SithLord Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Fellow LS readers, I wanted to discuss time and the future. As I write this I am experessions my raw emotions that one day the girl I left returns back from her X boyfriend and her dumb rebound. It stung when she told me she was no longer in love with me, but wanted to Best friends, after 3 years together. Back to time, lots of us have 0 patience to let "time" run it's course, because we as humans want instant result.. I want my ex girlfriend to return for what? When I originally left it and shouldnt matter! But the voice in my head tells me let time do it's thing, why? Because of our past experiences and outcomes. Whether an ex comes back or not, it will not be when you want it! I can keep going with this, but I want my fellow LS readers to add to this..
Gt.ooh Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 (edited) I agree with the time. We do have to realize that time ultimately will allow your life to move forward. As I've said in the past, while we're going through this.. Decide if your okay with a rebound, if not then take your time, a lot of us miss the physical. Get it taken care of and for some it's half the battle. Indulge in an activity or hobby DO NOT contact Do something to release anger, anxiety, resentment, sadness...Whether u want to gt the gun range and shoot a couple rounds, go dirtbiking, whatever it is find it and DO IT! Stay strong LS'ers. Edited November 7, 2010 by Gt.ooh
Tincup Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I don't know if I am going to add to this or not...I am about a month into our breakup, and about a week into NC. During this time (and ESPECIALLY the past week) I am seeing more clearly the red flags of our relationship. For starters she was still married (although separated for 7 years and NOT getting back with her ex). Her mother died when she was 3. Her father was emotionally abusive, and was physically abusive somewhat. She told me she loved me after about 2-3 weeks (yes that is a red flag). So back to time...time is making me see things more clear (EVEN though I DON'T want to see that). I want her to come back to me...But if she did come back NOW I don't know what I would do...Do I still love her? Yes. Can I make a life with her? I think, so long as SHE is willing do deal with the issues from her past. She has tremendous abandonment issues (not MY problem, although I would have done anything to help her through these issues). So time is actually adding to my dazed and confused state...I am sure tomorrow I will have another view as my roller coaster ride will continue. This is hopefully what time will give me...time to get off the roller coaster ride. I KNOW there are women out there that are compatible with me...I don't think I am going to go "looking" for them. I think I just want to live MY life, and hopefully one will want to share it with me..
strength-abounds Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Sithlord, The beautiful thing about time is that it allows an individual to self reflect about a relationship and its subsequent ending. When an individual takes time to surmise the relationship, he/she will gain insight on whether the relationship was bad or good. In doing this, an individual will see and understand if a second chance would be possible. In other words, you're right brother. I don't think time heals all wounds. Time covers up the wounds with scar tissue so we can be stronger than before.
Author SithLord Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 Yeah we have to let time run it's course and allow loves ones to find their way back. It shouldn't matter at the end. By the time the justice we want as humans beings come, it doesn't matter. I want my Ex now and the near future im not going to care.....but all I know is that I'm gone out of her life to see what those 3 years meant to her. Eveything is sweet in the honeymoon stage.
durkadurka Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 The hardest part about time is that it facilitates the admission that the person you loved for such a long time is not the person you thought they were. Somehow that leads to the feeling that you aren't a good enough judge in character. But for the most part, I agree.
Author SithLord Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 Going to go low key and disappear into the night!
thatsonlyme Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Sometimes people just meet when they're not ready, maybe they're just too young. We all grow up and change and if love was real I believe there is a chance of getting back together years down the road. Most of the time people will find somebody else and settle down in the meantime, but 5 or 10 years from now if both you and your ex meet and you're both single at the time, there is a possibility of rekindling a romance. Remember, something attracted you to each other in the first place! Somehow, somewhere things have gone wrong, maybe one person wanted to see what else is out there or there were serious life issues that made one person distant (like in my case), but once all that is forgotten there is always a chance. It's probably not common but I've heard stories here and there about people meeting each other after many years and realizing they still love each other. Of course, I'm not suggestion anyone to sit and wait, I'm just saying we take words "forever" and "never" too lightly! Not eve a year ago my ex was saying that we'll be together "forever" and she would "never" leave me! Well, she left. Then she said we will "never" get back together. Kinda hard to trust her on this one
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