iheartsuki Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 If one person in the relationship makes considerably more money than the other person in the relationship, should the person without money be expected to pay for things for themselves when they go out together as a couple (their own food, coffee, movie ticket, etc.), as a matter of principle? Or should the person who makes more pay for the other person, always?
hadess07 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 i believe that if both should offer to pay and not put the responsibility to pay on 1 single person. although i still think that guys should offer to pay most of the time, it will be sweet if she offered to pay sometimes
make me believe Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 If person A makes significantly more money than person B, I think it's nice if they offer to pay more often. However, person B shouldn't EXPECT this, and if person B is planning a date, they should plan according to their own financial situation. So, don't plan a fancy expensive dinner assuming that A will pay.
carhill Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Right now, being poor after the divorce, I only suggest date venues which I can afford, since it is my general prerogative to pay for dates which I suggest. Many women in my age bracket do have higher salaries than my current business income, so I can see the money issue being important to them. Perhaps there may be a few who have weathered the reverses of divorce and understand the temporary nature of things. Until then, it's economical dating for carhill
Gattica Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 If person A makes significantly more money than person B, I think it's nice if they offer to pay more often. However, person B shouldn't EXPECT this, and if person B is planning a date, they should plan according to their own financial situation. So, don't plan a fancy expensive dinner assuming that A will pay. This is spot on.
hadess07 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Right now, being poor after the divorce, I only suggest date venues which I can afford, since it is my general prerogative to pay for dates which I suggest. Many women in my age bracket do have higher salaries than my current business income, so I can see the money issue being important to them. Perhaps there may be a few who have weathered the reverses of divorce and understand the temporary nature of things. Until then, it's economical dating for carhill is it still possible to have an economical date nowadays when everything is so expensive???
carhill Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 An economical date in a very expensive place could be a walk in Central Park in Manhattan. The last date I paid for, earlier this year, cost me about ten bucks, plus tip, at the little hole-in-the-wall Chinese place I've been eating at for 20 years. Great food, wonderful owners and reasonable. They don't care if we keep the table all night. Others might include a picnic lunch in a local park, a bike ride, a cruise to the burger joint in one of my vintage cars, etc. The operative parameter is, if the lady is not on the same page, then I'm definitely not for her. Plenty of other men out there.
hadess07 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 An economical date in a very expensive place could be a walk in Central Park in Manhattan. The last date I paid for, earlier this year, cost me about ten bucks, plus tip, at the little hole-in-the-wall Chinese place I've been eating at for 20 years. Great food, wonderful owners and reasonable. They don't care if we keep the table all night. Others might include a picnic lunch in a local park, a bike ride, a cruise to the burger joint in one of my vintage cars, etc. The operative parameter is, if the lady is not on the same page, then I'm definitely not for her. Plenty of other men out there. well said..gives me some ideas of what to do besides hanging out at the malls and movies which can burn a hole in your pocket..
carhill Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Walking the mall window shopping can be another cheap date. You're under no obligation to buy anything and you can always find another more reasonable and better tasting place to eat. For the movies, a matinee can be a economical date, having eaten prior, so no outlandishly priced theater goodies required. Also, if you wait for a week or two after release, the movie theater might be quite empty, allowing for more 'fun'
Author iheartsuki Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 what if you've already been dating for awhile and are in a steady relationship? should the guy typically pay for the girl, especially if he makes more money?
phineas Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Right now, being poor after the divorce, I only suggest date venues which I can afford, since it is my general prerogative to pay for dates which I suggest. Many women in my age bracket do have higher salaries than my current business income, so I can see the money issue being important to them. Perhaps there may be a few who have weathered the reverses of divorce and understand the temporary nature of things. Until then, it's economical dating for carhill I'm with you. Plus I got kids. Child support is no joke. But the last few dates I went on were mostly free concerts & the cost was maybe $20 for a few drinks. Strangely I've only dated women that didn't drink or didn't drink much. I like to grill so dinner at my place followed by ice-cream works out. Now it's colder. So dinner & a movie at my place looks like my next date. But I actually cook. allrecipies is a great site for easy to make dinners. The drive-in was very cheap as movies go. Double feature to boot.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I think it's more of a give- give situation. Some like to play the chivalrous type and pay for everything, others go dutch.
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