fivefive Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 This situation has been confusing the heck outta me. I decided to add my ex on facebook just so she knows that there weren't any hard feelings when we decided to stop seeing each other. I really really liked this girl and I, at times, could have treated her better. We both decided that being with each other was not healthy for us. At the time she was going through a lot of emotional issues that I felt I couldn't help her with. She said that her past relationships had left her "emotionally f***ed up". Now I add her as a friend but I decide not to say anything. No "Hi", "Wuts Up", "How you been". I thought it would be better for me not say anything. Then out of the blue she hits me up saying, "So you add me as a friend but don't say anything?" So I hit her back up saying "Yea srry I've been busy with work and other stuff..how've you been and how was ur summer vacation?" So we talk and catch up a little bit and she tells me to hit her up sometime and gave me her #. She seemed elated when we started talking again. Now I've been wanting to try and work things out again for sometime, so I was pretty happy. So I text her a couple days later, but when I did, she seemed like she didn't care. She gave me one word answers. And then after a few texts she says a few words then says "ttyl". She says this after I say, "Let's hangout sometime." I'm confused about what her motives are for all this. She tells me to hit her up, she seemed happy that we were talking again, and she initiated the contact first when I had originally added her- then when I do, she seems disinterested. What am I missing here?
Seamless74 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I think your missing how long the actual break up process can take and how weird and intermittent contact can be during that time period.. Basically sounds like (and forgive me) your getting horny and dont have a substitute so some part of you is just trying to get laid at the expense of the rational part of you that knew what the hell you were doing and why you ended it...
Author fivefive Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 I think your missing how long the actual break up process can take and how weird and intermittent contact can be during that time period.. Basically sounds like (and forgive me) your getting horny and dont have a substitute so some part of you is just trying to get laid at the expense of the rational part of you that knew what the hell you were doing and why you ended it... No man that's not it at all. I really have thought of establishing a real relationship with this girl. That's why I got so excited was because we stopped talking and then she tells me to call/text her sometime. I thought there was a chance we'd get back together.
Seamless74 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 And im telling you bro it could just have been a fleeting thought in her little brain or she could have been horny too for a moment.. I mean that stuff happens.. I mean you might even get back together for a month or two and then break it all off again... thats what im saying the process is long strange and seldom ends after the first break up.. What you must remember is people get physically addicted to one another its a scientific fact.. I mean your really just weening yourself off of the love drug and the two of you are gonna have relapses... But the more you fall for her **** the more your lowering your value as a man in her eyes without you even knowing it.. Im saying trust your initial reaction and try to move on to someone else.. ITs just because ive been there and done that... its one hell of a learning experience let me tell ya... But no man you go on ahead reestablsh contact waste valuable time off your life fall back in love break up again rinse and repeat and tell me how it all turns out 3 years from now........ married kids picket fence......... I doubt it.. good luck
Author fivefive Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 And im telling you bro it could just have been a fleeting thought in her little brain or she could have been horny too for a moment.. I mean that stuff happens.. I mean you might even get back together for a month or two and then break it all off again... thats what im saying the process is long strange and seldom ends after the first break up.. What you must remember is people get physically addicted to one another its a scientific fact.. I mean your really just weening yourself off of the love drug and the two of you are gonna have relapses... But the more you fall for her **** the more your lowering your value as a man in her eyes without you even knowing it.. Im saying trust your initial reaction and try to move on to someone else.. ITs just because ive been there and done that... its one hell of a learning experience let me tell ya... But no man you go on ahead reestablsh contact waste valuable time off your life fall back in love break up again rinse and repeat and tell me how it all turns out 3 years from now........ married kids picket fence......... I doubt it.. good luck I know what youre saying man. It's almost like i want to take that risk and just see what happens. She was one that got away, and I wish things had gone differently. But obviously she gave me that flicker of hope to only have it disappear.
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