Breaking down a text from the ex, this is what it really means

[Capital P]

Quick story. Dated for a year. dumped her. she stalked me. We started seeing each other. I would sleep with her then break it off again. 2 years of this, she moves away, i chase, she breaks it off. 4 months NC we meet up have sex n get back together.

3 months later she breaks it up again because she got "bored" apparently.

she finds out i lied about my age n was 2 yrs older than i said i was, also she was told i was cheating on her the whole time, which i wasnt.

We speak after 3 months of being broken up, she tells me she has slept with someone n he was crap. She says she wants sex. Texts me a load of dirty texts, i text her the same back n she blanks me.

 

Last night i get this text.

 

"Hi, how are you? Sorry i didnt text back. I have had so much uni work an i didnt want to meet up until i had handed everything in. I understand if you dont want to speak to me. I just want to let you know that i will always love you. Im not drunk by the way. night night"

 

Im really only writing this so people can see the amount of bull**** exes pull. Uni work? puuurlease. She didnt text back for a reason. Im unsure what it was. Probably was because she knew i was going to sleep with her, so my dick was again worthless.

Since then she has seen pics of me out, i saw her friend the other night when i was out. In the VIP, looking hot, with women on me.

and "I will always love you"

**** right off. If an ex texts you this it doesnt mean they want you back, which would NOT happen anyway btw. Im leaving the country soon and have just sold part of my business for quarter of a million. There ain no way im letting an ex slide into that.

What she is saying, i think is this.

 

"Hi, i wanted to **** you but once it was there i again got bored. Now i know you are out enjoying yourself i need more validation. So im going to pull out the "i love you card" If you could say it back to me that would be great. It means i know you are still hung up on me and will make it much easier for me to go throw my useless snatch at whatever loser man will be interested. Oh any by the way. Im very drunk right now."

 

Thoughts please.

By the way, i wont be replying to the SMS

[alimpo83]

I'm living something like that now and I think you are thinking the right way.

I posted some pics about my weekend on facebook,my ex didn't text me or nothing, she just put a "like it" on my thought of the day.She gets out of fb everytime i come in, she doesn't talk with me while on it, but because of me posting great times I'm having, she's done that to validate herself too and see what I'll do. BTW, I'll do nothing either.

[Capital P]

take her off your facebook, NOW

you are making things much worse for yourself believe me

[WTRanger]

I think you need to cut the cord and let her go. Are you waiting for a 3rd chance? Why else would you still be in contact with her? Why else would you not tell her to leave you alone? Do you really want her sloppy seconds? Sounds to me like that useless snatch of hers has you in it's grip.

[Capital P]

Im not waiting for anything. i dont want to text her back because it will open a discussion up or just give both of us the chance to get into an argument.

I'm not in contact with her. We spoke after a few months and like a dick i was offered sex and went for it. Then when i did she pulled it away.

 

i know what shes doing and im happy to ignore it and let her suffer.

Ignoring is much more powerful that giving them anything.

Edited November 7, 2010 by Capital P

[lostsoul27]

We started seeing each other. I would sleep with her then break it off again. 2 years of this, she moves away, i chase, she breaks it off. 4 months NC we meet up have sex n get back together.

 

hahaha! dude, i know exactly what u are going thru. my ex used to do the same to me. when we broke up it was my decision to do the **** buddies thing and i ended it because i realised that it was not working.

 

he started seeing someone else, but told me that NOTHING was going on. of course, i believed him and that got me back into his bed. after on-and-off "ex sex" for a few weeks i was hearing stories about the two of them and i cut off contact completely.

 

when i started having the time of my life...

 

"i'm sorry that i havent contacted you, been really busy with college work. just want you to know that i will always love you, you always have my heart and it should be you in my arms. hope that im around for your birthday"

 

mmmmm...wtf !

 

ur ex DEFINATELY got jealous when she heard about you looking hot at the club with the ladies on ur arms. she wants to be that girl but not willing to make the sacrifices obviously.

 

congrats on that brilliant sms break down, think you did it well. i dig the last part - btw im really drunk right now.hahaha

[WTRanger]

Im not waiting for anything. i dont want to text her back because it will open a discussion up or just give both of us the chance to get into an argument.

I'm not in contact with her. We spoke after a few months and like a dick i was offered sex and went for it. Then when i did she pulled it away.

 

i know what shes doing and im happy to ignore it and let her suffer.

Ignoring is much more powerful that giving them anything.

 

"Accept it and move on without making a fool of yourself or being spiteful."

 

Just man up and tell her to leave you alone, unless you get off on this perceived power struggle. If there is any power, she still owns it. You barked like an obedient dog when she offered the slightest hint of sex. Ignoring her is the cowards way, unless you are still hoping for some ex-sex.

 

Just end it already. Ignoring her will only make her contact you more and I think you know this. I think you want it to happen.

[Capital P]

"Accept it and move on without making a fool of yourself or being spiteful."

 

Just man up and tell her to leave you alone, unless you get off on this perceived power struggle. If there is any power, she still owns it. You barked like an obedient dog when she offered the slightest hint of sex. Ignoring her is the cowards way, unless you are still hoping for some ex-sex.

 

Just end it already. Ignoring her will only make her contact you more and I think you know this. I think you want it to happen.

 

Have text her saying if i ever hear from again ill block her from my phone

 

done.

[Banega100]

Doesn't telling her where to go let her know that she's having an affect on you though? Either way, at least you won't be hearing from her again.

[Capital P]

Doesn't telling her where to go let her know that she's having an affect on you though? Either way, at least you won't be hearing from her again.

 

Dude that is exactly what i said. It gives them the idea you are bothered.

I asked my friend before sending it he said to hold off n think about it a day or so before doing anything, so i stil havent sent it.

 

If i dont send it , blank her, carry on enjoying myself , being out , looking good, moving on and becoming more sucessful. Its going to hurt her much more knowing she spilt her guts and got nothing.

 

Shes going to spend the next 2/3 months looking at her phone while i have the validation that i won the game and shes not over it.

[Capital P]

Actually, i think he is right i do need to text her.

 

"So after treating me like a complete prick for the last 3 months, getting crap sex from someone else you sense that im moving on and decide that you love me. Im sorry your new lover didnt perform but im no ones back up and im well over this."

 

Something like that. **** the thing off and concentrate on my new women

It needs to have a line drawn under it so im not tempted to **** her again.

[Banega100]

Okay man, good luck

[WTRanger]

Telling her to leave you alone sets a boundary. I means you have set a line and you respect yourself enough to stand up like a man.

 

By being a coward and saying nothing, it's a cat and mouse game and better left for high school. She'll continue to contact because by you saying nothing she thinks it's okay, you'll continue to get a chubby because you think you have power over her. Then she'll ask for sex, and all your chest fluffing and posturing will go out the door. She did it once, she'll do it again and you will fold like a house of cards. It's tough to turn down sex, even if it's sex you know you clearly don't need to involve yourself in. Save yourself a lot of trouble and just end it.

 

And for God's sakes, just say it's over.

"So after treating me like a complete prick for the last 3 months, getting crap sex from someone else you sense that im moving on and decide that you love me. Im sorry your new lover didnt perform but im no ones back up and im well over this."

Telling her THAT will clearly show her she's got you by the balls. Just say, "It's time we move on. Lose my number and do not contact me."

[Capital P]

So here is where i am with this.

Ill be honest, i have been tempted to text over the last few weeks. But only to tell her shes a dick for calling me to tell me she sucked some guys dick.

But i didnt, held it together and decided never to text her again, move on.

 

Im booking a holiday with a guy whos my friend and it jus happened he went out with her for 3 years before i did. We fell out because at the beginning of the relationship she was still not over him n spent a night at his.

 

We broke up , got bak a few months later. He had a gf and still has the same one so we speak on n off. Me n him wer best friends before, so her coming into the equation messed it up a bit.

 

Today i went to see him to book the holiday and he said. Have you spoke to X lately. I said she broke it off, she said shed slept with someone so i didn want to speak to her anymore ( bad move really but i was so caught by surprise )

So then he said "Yea well u were cheating on her anyway werent you"

Then goes on about how hes been talking to her lately.

 

So from what i can see, shes back speaking to him, and shes told him , and still thinks i was cheating on her. I wasnt by the way, but another of my friends who was trying to **** her told her this.

 

So im going to tell my friend i dont want to go away with him. I dont want that **** in my life. I cant really see her sleeping with him but i know hes a weasal and would drop me in it if he could.

 

I want to tell him im not going but dont really want to say its got to do with her, because hell just tell her probably.

 

on the other hand, tbh, i dont give a **** what she thinks. If im not comfortable going, ill tell him why , whatever she thinks aint my problem.

[brown03]

See iunno here man that really sucks. OK didn't you say that you wanted to get this chick back? Cause this guy is ****ing it up for you i would say punch him straight in the mouth. But on the other hand she will now be very curious as to if you actually cheated or not which means she will be thinking about you. But depending on how well she trusts him it could be very bad for you. Is there another chick or someone you know that talks to her?

[Mme. Chaucer]

If you don't like this, then stop playing YOUR roles in the ongoing game. You are just as responsible for this dynamic as she is. Stop it.

[Capital P]

I dont want her back tbh. Im just deciding wether i meet up with before i leave the country to clear the air, or just **** her off completely and never speak to her again.

Yea, thing is, he was going out with her before did , so there isnt a lot i can say to him about speaking to her. And i dont want to tell him to **** off, because he will just tell her.

I'll probably just draw a line under it and ignore both of them

[Capital P]

If you don't like this, then stop playing YOUR roles in the ongoing game. You are just as responsible for this dynamic as she is. Stop it.

 

Sorry , what?

I have been nothing but cool since she broke up with me. I got one text out the blue so i went NC. A month later i get **** for lying about something, i ignore it. Then i get an I love you text, i ignored it.

 

Whatever ur problems with guys are at the minute, dont bring it over here.

Im hardly game playing, its pretty much impossible to do that when someone breaks up with you.