habs53 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Well, its been 5 months since my ex left. We have been together for 15 years and have a son together. She did all the normal things before she left, new clothes, new hair styles, weight loss. She looks good, but actually she always did. Now i feel like she thinks she is too good for me. Maybe she is correct. I have had a few females interested in me since she left but now i am so insecure i not sure if i will ever feel normal again. I have never really liked myself and always have felt every other guy is better than i.
cozenedindigo Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I think you should consider seeing a good therapist. NOT a psychiatrist -- don't escape the pain by numbing it. You have some struggle ahead of you. It is a long relationship to get over, and you might still be in denial that is really is over. If so, I'm sorry because even reading me, a stranger, saying this will hurt you. But like I said, going through that process is going to be good for you. It'll only take you someplace better. It is natural that you feel rejected in this situation. But your therapist will help you work through these feelings and sort them out for what they really are. Have your self-esteem issues worked on. Maybe it's way too early to start dating again, especially if you end up hurting someone else/yourself. All the best, and let me know if there's anything specific really bothering you. But do consider therapy, and quickly.
davisc123 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Mate, absolutely. But you only feel worthless because you are low and you aren't able to see yourself as others see you. It's understandable you are feeling insecure, but even though you are low in confidence you are still attracting attention from other women. Just try and take it for what it is, don't try and force things and be hard on yourself because you don't feel 'normal' yet. After 15 years of a relationship being on your own isn't normal. You'll take time to adjust, but don't get down on yourself - your ex isn't better than you regardless of what she thinks.
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