nice-easy-day Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 So I'm in a short term relationship with this girl who I feel isn't that into me. She says she is but I don't see it. It's the classic friend zone or stringing along IMO. I keep hoping, hoping, hoping but and with each day comes he same thing. Anyway, we both told each other we are not seeing other people but I feel like I really want to move on and start searching for love somewhere else. Thing is, I do have feelings for this girl and would be willing to be friends or perhaps pick it up again at a later time. So I'm not looking to slam the door on her but at this point my efforts have failed. So what is the right way to go about breaking off the relationship and moving on?
Fern Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 If you have feelings for her you won't be able to be friends for a while. Until both of you are over those feelings. And if she has feelings for you, stringing her along with a promise of 'in the future' is just cruel.
Author nice-easy-day Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 If you have feelings for her you won't be able to be friends for a while. Until both of you are over those feelings. And if she has feelings for you, stringing her along with a promise of 'in the future' is just cruel. I understand. I thought about it a lot and I'm just going to let it go on for another couple weeks or a month to see where things go. It might not be easy for me but I believe she is worth it. Sometimes you just have to let your guard down and be willing to find love. I'm willing. If it doesn't happen then I move on.... been there, done that, and I'll survive.
PratyekaYana Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Anyway, we both told each other we are not seeing other people but I feel like I really want to move on and start searching for love somewhere else.Is there perhaps a middle road possible here? You don't want to completely forsake her as a potential mate, but you're also starving for the sense of connection that comes with being in a relationship of that nature with someone. Would there be any repercussion from you establishing an open relationship with her? At least in that scenario both of you could explore what might blossom between the two of you but also limit that "I'm hanging on, exclusively, to you for something that might never be" syndrome.
Author nice-easy-day Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Is there perhaps a middle road possible here? You don't want to completely forsake her as a potential mate, but you're also starving for the sense of connection that comes with being in a relationship of that nature with someone. Would there be any repercussion from you establishing an open relationship with her? At least in that scenario both of you could explore what might blossom between the two of you but also limit that "I'm hanging on, exclusively, to you for something that might never be" syndrome. What I'm afraid of is going to her and saying that I want to date other people only to find out that she ACTUALLY was into me. That would make me look bad wouldn't it? It would send the signal that I'm not really into her that much when actually I'm totally into her. *sigh*. I guess I'm just going to have to give it some more time and let her string me along a little more until I get a feel where things are going.
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