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So, I thought she was afraid of commitment, but turns out she is falling for me :)

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BACKGROUND STORY: hi, so I met this girl at homecoming about a month ago. it turns out she's partially deaf but can hear just fine with cochlear implants. we texted for hours and hours and hung out a few times at football games since then. tonight she came to the game and about halfway through, I asked her out. she said yes and asked what I'd like to do first. she mentioned movies, dinner, something like that. so what exactly should I do? I'm pretty sure it will be just me and her, but there may be a friend initially. so she's getting her license soon. I just need good advice on dates, and when to start kissing and being more intimate. we hug on a regular basis, but I'd like to hold her hand and things like that. any advice would be wonderful, thank you!

 

so we've texted every day for at least 3-4 hours a day, never really running out of things to say. I tell her how pretty she is and stuff of that sort(I mean every word of it)

 

yesterday we hung out all day. we cuddled around a fire, then cuddled while watching paranormal activity (I had my arm around her, we were really close, like kissing distance)

 

NOW: so last night, she was telling me halfway jokingly how we are dating but not technically boyfriend and girlfriend. I was feeling pretty sad, cuz I was under the impression we were starting to get serious. SO I went to the mall with her tonight hoping to salvage that, somewhat apprehensive. Anyway, things went great. I show up, we hug intimately, i buy her dinner, the convos became very easy and things felt so natural and nothing forced. I felt like there was really some chemistry. Then we go to the movie and immediately after sitting down, she starts to put her drink in the cupholder on the arm of the chair between us. She then moves the drink to the opposite chair arm and leaned on me to cuddle. SO we cuddled pretty closely the entire movie. I didn't realize til about halfway through that my hand had been on her butt kinda, but she didn't mind so I went with it. Her head was on my chest and everything felt so wonderful. I kissed the top of her head twice because she'd kinda brush it closely to my head. I never kissed her on the lips because the timing never really seemed right and its not a thing a wanna rush. It would be my first.

 

Though we held hands when walking, and she hugged me about 5 times, very romantically and slowly. Things couldnt have gone better, but they did.

 

After she left, i was there waiting for a ride with her best friend. Lets call the girl i like M and her best friend R. R and I chatted for a little while about random things. I then told her I really like M and i wasn't sure where her and I stood. R told me that M really likes me and is always talking about me. And smiling when I text her. R said based on what M says, she wants to be with me for a REALLY long time. So i was feeling awesome. R said the only thing is that she wants to hang out more if we are going to have a serious relationship. I agreed. M is getting her license this week so it won't be too long before we can hangout way more often. M just needs permission to pick me up. R said until then, she can take me to M's house each wednesday to hangout more. So this all seems really good so far.

 

What's your take on all of it? What should i do from this point on? I'm interested in a long term relationship with her, and am way more confident now that I know the feeling is mutual :)

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That's so lovely. Thanks for sharing your story with us.:love:

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That's so lovely. Thanks for sharing your story with us.:love:

no problem :D

 

I swear, things could seriously not gone BETTER!

 

I have to thank the posters here for helping to keep me calm and collected!

 

I think this could really last :)

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Oh, that's really nice - good for you :) I can't believe you didn't kiss her, though :p:laugh:

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Oh, that's really nice - good for you :) I can't believe you didn't kiss her, though :p:laugh:

 

 

thank you :) and I know! I had prepared so much, but when people kept telling me it will feel natural and it will flow, that time didn't seem to come up. but after hearing all that, I am feeling really confident about our relationship. so do y'all have any advice for me? what can I do to not screw things up? thanks for the advice in advance!! :) :)

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Does anyone have anymore advice for me? I do NOT wanna screw this up, I am falling for this girl, and want to make things last :)

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Does anyone have anymore advice for me? I do NOT wanna screw this up, I am falling for this girl, and want to make things last :)

 

We don't know what to tell you. You have a better chance of success going with your gut instinct, then listening to one of us. Good luck!:bunny:

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Does anyone have anymore advice for me? I do NOT wanna screw this up, I am falling for this girl, and want to make things last :)

 

Sounds like whatever you're doing is working just fine :)

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Sounds like whatever you're doing is working just fine :)

 

 

apparently so :) people on her were telling me not to text her as often as I do, but I didn't want to ignore her so I kept doing it. turns out she loves talig to me for hours a day. I love the chemistry between us, it's something I thought would take years to find. I was even debating going to homecoming or not, and if I hadn't, I wouldn't have ever met this amazing girl :) it really makes me sure that fate exists.

 

the only advice I want is how to be a good boyfriend. I think I'm doing well so far, but I just want to keep the flame strong! :)

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We don't know what to tell you. You have a better chance of success going with your gut instinct, then listening to one of us. Good luck!:bunny:

 

 

haha thanks! my gut tells me, "don't get too excited, but I think that this could turn into a long term, serious relationship, and maybe eventually even more."

 

I may be young, but I know this is more than some week long crush that we will both get over. it's definitely more than that. I've never felt the connection and chemistry with any girls I've known or dated like I do with this girl. she truly makes my life better :) not that I've cut ties with my friends just to be with her like I have in the past with girls, but I am definitely making a commitment to her. I have no intentions of dating other people, because i would like to be exclusively with her. She feels the same, but I think she kinda fears putting labels on things and complicating things.

 

so for those with some long term relationship experience, whatxan I do to help make things last?

 

should I go for that kiss in the near future?? we hug, hold hands, cuddle, do very intimate things, but I haven't stepped up to kissing yet. partly because she's been kissed once in her whole life and I haven't even had one yet. also te time hasn't quite felt right yet. any advice?

 

 

also her birthday is coming up in a couple weeks and she has invited me to Hang out with her and go to dinner and all that. I'm pretty broke so I don't really have much of a budget for a gift, plus I don't wanna buy her a really expensive necklace and freak her out into thinking I want some serious, heavy relationship this early.

 

I Want to kinda take things slow, but I also dont want to move TOO slow, so I need some tips on that too. sorry for all the questions, but I'm young and in love, so I rather know too much than know too little :) thanks!

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so can any of my questions be answered?? :p

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bump :p:)

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so can any of my questions be answered?? :p

 

I think I've already made my point - you need to make that kiss fly :laugh::p

 

As for her B-day, obviously this depends on the individual, but for me 'thoughtful' takes precedence over 'expensive'. So inviting her along for some kind of (outdoor?) activity that doesn't cost much money but that you/she wouldn't do every day. Something along those lines.... or maybe you should just save the kiss for her birthday :)

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I think I've already made my point - you need to make that kiss fly :laugh::p

 

As for her B-day, obviously this depends on the individual, but for me 'thoughtful' takes precedence over 'expensive'. So inviting her along for some kind of (outdoor?) activity that doesn't cost much money but that you/she wouldn't do every day. Something along those lines.... or maybe you should just save the kiss for her birthday :)

 

 

alright that sounds good. she invited me to hangout on her birthday even after saying it was just going to be close friends and family :) and a kiss on her birthday, that seems fitting, good idea! thanks so much! Again!

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