Dante311 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Ladies and gentlemen of the jury. This weekend, I learned my lesson. I am Bananaboat11 for those of you who remember me. I had a terrible break up with my ex, Nicole... 9 - 10 months ago. I sulked on LS for months and there were a good number of you who helped perk me back up. First... many thanks. I am pretty much back to where I was prior to meeting her... nearly. which is nice. But about 3 weeks ago... she contacted me. 2 days later... I responded. We then had a conversation. I offered her a chance to make it up by giving her my phone # to call me so we can chat about things. Never heard from her... don't think I will. I basically fed her ego. Her intentions, I thought/hoped, were selfless... but instead they were selfish and narcissistic. She's living her life with her new beau... and here I am in grad school.. miserable... alone. I fed into it... she **** talked me after we broke up... she was selfish (and I partly was too)... go read my story if you feel like blaming me. I know every side has their perception, but I will swear on my life... and my grave... our breakup... the girl was evil. In her recent apology to me... she admits she was and feels awful. but she still has no intent of anything with me... ever. not even a friendship. Yet, I still have feelings for her. It sucks. Selfish bitch. I have 5 women interested in me... two of whom have professed their interest/attraction to me. They're all good catches, too. I however, have no interest. Because of Nicole. I can't get her out of my mind now since she contacted me... ...and I have confidence. I'm tall and I'm told I look like a cross between Daniel Craig (from Defiance/James Bond), emimem, and the lead singer of linkin park - chester bennington. Which is flattering. To sound conceited online.. I have so much in my favor and I thank god every day for the blessings I have... and all I want is someone I can never have... nor should have. She's toxic. She destroyed my heart... my soul.. and my ability to love. When an ex contacts you... I'm fully confident.. it's about THEM. Not you. If you must respond... do so. But don't feed into their manipulations. They should have to do EVERYTHING you'd do to get them back, for you... show up at their door crying... pleading... they dumped you. They should WANT to make it work. Remember, they left. They have the problem... with you or about you... or themselves... they need to want to be with you. If they don't? **** 'em... you can do better. You deserve someone who wants to be with you because you're special. Don't let an ex suffocate you... shatter your emotions... and destroy you dreams.. *sigh*
Eternity001 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 (edited) Sucks dude, I feel for you. I was the dumper in my situation and it wasn't ugly like your situation sounds but, I can't be with anyone yet either, I tried, worked for awhile then the ex contacted me a week ago. Said she missed me, wanted to catch up and that she would have stayed with me forever. I agreed told her I missed her too. Haven't heard from her since... Can't make any sense of it really but I can't get her out of my head either. Been 10 months but it feels like yesterday. The girl I was with for 5 months up until last week was a great catch too but my head wasn't in it and couldn't do it anymore. Edited November 7, 2010 by Eternity001
Author Dante311 Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 sorry to hear that man. OOC: would it be bad to block her on fb now?
selena_cat Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 You are so right,when they contact you which mines did,and soon as they dont like what they hear,off he goes. jerk. I know this may take time and i'm sure yourre thinking,she's having a great time with her beau and you're alone and miserable,its hard to not think that way,really i know. its time to be selfish,positively. go out with these women and at least hit one of them. Its bad talking like this as a female,but hey time to take care of you,but be nice. No need to be like the selfish ex.
Author Dante311 Posted November 9, 2010 Author Posted November 9, 2010 You are so right,when they contact you which mines did,and soon as they dont like what they hear,off he goes. jerk. I know this may take time and i'm sure yourre thinking,she's having a great time with her beau and you're alone and miserable,its hard to not think that way,really i know. its time to be selfish,positively. go out with these women and at least hit one of them. Its bad talking like this as a female,but hey time to take care of you,but be nice. No need to be like the selfish ex. Thanks I blocked Nicole on FB again. I've been sleeping with one woman... and dating 3 others at the moment.. and I've been asked out by a girl I dated earlier in the year... so I don't have trouble getting women. The one I want? I don't know... heh... I feel like a whore. and I feel bad.
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