wicar1 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 (edited) Doesn't it make you furious when women say they are pregnant with an OM child...and they sound like they want their husband to raise it as his own and worse want their husbands parents to treat it as their own grandchild?? I mean do you find it fair?? They sleep like b***** with OM and get pregnant...and once they pregnant they act like saints ..or mother theresa...just because they are gonna be a mom soon.... I think being a mother is a very beautiful and precious thing.... but giving birth to a bastard child ... is not??? that is terrible...... Isnt it disgusting????? or am I over reacting?? PS. same applies to men who cheat on their wives, impregnating OW.... lol Edited November 7, 2010 by wicar1
eamherst14051 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Of course is disgusting and I agree 100% about how the ws then asks the bs to be above the fray and just get over it. BS, BS, BS. It's a child, just like Jesus was.......nope, not quite!!!!
Silly_Girl Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Doesn't it make you furious when women say they are pregnant with an OM child...and they sound like they want their husband to raise it as his own and worse want their husbands parents to treat it as their own grandchild?? I mean do you find it fair?? They sleep like b***** with OM and get pregnant...and once they pregnant they act like saints ..or mother theresa...just because they are gonna be a mom soon.... I think being a mother is a very beautiful and precious thing.... but giving birth to a bastard child ... is not??? that is terrible...... Isnt it disgusting????? or am I over reacting?? PS. same applies to men who cheat on their wives, impregnating OW.... lol The most important thing is that the child is treated fairly and is loved.
desertIslandCactus Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Doesn't it make you furious when women say they are pregnant with an OM child...and they sound like they want their husband to raise it as his own and worse want their husbands parents to treat it as their own grandchild?? I mean do you find it fair?? They sleep like b***** with OM and get pregnant...and once they pregnant they act like saints ..or mother theresa...just because they are gonna be a mom soon.... I think being a mother is a very beautiful and precious thing.... but giving birth to a bastard child ... is not??? that is terrible...... Isnt it disgusting????? or am I over reacting?? PS. same applies to men who cheat on their wives, impregnating OW.... lol Adults cause the sin .. not the precious innocent babies ..
michelangelo Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Worse is when the cheater doesn't even let their husband know the kid is not theirs. Happens a lot. Pretty vile.
SoulStorm Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Adults cause the sin .. not the precious innocent babies .. Fine..then let the 2 cheating adults raise the child
Woggle Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 This is why I am starting to believe in mandatory paternity testing at birth for everybody. If a woman does not agree to it she forfeits any right to support in the future.
desertIslandCactus Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 This is why I am starting to believe in mandatory paternity testing at birth for everybody. If a woman does not agree to it she forfeits any right to support in the future. Chastity Belts ..
Woggle Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Chastity Belts .. No. I am not anti-sex but a man has a right to know if the kid he will be on the hook for is his. 1
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I don't find it disgusting so much as just plain sad - the child gets saddled with the 'sins of the parents' for pretty much his/her whole life. The life of a child in a situation like that is never an easy one if the cat comes out of the bag so to speak. People focus so much on what got him/her here that the beauty of his/her individuality and humanity is shoved to the side.
michelangelo Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Not suggesting the kid be blamed. However, no man should be forced to raise a child that is not his--period. A wife who does this to her husband is just plain reprehensible. A mother who allows such a risky situation for their child is beyond words. An OM who intrudes on a marriage in such a way is disgusting. 1
Author wicar1 Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 Fine..then let the 2 cheating adults raise the child lol.... that is true
Author wicar1 Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 This is why I am starting to believe in mandatory paternity testing at birth for everybody. If a woman does not agree to it she forfeits any right to support in the future. yaa, I agree 1
Author wicar1 Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 I don't find it disgusting so much as just plain sad - the child gets saddled with the 'sins of the parents' for pretty much his/her whole life. The life of a child in a situation like that is never an easy one if the cat comes out of the bag so to speak. People focus so much on what got him/her here that the beauty of his/her individuality and humanity is shoved to the side. yes but let's leave the child aside..... what about the wives who expect their husbands to raise another guy's kids....some go beyound this point and expects the child to be called grandchild by their husbands parents.,... don't you think it's sick and disgusting.....
Silly_Girl Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 yes but let's leave the child aside..... what about the wives who expect their husbands to raise another guy's kids....some go beyound this point and expects the child to be called grandchild by their husbands parents.,... don't you think it's sick and disgusting..... I don't find it disgusting. It all depends on the context. If MM chose to go ahead and make a baby, why shouldn't that baby be recognised as his flesh and blood? Why shouldn't half-siblings know of one another? Why is it disgusting to you wicar? The initial betrayal and infidelity may be heinous... but surely it is possible for adults to deal with the situation from their in a reasonable manner?
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 yes but let's leave the child aside..... what about the wives who expect their husbands to raise another guy's kids....some go beyound this point and expects the child to be called grandchild by their husbands parents.,... don't you think it's sick and disgusting..... I am not a big fan of that sort of deceit or anyone putting a child in that situation.
desertIslandCactus Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 No. I am not anti-sex but a man has a right to know if the kid he will be on the hook for is his. In the olden days when the man took off he could have his wife wear the chastity belt .. He would be the holder of the 'key' ..
michelangelo Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I don't find it disgusting. It all depends on the context. If MM chose to go ahead and make a baby, why shouldn't that baby be recognised as his flesh and blood? Why shouldn't half-siblings know of one another? Why is it disgusting to you wicar? The initial betrayal and infidelity may be heinous... but surely it is possible for adults to deal with the situation from their in a reasonable manner? I think it is perfectly reasonable to keep the illegitimate children out of the family. Tragic? Absolutely, for all involved. Personally, I think adopting the child out is the best course.
bentnotbroken Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Just a really sad situation for all the innocent parties.
bentnotbroken Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I don't find it disgusting. It all depends on the context. If MM chose to go ahead and make a baby, why shouldn't that baby be recognised as his flesh and blood? Why shouldn't half-siblings know of one another? Why is it disgusting to you wicar? The initial betrayal and infidelity may be heinous... but surely it is possible for adults to deal with the situation from their in a reasonable manner? Really? The same adult that dealt with marital problems by having an affair? Seems as if level headed coping mechanisms aren't part of the mindset.
alexandria35 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I think cheating, deceit and lies are disgusting. Children are never disgusting. If my sons wife cheated on my son and became pregnant with another man's baby, I'm quite certain that I would feel disgusted with her at least for some time. But if my son decided to stay with her and raise that baby as his own then I would absolutely accept that child as my grandchild.
Silly_Girl Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I think cheating, deceit and lies are disgusting. Children are never disgusting. If my sons wife cheated on my son and became pregnant with another man's baby, I'm quite certain that I would feel disgusted with her at least for some time. But if my son decided to stay with her and raise that baby as his own then I would absolutely accept that child as my grandchild. If he chose to parent the child but not be with the mother you'd continue to be disgusted by that child?
pureinheart Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 (edited) Doesn't it make you furious when women say they are pregnant with an OM child...and they sound like they want their husband to raise it as his own and worse want their husbands parents to treat it as their own grandchild?? I mean do you find it fair?? They sleep like b***** with OM and get pregnant...and once they pregnant they act like saints ..or mother theresa...just because they are gonna be a mom soon.... I think being a mother is a very beautiful and precious thing.... but giving birth to a bastard child ... is not??? that is terrible...... Isnt it disgusting????? or am I over reacting?? PS. same applies to men who cheat on their wives, impregnating OW.... lol This is a horrible post and thread, I can't believe the verbage used to communicate children....after pride, comes the fall....this is disgusting Edited November 8, 2010 by pureinheart
JAGeezer Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I'm of two minds about it. A man is under no legal or moral obligation to raise or support a child not of his own blood. Still, millions of men have done it because they choose to. I did. They call us step-fathers. The key here is freedom of choice. When the WW had an A, she took away her husband's choices. If she becomes pregnant by her AP and does not inform her H of the child's true parentage she takes away even more of his choices. In the end, for the H, it comes down to honor vs honesty. Which does a given man value more? If a child is new born, or still in my hypothetical cheating W's womb I would have no ethical or moral qualms about cutting both it and its mother out of my life, and doing everything in my power to retain full custody of any other children we had. Bearing another man's child as the result of an A and blithely expecting me to raise it as my own is adding serious insult to already grievous injury. Now, should the dishonesty go undiscovered long enough for the child to bond with me as his/her father, that's another kettle of fish. Honor would forbid me from destroying his/her perception of the situation. That's not to say that I wouldn't promptly boot his/her lying slut of a mother out in the street, because I would. I'd simply never let the kid know why. I never let my own kids know what happened to their mom until a certain sperm donor opened his big fat drunken mouth. Believe me, THAT was a class a number one mess that took a long time to shake out. Here's a case it point on the results of a long undetected OM child planted in a family. It's what led to me haunting these boards. My SIL had an A some 14 years ago now, which led to her getting preggers with her middle child by her OM. Getting pregnant apparently scared her enough to end it. Fast forward to last year when the OM reappeared and filed for visitation rights with his daughter. Something which surprised the total hell out of my BIL. I won't go into the resulting mess, of legal wrangles, failed counseling, and lost hopes. It comes down to this. My SIL "rediscovered her love" for the OM and took off with him for parts unknown. We haven't seen or heard from her in months. As far as my W is concerned she might as well be dead. MY BIL lost his job and spends most of his time keeping company with his friends Jim and Jack. My W and I have custody of their kids. The youngest (boy) and the oldest (girl) are calming down now, but for a while they followed their dad's lead and treated their middle sister like a pariah. The mother seems to see her existence as an embarrassment. And the kid herself, well it's a good thing that we ain't poor, because we're spending a fortune on therapy for her. She sees everything as being her fault. Like her existence is what's wrong with everything and everybody. (snorts) There ain't nobody's hands clean in this situation, but women who pull this kind of crap should read this story and think. Ladies, it's one thing for you to pay the consequences. You have it coming in spades, with compound interest. But does your cuckold kid? Better you cut your H loose, and go to the kid's father, or raise the kid on your own, than saddle a man and child with the consequences of your lies and coldblooded betrayal of your marriage vows for a lifetime. JAG PS...The real irony is that my SIL, my W's little sister, was allegedly absolutely vicious about persecuting my W's then stbXH when my W was divorcing his lying cheating @ss. I wasn't there for it. I hadn't met my future W yet, but family told me chilling stories. The man had to take out a restraining order against her.
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