bassplayertn Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Someone asked me out on a date..... My divorce is not final yet and I am not sure how I feel about that? Do you go just to feel good about yourself? Is that wrong? Or should I keep to myself a bit longer.....
The-Zen-Warrior Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 bassplayertn : Well, this question is a tuffy, my only counter question to you is this! Is this person wanting to go out on a date, just to hang out because they think you might be cool? Or, is this person wanting the date because they see something, like the possibility of greater things to come? If it's just casual, like coffee and conversation at Starbucks, why not then! But if this is going to be something rather more intimate, like "wine & dine & then divine", I don't know, tough call to make! I guess the big question to you is this.....do you feel ready? Do you feel that you are ready to get back out there and throw yourself into the game? If you said "yes", than go for it! If you answer this "no", than probably a safe bet that you should wait a while, until such time that you feel ready for it. And please.....don't worry yourself if your divorce is complete or not, it's a divorce, it's begun, it's in motion, you are now free to do as you please, without the worry of retribution and or retaliation or approval of the soon to be "ex"! Do you what you want, it's your life now, your not living life on a leash, do whatever makes you happy!
LittleTiger Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 It depends on where you are in your head regarding your marriage. If you're ready to move on and the divorce is just a formality then go for it. If you're still 'wishing you weren't getting divorced' then it's too soon. I don't believe in this 'waiting until the ink is dry' business. If the marriage is over, it's over. Once the two people involved have agreed they won't be reconciling (which is presumably why you are getting divorced), then you are free to do as you wish.
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