to say it would make my week if he called just to say I was thinking of you and decided to give you a quick call to say hi. Its not like I keep him on the phone for hours...I think the most ever really is 5 min, so its not like hes dreading me chatting his ear off or anything. Just to say hi, instead of texting it. To hear him say my name, or actually hear him laugh instead of "haha" in a message. Stuff like that, means so much!

 

Im to the point where I just absolutely hate texting and about to do an all around text ban. Just disable texting on my phone altogether..Id probably never hear from him again if I did that hah! *sigh*

Edited November 9, 2010 by ReturnToSender

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Having said all that and reading it all over... I cant believe Im getting so worked up over a phone call. If he wanted to call he would, but he doesnt and not interested enough to try to knowing what it would mean to me. And Im doing NC so none of that should even matter anymore anyway LoL

[Eternity001]

Point #1

 

Nah you are pretty right...except that hes managed to breeze through like this for many years.. Hes 37 now, and Im not sure this is something that will ever change for him. He'll always avoid "bad times" and only want in on when things are good and nice....just pretend nothing happened and hope the other person goes along and begins to believe it too...

 

 

Point #2

 

Yeah he often will text me to see how Im doing and just to chat a bit that way, but Its so ridiculous, perhaps even pathetic to say it would make my week if he called just to say I was thinking of you and decided to give you a quick call to say hi. Its not like I keep him on the phone for hours...I think the most ever really is 5 min, so its not like hes dreading me chatting his ear off or anything. Just to say hi, instead of texting it. To hear him say my name, or actually hear him laugh instead of "haha" in a message. Stuff like that, means so much!

 

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Point #1

 

Well then he needs to find himself a nice, emotionally broken, super submissive girl, about 10 years younger that will think he's a god and never question him ever.

 

I don't know about you but that doesn't sound very fulfilling to me but that's not for you to worry about. If anything you should have a laugh at how depressing that sounds

 

Point #2

 

The little things mean everything when you don't get them. He sounds like a lost puppy. He really does sound like I was. Every so often I would have a burst of unrelenting love and would do something amazing for my ex. She'd be so incredibly surprised, sometimes cry and be so happy. A week later I'd be shut off again and back to my breezy self and she'd wonder how I can do that one minute then do the complete opposite the next.

 

I was just a selfish prick that took her for granted after awhile obviously but did just enough to keep her guessing. The first couple of years out of 4 were perfect mind you. On the flip side to that though, when someone does things for you, wonderful gestures or surprises. Your partner is then made to realise that you have it in you somewhere to do those things and wonders why you can't do it more often. Or, if you have consistently done it then stop it's a bit of a worry.

 

I don't know if you feel this way but that's how she felt. Anyway she's been in a relationship with an old friend of mine for 6 years now and is very happy so I'm happy for her. I'm sure she took a lot away from the realtionship as I did.

Edited November 9, 2010 by Eternity001

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Yup, that is exactly how I feel. Its not even like he just does little things, the bare minimum and such...he has really gone out of his way. So yeah its incredibly baffling when he runs cold on me. Hes not even being good to me cause hes getting sex or anything LoL we havnt been intimate in forever, we still dont kiss, he does hug and hold me though, and the way he touches me is affectionate and sweet. He tells me he loves me, when we meet whether for a family day, or a quick lunch, he will follow up telling me how wonderful it was and how thankful he is for our moments together....he can really make me melt, and then *poof!* Baffling.

 

I gotta say, for being so independent, Im actually very traditional about relationships, and he is too. Thats all I can really say about that...hah! But yeah I think that cause of how I am, he didnt really think that I would react the way I did when I found out everything, and that I would stay and stand by him regardless. I dont think he realized I had it in me to be as angry and emotional as I got, he never saw that side of me before that...never had to.

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I really appreciate your responses btw Eternity... Usually by now I would have caved and contacted him, but just venting a bit, and having extra stuff to think about has helped me big time in avoiding that One day down! LoL

[Eternity001]

That's alright, I'm dealing with my own crap. I have written an email to my ex which I have been debating sending for 4 days. My friend is telling me as we speak, "just send it!"

 

At least trying to help you takes my mind of it for 2 minutes.

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A bit of deflection is a good thing....!! I found your threads, read them and replied to one of them....and crazily enough just as I was done guess who called me?

 

I was really startled to see his name on my phone and almost didnt answer it but yeah I did. He sounded really quiet at first, Im sure feeling me out to see what kind of mood I was in, then he relaxed and said he really is sorry about not ever calling me, that he really isnt trying to avoid talking to me, he just doesnt talk to anyone on the phone anymore lately, only text, but now that he knows how I feel about it, he'll try to call me sometimes too. We talked a lil bit about this and that, then he asked me out....yeah I caved. Jeez. So we are going to go out for dinner tomorrow night..our first dinner date since Feb. Im both elated and terrified.

 

I could tell he really was exhausted but Im sure he was thinking hes danmed if he tells me hes tired since I called him out on it as his excuse to get out of doing something he didnt want to do, so he was trying to stay on the phone with me awhile and kept thinking of something to say to keep the convo going. So, I tell him its late and he should get some sleep...he apologized again about the calling thing, and said that it really was nice to hear my voice, and that now he realizes he missed talking to me too.

 

Im not holding my breath that this will become a regular thing, but yeah, I do appreciate that he took how I felt seriously and called me. I think it helped too that I didnt reply to his text or contact him since Sat nite...maybe it gave him a lil time to think? I dont know. Ah well...Lets see if we even make it to our date without something happening and it gets cancelled...

[Eternity001]

Well I hope it pans out and he follows through. I sent my email, fair to say I'm ****ting myself now but it's out there.

 

I think I know his mentality, a few days is all it takes before he will start to feel regret and move to do something if you stand your ground.

 

To get a reaction from someone like him is never going to take long if you don't give in easily.

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What did you say to her in the email? Did you decide to reconcile or is it for closure? Whatd you tell her? (Im so nosey LoL)

 

Yeah, he actually cannot stand it when we arent in any contact at all...but hes used to being in total control over how much contact we have since I always get back to him and find it next to impossible to ignore him.

 

I know he really wanted to see me before he leaves town Wed, and suppose he realized he had to call me if he wanted to plan something since I didnt reply to his text message and probably wouldnt if he sent another one. I have the feeling he was holding out til the last possible moment expecting I would try and contact him, like I nearly did earlier tonight!

[Eternity001]

I can just send it to you if you want, it'd be easier.

 

Saves me trying to explain it.

[ReturnToSender]

I can just send it to you if you want, it'd be easier.

 

Saves me trying to explain it.

 

Yeah def...shoot me a pm if you like

[Eternity001]

Seems I can't unless I subscribe. Or post enough to be an established member.

 

Always a catch...

Edited November 10, 2010 by Eternity001

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Seems I can't unless I subscribe. Or post enough to be an established member.

 

Always a catch...

 

Ooooh yeah, I cant send you a msg either. That happened to me too when I first joined. Howd things go though? Did she respond?

 

I just got home from an honest to goodness date with my ex. I hope hes not just saying the things he thinks I wanna hear...though whenever guys do that they tend to fail miserably..and he wasnt.

 

He looked great *sigh* Dinner was really nice, we talked and laughed and well...it was just easy going and great. He let me know all what was going on with work and told me that along with everyone hes worked with, he considers me one of the people he couldnt have done it without, and that he appreciates how through everything the work I put in too.

 

He apologized again for the phone thing, and also for this past year...and he said that even though yeah I fly off the handle sometimes for no apparent reason, on one hand hes just used to it now and he cant really blame me, but on the other he said if the tables were turned, hed be just as bad if not worse, so its not like he can possibly think anything bad about that...

 

Anyway, we just talked..and the whole night was really sweet. Wait...dates are excluded from NC right? Like no where in the guidelines for NC have I read that dates are off limits... Or was that supposed to be a given? LoL *sigh* He let me know that he loves and adores me, a really sweet peck on the lips..well two. And then we parted ways... Of all the dates Ive been on this year, this was the best. *sigh*

[Eternity001]

Haha, smitten Well very good. Hope he keeps it up.

 

I'll post what I sent here, I don't really care so here goes.

 

Small back story, we were due to meet up this weekend past but I didn't hear anything from her after last Tuesday. Because she initiated contact with me the week before saying she missed me, would have stayed with me forever among a bunch of other stuff. I felt if she wanted to see me I'll let her organise it. Now, she has been asking to meet up for 10 months and I have avoided it like the plague. I was kind of looking forward to it this time.

 

Anyway here's the email.... Her name is Emily. Oh and she works with children hence the comment about the kids.

 

Hey Ems,

 

This isn’t a bad email or bitter or anything of the like, I don’t want that with you and I don’t feel that way towards you at all.

 

As you know, recently we didn’t have contact for about a month till the other week when you decided to message me and tell me you missed me along with various other things, which was interesting because I was thinking about you too and there you were. I don’t know why you did it but as I said to you I figured it was just because you were down or simply because you wanted to see if I still care or perhaps you do just miss me. Regardless of what your intentions were, if anything, what you did say just brought up old questions in my head that I didn’t need in there.

 

You asked that we meet up on the weekend just past. To be honest I wasn’t expecting it to actually happen but silently held out some hope this time ( after my initial doubts ) I’m placing no blame on you there, as I have usually been the one avoiding it. This time however I was quite keen, even to spend fifteen minutes with you would have been nice, Lindt make the best hot chocolates that I know of so I thought we could have went there. I was quite excited about it and was looking forward to having a proper chat.

 

The reason I’m writing this is because I, for one, can’t keep doing this with you. This lets meet up then you get over it and disappear or lets meet up and I do nothing about it. It’s been almost a year and there has been virtually no break between you and I, where there is no contact over the course of time we have been apart. I’m asking for this to please stop, Ems, the pointless contact between us.

 

I’m not asking this out of hate or anger because yes, I do still care about you, yes I miss you terribly and ultimately yes I miss having you in my life. I do wish I made a different choice all those months ago because you were always so great to me and sharing a life with you would have been wonderful. I’ll always be grateful for the time we had but like I said to you, I wish circumstances were different but they aren’t and there’s not much I can do about that now.

 

Anyway, I do wish you all the best and wish nothing but the best for you and am very happy to hear that you’re doing well. It’s nice to know at least some kids out there are in good hands. I will always have a place for you and if you ever need me, I will be there.

 

But please, don’t contact me unless it’s positive or you genuinely want to catch up. If you would like to be friends then great, if you would rather have nothing to do with me, that’s ok too. However I see no reason in wasting one another’s time anymore or being negative to one another.

 

I hope you understand.

 

Dave.

 

 

I felt it was very to the point and non provocative.

 

I got a text about 5 hours after I sent it telling me she was sick over the weekend and didn't leave the house. Also that she felt the contact is not pointless and she will never stop contacting me and still wants that hot chocolate we were meant to get. She also said she wants to be friends, other than that I don't really know what her intentions are.

Edited November 10, 2010 by Eternity001

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Wow...thats like the emails I wrote except mine were three times as long and emotionally ridden lol! I dont know, I get the same feeling from her reply as I got from when my ex replied.. that if she really wanted to meet up and was looking fwd to it, she would have at least cancelled...take a moment to say she was sick and cant this weekend but set plans for as soon as possible.

 

I know me...seeing how rare it was to see him, at the hint of feeling sick I would been dosing myself up and doing everything I can to get better while complaining "noooo I cant be sick! not this weekend!!!" and show up in a medicinal induced phase apologizing for looking like death warmed over... anything to not cancel!

 

Im a hard person to ask, cause Im still going through it myself. Like I mentioned, I didnt get my hopes up on last night cause 90% of the time he would cancel on me, and then it would be another 2 weeks before hed come around setting another time to meet up that he would also cancel. The whole while, telling me how much he missed me and that our moments together is what life is about.

 

Confusing at best. Like even after the date last night and how great it went...Im not getting my hopes up...until he makes a regular effort for us to be together Ill be dubious of his intentions. And in your situation, its totally possible too that since you didnt respond to her for awhile there, she could be afraid to really move anything forward wondering if it will happen again. She could have still said something about the weekend and right away set up some time to make up for it though.

[Eternity001]

Possibly, being that I broke up with her however she rightly probably feels she owes me nothing. However since she initiated this contact I felt that she should organised something.

 

Would have been nice to be told she was sick but to be fair, she has been asking me to catch up for 10 months and I have done this to her on countless occassions.

 

I can't blame her for not feeling obliged to tell me she was sick. As nasty as it may sound, I prefer she was sick rather than just catching up with me to see if I still care or something though.

 

As for the email, I made a point of not loading it up with emotion, I sae no point in doing that as I'm not sure why I'm even feeling the way i'm feeling and I know she won't respond with anything similar because she has made it quite clear numerous times that she would rather see me and talk properly than via text message.