NickelbackFan Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Went on a date tonight from a woman I met on an internet dating site. We went out for dinner and drinks. We hit it off, chemistry sparks the whole nine yards. We wind up back at her place and things get hot and heavy. We have sex, she cums five times, rolls over and leaves me hanging. An hour goes by, nothing. So, I put my clothes back on and tell her I want to leave. We get into a huge fight via texting on the way home because I called her selfish. I mean she stopped mia mid coitus and just rolled over. Who does that ? I mean she came five times, I have a high sex drive but who just stops like that. I went limp and just held her. No further sexual action was iniated. Do I have a right to be upset ?
musemaj11 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 You probably took forever and she was sore.
spiderowl Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Five times? That's impressive, though you might be misinterpreting that a bit. That aside, in your situation I'd certainly feel aggrieved. In fact, I've been in your situation with a guy and it's no fun, is it? He got a second chance (to be sure he wasn't particularly exhausted that night) and that was it. I felt too annoyed to want a relationship with him. I do think both 'partners' should look after each other and make sure the other person has what they need and that they are not going to sleep frustrated. Some guys will claim that they just fall asleep after orgasm and it's not their fault, so I suppose this could happen to women too. But I would just say 'to hell with that'. If they can't cope, then they don't have the qualities I'd need in a guy, so I'd end it. I would say you are justified in feeling neglected that night.
welikeincrowds Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I can't say that I agree with your tastes, NicklebackFan, but I think you have a right to be moderately displeased. It's one thing to be bad, but it's another to be selfish. However, I think this problem was mishandled. I know I don't have the full story here, but from what it sounds like, you put your clothes on and said you want to leave instead of addressing the real problem with her. That was passive aggressive of you. And you should have talked it out in person, or at least over a phone call. Nothing good ever came out of a text message fight. That said, considering you apparently just met that night, I guess there's not much you can do. You can't hope for someone to act selflessly if they're still a stranger to you. So, tough luck bro. Next time, don't be so hostile. If you had reasoned with her instead, you may have been able to cum that night. Also I'm wondering what she would say about this story. "Cumming 5 times and then rolling over" doesn't sound too believable, I'm sorry to say. Maybe she was chafing?
TaurusTerp Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Sex hurts after awhile, dude. And as is the advice with women - you are partially responsible for your own orgasm. How long were you going for? And you couldnt come?
Insanitylater Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Amazing all the stories on here about people having sex the first night they meet from online dating, and I've emailed over 150 women so far, without 1 of them even responding.
Surrealist Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Well she ****ed you on the first nite, guess it comes with the territory mate.
Author NickelbackFan Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 Not to rude or disgusting or vile, but yes it was five times, she is a squirter and all five times she squirted. I am not passive aggressive. She knew I didn't climax and if I have to discuss it with her that this is the case in bed, that will kill the mood even more and appear that she would be doing out of pity and not because she wants too. Sorry to say, chaffing was not the case, she was wetter then Hurricane Katrina so nothing was dry. There are certain unwritten rules on bedroom behavior and that was downright rude. The funny thing is she touted many times via the telephone that she had a super high sex drive and no man can keep up with her. I have no problem cumming, but due to my stamina it takes me a good 45 mins to cum. And to blame it on me ? I have been in situations before similiar to this, however the other person did the right thing and either finished having sex with me or did oral. I am not saying this girl is relationship material because I dont think she is, but what she did really upset me and pissed me off.
Crazy Magnet Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 An orgasm is not your right, it's a privilege. Maybe she got bored. Maybe you weren't as great as you think you were, maybe she had drinks and was tired? There could be a million reasons. I think you handled the situation poorly. I bet there is another side to this story that we aren't hearing.
carhill Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Random sexual meeting resulting from 'chemistry' and 'sparks'. Next time, forgo stamina for a quick ejaculation. Let go, selfishly. With your high sex drive, resolution is brief and you can make her wait for more or preform cunnilingus while you resolve. To me, in this particular circumstance, each partner is responsible for their own pleasure. You still could've had yours any way you wanted, if you had been bold enough to take it. The good news is you didn't get stood up for dinner, so an improvement over the last thread of yours I responded to. Good work!
Author NickelbackFan Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 I don't believe this to be true. It was her birthday. I took her out for dinner and drinks. She climaxed five times so her being bored seems very unplausable. I think its safe to say that climax is expected with sexual intercourse with both parties. I am telling you what happened. She didnt really have an excuse, she said she was done. So, I surmise it was all about her.
Author NickelbackFan Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 Random sexual meeting resulting from 'chemistry' and 'sparks'. Next time, forgo stamina for a quick ejaculation. Let go, selfishly. With your high sex drive, resolution is brief and you can make her wait for more or preform cunnilingus while you resolve. To me, in this particular circumstance, each partner is responsible for their own pleasure. You still could've had yours any way you wanted, if you had been bold enough to take it. The good news is you didn't get stood up for dinner, so an improvement over the last thread of yours I responded to. Good work! Carhill, I adapted and saw she was enjoying it, so I let her have fun, seeing a woman cum is exhillarating. I was so very close to cumming when she hopped off, it was maddening. But then what do I say, um get back on Im going to cum ? Just frustrating. Thanks for the advice though.
carhill Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 You take what you want, exactly how *she did*. I don't care if that's cumming in her hair by your own hand or pulling her back and saying 'nuh, uh, we're not done yet honey'. Do what you *want*. I was married to a woman like that. She taught me well
Author NickelbackFan Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 You take what you want, exactly how *she did*. I don't care if that's cumming in her hair by your own hand or pulling her back and saying 'nuh, uh, we're not done yet honey'. Do what you *want*. I was married to a woman like that. She taught me well She just hopped off without explanation and turned the other way ? I thought women like guys with stamina. I guess I was wrong. Funny thing I didnt even initiate this sexual encounter it was all her. I wanted to leave the bar and go home and I walked her home.
lostsoul27 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I have no problem cumming, but due to my stamina it takes me a good 45 mins to cum. And to blame it on me ? I have been in situations before similiar to this, however the other person did the right thing and either finished having sex with me or did oral. you made her cum five times in less than 45 minutes? that is well worth her while. she should have sucked you off or even given you a hand job or something. but in her defense, did she know that you take that long to cum? because if you guys were going at it, and she came 5 times, and you still hadnt, perhaps she thought that you have a problem with cuming.
Author NickelbackFan Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 I don't have a problem with cumming this is where you and others are misunderstanding. I am not a selfish lover. I love to see the woman enjoy herself first and if she comes I will continue and let her do it again. I was on the verge of cumming when she stopped, for no given reason. With no explanation and then blame it on me ? Even if she said dude you sucked in bed as much as that would of been hurtful I would of accepted it.
carhill Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 It's OK to be a selfish lover once in awhile.
Author NickelbackFan Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 It's OK to be a selfish lover once in awhile. Well it was her birthday and I wanted her to have a good time, little did I know this was the outcome. I am very upset Carhill. I feel like telling her off. But I think that I have to let this go.
carhill Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 At this juncture, I'll offer some advice I once received from my best friend, a very wise man. The first person who talks loses...
D-Jam Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I think one shouldn't sit there "expecting" flawless sex the first time they are with somoene. I remember women I've gotten into bed with and I had problems or they had problems. Most of the time it's just because we were not totally in-tune with one another and that takes time to happen. Some of these women ended things shortly after, requiring her man must make her cum quickly and well. Others stayed the course, and after 1-3 "eh" or even "bad" sessions, things got amazing. I still think if you need 45 min to get there, and the other person ends up cumming 5 times...then perhaps one should wonder why it takes them so long. This isn't a race to last, but a quest to pleasure one another.
Author NickelbackFan Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 I think one shouldn't sit there "expecting" flawless sex the first time they are with somoene. I remember women I've gotten into bed with and I had problems or they had problems. Most of the time it's just because we were not totally in-tune with one another and that takes time to happen. Some of these women ended things shortly after, requiring her man must make her cum quickly and well. Others stayed the course, and after 1-3 "eh" or even "bad" sessions, things got amazing. I still think if you need 45 min to get there, and the other person ends up cumming 5 times...then perhaps one should wonder why it takes them so long. This isn't a race to last, but a quest to pleasure one another.[/QUOTE] This is what I mean isnt sex pleasuring one another and shouldnt be one sided ? I see no problem with my stamina. I dont know why others are seeing that as a bad thing that it took me that long to cum.
Star Gazer Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 An orgasm is not your right, it's a privilege. Maybe she got bored. Maybe you weren't as great as you think you were, maybe she had drinks and was tired? There could be a million reasons. I think you handled the situation poorly. I bet there is another side to this story that we aren't hearing. Agreed. Plus, you f*cked on the first date. Maybe she figured you were each gonna just "get yours." She got hers, and couldn't be bothered to get you hard again after you went limp. Meh.
HeartOnSleeve Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I agree...an orgasm is not a right but a privilege. Sucks she left you hanging but was/is it really worth it to be this upset about it. I mean...how long have you known her? If the chemistry isn't there than I'd say it's done. Good luck!
Author NickelbackFan Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 Agreed. Plus, you f*cked on the first date. Maybe she figured you were each gonna just "get yours." She got hers, and couldn't be bothered to get you hard again after you went limp. Meh. Gee lets a examine why I got limp. Such a typical response from you. Always siding with the female.
VeveCakes Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 It was late, she was drinking, she came 5 times....dude she was probably exhausted. You said she hopped off too so she was on top doing all the work? 45 minutes is long, especially when it's the first time with someone and you've already cum. I don't see why you didn't go either.
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