Chris88 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I'm 25 years old and have spent my life up until now so dedicated to education and career-building (I'm going to be finishing up my PhD shortly) that I just haven't taken the time to date around like most guys my age have. Sure I've had female friends, gone out to lunch together and so forth...but no intimate relations yet. Now that I have more time I'm FINALLY just now starting to get out and do more beyond the books. The thing I'm wondering is, how much time now do I have to find 'that special someone'? Is it common for single women in their twenties, for example, to date guys in their thirties? Or (unless you've got the chiseled face of Brad Pitt!) is the late twenties pretty much the last age at which most single men would have much luck in the dating game? Thanks!
deebeechrisyo Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Single men actually have a very long lifespan in the dating game. I actually hear a lot of people say that the most dating action they have started in their early to mid-30's. If you stay fit and healthy (which I think is pretty rare in the male 30's crowd), you should find your prospects go up as you age. It's very common to see 30 year old guys date much younger girls. I'm not saying to wait, but 25 is still VERY young. I know the "fear" of being single quite well, but it's important to listen to logic and not emotions, and don't settle for less just because you feel like you should be with someone at this point in your life.
Surrealist Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I'm 40 and I can still attract women in their 20s bro.
Titania22 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 All women are different, some like older, some like younger, some couldn't care less about age at all. It's all personal taste and preference. Have fun!
TheMENemy Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Chris88, 25??? Dude you're over the hill. Tough luck. Oh sh*t just remembered I'm 50. dam
TheMENemy Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I'm 40 and I can still attract women in their 20s bro. Relatives don't count.
TheMENemy Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Seriously OP, at 25 you're in your PRIME. The next five years is your time to be banging up a STORM. Just get as much p*ssy with as many different women as you possibly can. Don't be mean, don't be nasty, don't be looking to hurt anyone, but....you want to spend the next few years really banging those chicks like a screen door in a cyclone so that when you finally do meet "Ms. Right" and are faced with the decision to "settle down" you have sowed enough wild oats and are ready to do so.
Author Chris88 Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Thank you all so much for your kind answers! Deebeechrisyo -- that's very, very encouraging to know, and precisely what I wasn't sure of. I like your well thought-out answer. If the peak dating age isn't even said to be until the early to mid thirties, I really do have a lot of time! Surrealist -- well that's good to know, and a sign that you must be quite youthful and in good shape! Titania22 -- certainly nice to know that some women wouldn't be against an older man, or would look at other things first. I like your dragon icon by the way! TheMENemy -- haha, thanks for the encouragement. You make me laugh!
that girl Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I don't think late 20s is the last age where guys have any luck, but then most people date people within 5 or so years of them. Sure, some 40 year olds find a 25 year old girlfriend, but a 40 year old guy is much more likely to be with someone 35-45.
Titania22 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I like your dragon icon by the way! Thankyou, I chose it more for the girl sitting on his head. If my physical form was representative of my innerself, I would look like her. I also see the picture as a kind of relationship with masculinity represented by the dragon. She is protected by the dragon and able to exist in her true form, being joyful and appreciative.
BS76 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I'm 25 years old and have spent my life up until now so dedicated to education and career-building (I'm going to be finishing up my PhD shortly) that I just haven't taken the time to date around like most guys my age have. Sure I've had female friends, gone out to lunch together and so forth...but no intimate relations yet. Now that I have more time I'm FINALLY just now starting to get out and do more beyond the books. The thing I'm wondering is, how much time now do I have to find 'that special someone'? Is it common for single women in their twenties, for example, to date guys in their thirties? Or (unless you've got the chiseled face of Brad Pitt!) is the late twenties pretty much the last age at which most single men would have much luck in the dating game? Thanks! You've got plenty of time. The whole paradigm flipflops when you're in your early 30s. I have more options now than I did 10-15 years ago whereas women are on the downslope. Basically 33 for men is 21 for women. Think about how many guys are offering to buy women drinks when they're young, hot, and whatnot at the bar/club. That's how it is for men when you start getting older so long as you are in decent shape, dress smartly, and have a decent lifestyle. Look at Sean Connery, who's in his 80s, and still has women in their 20s pining for him. Same with George Clooney, Brad Pitt, etc. It's not looks per se, it's being suave, experienced, sexy, etc. and comes from being experienced and well put together and aging well. That's why a lot of women are attracted to the "distinguished" look--it signals all of those positive qualities. Also, women are hypergamous by nature.
Author Chris88 Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Wait...so you're saying the chances of being of interest to the average-aged single gal (i.e. in her early 20s) actually INCREASES as you become about ten years older than that? Wow, I wouldn't have thought that! Is that the impression other people have, too? Thanks so much for replying! And the dragon representing masculinity, protection and respect -- that's an interesting symbolism, nice!
EasyHeart Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 IME, a man's twenties are good for dating variety, simply because most women are still single. But your thirties are the best time for serious dating and relationships, especially if you're educated and even modestly successful. Mid-to-late thirties is your optimal age for attracting those educated, marriage minded 30-ish women. Of course, if you're 35, living in the basement and go out drinking with you boys every night, it's a different story. But you rarely hear relationship-minded women complaining that they meet too many smart, handsome, successful doctors, lawyers and PhDs.
sumdude Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 Good god, you're to young to even worry about this!
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I'll chime in with everyone else and say that as a man, at 25 your best years are really just getting started. Personally (I'm a 23 year old girl) I've always preferred men in their late-20's/early-30's to guys my own age. After 25 you've (assumedly) been out of school long enough to have gained some real-world experience. Experience is attractive in a man (it should be equally attractive in women but for some reason this is not so) and I think you will find that the next 10 years will be the easiest for you as far as dating. Good luck. :]
sally4sara Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I've seen some women go for older men. I've heard lots of insinuation that they might have daddy issues motivating it. Maybe. I've had the reasons to have daddy issues, but I've never been comfortable or attracted to older men. I'm not talking a few years older; that doesn't bother me. But OLDER, even in some instances as little as 5 years, but usually more than just 5 years older. I found myself not able to trust them. I assumed they were slimy. Yup, guys my own age and younger can be slimy, but I didn't find myself assuming it off the bat like I've done with older men. I stopped into a gas station before going out on the town with friends and this OLDER guy looked me up and down, leaned in too close and sniffed . "You smell good!" he said. "You smell old enough to be my dad." And men my age who have approached me thinking I'm younger who grew visibly disappointed to learn I was an age similar to their own - kinda says to me some men trying to work the "older guy" angle are doing so for less than virtuous reasons. Why would you NEED me to be younger if you found me attractive in the first place?
kiss_andmakeup Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 I stopped into a gas station before going out on the town with friends and this OLDER guy looked me up and down, leaned in too close and sniffed . "You smell good!" he said. "You smell old enough to be my dad." that is hilarious. I tend to think that women who go for older men who can *take care* of them have daddy issues. My boyfriend and I are a little more than ten years apart but he doesn't really make that much more money than me and he isn't a "provider" to me. In fact in almost every aspect (intellect, maturity, education, income) we are on very similar levels. And, FWIW, I have a wonderful, supportive dad who has been married to my mom for almost 30 years.
Author Chris88 Posted November 12, 2010 Author Posted November 12, 2010 Thanks, Kiss and Makeup -- that really makes me feel a lot better! So, you actually PREFER men late-20s to early-30s to men who are in their early-20s like you? I wonder how many women would have a similar view -- at least I know now that some do! It's a good feeling to know I've got time to figure out what kind of a girl would really be my match (and I hers -- which would be better for both of us to know!). So it's the experience women like? Interesting -- I would have thought they'd have preferred the experiences to be shared right from the start, a "learning together" kind of thing. But I guess there's always more experiences to be had, haha! Sally4Sara -- that's too funny XD I too don't understand where someone would suddenly find you LESS attrative knowing you weren't the age they hoped (especially considering that you're still quite young). Guys like that would be creepy at ANY age, though!
112233 Posted November 12, 2010 Posted November 12, 2010 Sure, some 40 year olds find a 25 year old girlfriend, but a 40 year old guy is much more likely to be with someone 35-45. I'm mid 40s and my GF is mid 20s. Most of the single guys I know are about my age and date 25-35, but that's not a scientific survey.
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