spengbab Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 So I'm relatively new to the dating scene. It's kind of because of what happened in high school with ugly friend drama and stuff .... well, anyway. I tend to analyze things VERY thoroughly. Like if you were doing a science experiment and now that you've done the fun part with data collection you tend to look at it what it means. But again, I've had really good dating experiences and not so much bad. But alas I'm bound to stumble upon a few bad eggs (not the girls being bad eggs, but just date being bad eggs) or a new kind of beast that I can't interpret. And seeing as sometimes I'm a paranoid SOB I could use some advice on how my date went. If you would ever be so kind to The date was supposed to go originally as planned- a lunch made by moi and then a walk in the park. Lovely walking weather outside too. However when she arrived, she mentioned that she had a meeting at 3, not 4 like I heard it was. So she suggested that we have a long lunch and I agreed. She commented on what I was making smelled really good. So at least that was good. We headed to my room to eat. Conversation was mostly her talking... she likes to talk a lot and I didn't know what to talk about so it worked out fine. She talked about her family, drama going on with her roommate, and other guy friends in her life. We watched some funny videos online and she kept checking her cell phone constantly near the end. At the end she said thanks... twice. Though she said thanks all I did was go, "mmmhmmm" and then said, "So I'll see you again......." starts to say tuesday but I quickly said "wednesday". (I work with her; i stopped by tuesdays but that was when I didn't have classes.) And we said our goodbyes. How would you guys interpret this as? Good date? bad date? average date? I personally think it was pretty bad.. but I don't know... Thanks for reading a chapter typed out by me
xpaperxcutx Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 (edited) Sounds like a fire that hardly even started burning before fizzling out. Edited November 8, 2010 by xpaperxcutx
Author spengbab Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 See and I thought it was a disaster too... but it's like why would she even agree to go out if she did that?
xpaperxcutx Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 See and I thought it was a disaster too... but it's like why would she even agree to go out if she did that? Well that was before the fact. And you didn't " go out" you ate lunch in your room. That's like me chilling with my friend in her room talking gossip. The gesture of cooking for her is duly noted but it hardly holds substance to the fact that you guys ate in your room. Let me guess, you were sitting at your desk while she sat on your bed?
Author spengbab Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Funny, that's what actually happened. I guess my mind was occupied on what to do or what I should have done. But I've had "dates" where I've just invited a girl over and we'd watch movies and it was perfectly fine. But I think it still begs the question. Do you think she just did that to "test" me?
xpaperxcutx Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Funny, that's what actually happened. I guess my mind was occupied on what to do or what I should have done. But I've had "dates" where I've just invited a girl over and we'd watch movies and it was perfectly fine. But I think it still begs the question. Do you think she just did that to "test" me? Look a few factors of inviting a girl back to your room- you're having sexyou're showing off your cool computeryou're just chilling ( ie. eating, hanging out, etc)Even if this was a " date", it's a boring one. If you have to compare this a lunch picnic or just eating spaghetti on a plate in your room, I'd definitely go with the former. It just seemed everything played out against you. Why don't you just call her next time for a more proper, more " exciting" date ?
Author spengbab Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Well she pretty much threw this against a wall... I don't... I don't even know what I would do. I mean, my initial plan was for us to have a walk near a lake. But she said she would be too busy to. So it begs the question, should I even bother with her again. Explain to her that I could have done a better job? When it was kind of her ... who pushed the issue? I suppose we could have walked the trailer right next to my apt but it didn't occur to me at the time because my mind was so damn occupied on thinking how disastrous this was going to be. Oh. P.s. thanks for taking the time to read this crap
TheMENemy Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Dude, the two of you slurping home-made ramen in your dorm room is really not the way to impress the ladies on a first date.
Author spengbab Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 (edited) Dude, the two of you slurping home-made ramen in your dorm room is really not the way to impress the ladies on a first date. Did you not read about the part where I originally wanted to go for a walk but she said we might not make it in time so we shouldn't go for a walk? (she said that when she arrived) and it wasn't homemade ramen. I can actually cook decent food.... And totally meant to say trail... not trailer. :X Edited November 8, 2010 by spengbab
TheMENemy Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Did you not read about the part where I originally wanted to go for a walk but she said we might not make it in time so we shouldn't go for a walk? (she said that when she arrived) and it wasn't homemade ramen. I can actually cook decent food.... And totally meant to say trail... not trailer. :X Yes I read it, you said you were going for a walk after lunch made by you; the only thing that changed was no walk after lunch. Dude I get it--you're an impoverished student. You couldn't afford to actually take this chick out on a real date for a real restaurant lunch that costs real money. I've been there. Chicks still aren't impressed by it, though. Listen chicks are evaluating you on multiple levels. One of those levels is financial. If you don't even have enough money to take them out to lunch on the first date then you better be a super hot underwear model. Are you?
xpaperxcutx Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I didn't say it was a hopeless date, I just said it was a boring date.
Author spengbab Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 (edited) I didn't say it was a hopeless date, I just said it was a boring date. So then what are some fun dating ideas do you think? I'll chalk this one up for loss. Edited November 8, 2010 by spengbab
TheMENemy Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 So then what are some fun dating ideas do you think? I'll chalk this one up for loss. Shagging under a picnic blanket in the park?
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