In committed relationship, found out my was flirting and asking other girls out??

[Ms. Jackson]

We had a commited long distance relationship, and we moved together for two months. I found out my guy had a keylogger installed on his pc for when I use his computer, and when I checked, it was also showing what he wrote. I saw he was flirting with other girls, telling them cute little nicknames that I thought were special and just for me.

He invited himself to the house of one of the girls he went out with in a group (he says) while together with me. I know he went out with ther because he told me himself about that.

I saw he was asking another girl to go out with him for the weekend while I was working, and that he was asking one of his male friends to bring some girls to go out, for them to be in couple (one girl/one guy).

I was very shocked to see this, as I had not expected it.

I feel one of the other girls, and not someone special. I doubt his feelings and everything that he has ever told me. I doubt that he loved me as a matter of fact, as my personal belief is that when you love someone you don't engage in this sort of behaviour.

I feel very sad, as I wish things weren't this way, and I feel that since I saw that on his PC, something is broken and not the same, and it will never be the same, maybe the bond between me and him.

As I told him what I know, he started to hug me. I hated for him to touch me so since he wouldn't let me go, I started to bite him. I told him he means nothing to me, that he betrayed me, and that he disgusts me with what he did, that I don't love him anymore, and I don't want him anymore. He started to cry.

As I was remembering what he had done, and how nice he was with those girls, while a lot of times treating me badly, jundging, labeling, and the sacrifices I had made so I can financially afford to see him( I was working, he is a student), I felt exploding with rage and started to hit him with my fists, but he still wouldn't let me go. I'd remember the times when I'd call or message and he wouldn't answer for hours, or his phone was closed and then he would tell me he was studying or sleeping.

I wish I could just erase what he did, but the truth is that it happened, and it hurts me so much.

I wish our relationship could go on like nothing happened, but I feel something has been broken and that I can't get back toghether with him like I used to be.

I live with him, and don't know if I can afford to move, as I have no job, so I'd have the time to think things through. I doubt our relationship will ever be the same about this.

[PegNosePete]

Sorry for your situation. Its not nice.

 

You've only been living with him for 2 months, can't you go back to your previous situation? How did you afford to live before moving in with him?

[Ms. Jackson]

Sorry for your situation. Its not nice.

 

You've only been living with him for 2 months, can't you go back to your previous situation? How did you afford to live before moving in with him?

 

My uncle has been helping me out financially, but it's barely enough for me, even if I share expenses with my boyfriend.

 

He says he only went out with one girl in a group, but he didn't go out with other girls, but I don't believe a word. When I remember him inviting himself at some chick's place or inviting another to spend the weekend, or telling his male friend to get some girls for them to go out with, it makes my feelings cold and I feel I never want to see his face again. I mean they were from his own city, for crying out loud!! Why would you invite out someone from your city (and thus accessible) if you weren't really planning to go out with them?