sarahlove233 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I realize I am dating a jerk but, my then boyfriend, got jealous of men attempting to flirt with me at a bar. I continuously turned them down. He got very angry and drank a lot. I took care of him all night. In the morning he sent me a text saying I'm too much drama and that he's done with me. I'm extra upset about this because it's 3 days before my birthday. So my question is..is this his attempt for attention because of his jealously?
bsilmb Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I realize I am dating a jerk but, my then boyfriend, got jealous of men attempting to flirt with me at a bar. I continuously turned them down. He got very angry and drank a lot. I took care of him all night. In the morning he sent me a text saying I'm too much drama and that he's done with me. I'm extra upset about this because it's 3 days before my birthday. So my question is..is this his attempt for attention because of his jealously? awh I'm sorry to hear that I'm 15 btw. in all honesty, I do my best to not get jealous of my girlfriend even just talking to other guys. I can't help it, and neither can most men. we can can control it, but cannot stop the paranoia. it's in our DNA. it helps that you repeatedly turned men down, but I think it took a toll on him. us guys don't do this because we don't trust you, we do it because we don't trust horny guys. it's kinda the feeling we must protect what we love. I think you should talk to him and explain that you want to be with him and aren't goi to just leave him for some cute, flirty dude at a bar. it sounds like he liked you and is just upset about how much attention you get. he fears losing you don't give up on this guy
JohnnyBlaze Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Age does play a factor in answering your question. How old are you two? Guys do get jealous, but more often than not, it is younger guys who react this way. It sounds like you do still have feelings for him, but you need to answer these questions: If you two get back together... ...will guys stop flirting with you?...will your bf stop being jealous?...is it likely that he'll react any differently from this time?...if nothing changes, can you handle having him react the same way every time? If you can honestly answer "yes" to any of these, then call him up. If, however, the answers are all "no", I'd let him walk. My personal opinion is that yes, guys get jealous, but that doesn't excuse his behaviour, not in the least. He may have been afraid of losing you but in his attempt to not lose you, he did just that. If you take him back with no other changes, guys will flirt with you again, he'll get jealous again, react the same way again, and I strongly suspect that you'll get hurt again. Of course, at my age (early 30's), I tend not to have nearly as much patience for such games anymore, so feel free to take any advice I may give here with a grain of salt. Regardless of what happens in the end, I'm sorry. Breakups are always rough, and his timing only made it worse. I really am sorry.
Author sarahlove233 Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 I really miss him, i know he's going to get in touch with me for my birthday. Is it bad I let him know I miss him? My friends all day not to give him the time of day
JohnnyBlaze Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Sarah, it's much easier to give advice than take it, and I'm no different. I can give advice until I'm blue in the face, but you're the one who feels the emotion of the results, positive or negative, so it ultimately comes down to what . If I were one of your friends, I'd tell you to walk away from him. If I were you, I'd listen to my friends and then give him another chance, anyway. Then again, I tend to be a romantic at heart.
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