112233 Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 Wow, this just really takes me back. It's never gonna happen. The most that might happen is that you'll convince her to go out a little, waste your time, and then it still won't happen. Go study, get some life experience and some money. She'll be a fat mother of 3 within a decade, more than likely, if she's going to CC in America.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 (edited) I've been in the same situation as you just this year and I'm still recovering from it. I fell in love with my best friend; we too were very close. I loved this girl more than anything and I fought my feelings for her, but not only did they not go away, they got stronger. Regardless of what happened with us, I strongly urge you to express your feelings to her. Do it yourself and do it over the phone or in person. You'll be more at peace with yourself once you do it. Remember, you miss all the shots you don't take and it's better to know for sure then to torture yourself with the "does she or doesn't she." And if she doesn't reciprocate, there's not much you can do about it. You can't force a woman to feel anything for you if she doesn't feel it. But I must warn you, prepare yourself for an outcome you might not expect. She may not feel the same way and it's going to hurt. So prepare for things to never be the same again. If she doesn't feel the same, then do everything you can to distance and detach from yourself from her. It's going to be very hard, but you'll have to do it to mentally and emotionally recover. Good luck to you and I hope it works out. I wanna let her know how I feel but I just don't feel right doing it now since she's with someone... And everyone IRL I've talked to about this has said that they think we will end up together... I'm pretty sure that if I let her know now that it won't ever happen at all... >If I do it and she's single though, she may give me a chance Edited November 10, 2010 by Kain Highwind adding
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 Wow, this just really takes me back. It's never gonna happen. The most that might happen is that you'll convince her to go out a little, waste your time, and then it still won't happen. Go study, get some life experience and some money. She'll be a fat mother of 3 within a decade, more than likely, if she's going to CC in America. If she gievs me a chances, I'd do everything I could to show that I genuinely care about her and that I'm not in it just for sex or anything. I'd do anything in my power for her to be happy
welikeincrowds Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I'd do anything in my power for her to be happy Listen to yourself. That's not a relationship, that's idol worship. So you say she is a queen. How highly do you suppose the queen thinks of her serfs? She wants to be with someone who will inspire her to be the person she wants to be -- not someone who will kiss her feet. Actually, scratch that -- she wants to stay with her current boyfriend, and no matter what she says, and no matter what you happen to think is better for her, that is the absolute truth, until she proves otherwise. And in this state of yours, it is highly unlikely that should she leave her boyfriend, she'll come running to you. Get a hold of yourself. This is your life. That doesn't just mean that you shouldn't "sacrifice your life" to her, as you apparently have. That also means that this is your fantasy, your imagination, your problem. You're not a martyr or a poet or a knight. You're just another guy who has confused neurotic infatuation for love. You're not the only one to have done this. Listen to what LS is telling you. Own your emotions.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 10, 2010 Author Posted November 10, 2010 Listen to yourself. That's not a relationship, that's idol worship. So you say she is a queen. How highly do you suppose the queen thinks of her serfs? She wants to be with someone who will inspire her to be the person she wants to be -- not someone who will kiss her feet. Actually, scratch that -- she wants to stay with her current boyfriend, and no matter what she says, and no matter what you happen to think is better for her, that is the absolute truth, until she proves otherwise. And in this state of yours, it is highly unlikely that should she leave her boyfriend, she'll come running to you. Get a hold of yourself. This is your life. That doesn't just mean that you shouldn't "sacrifice your life" to her, as you apparently have. That also means that this is your fantasy, your imagination, your problem. You're not a martyr or a poet or a knight. You're just another guy who has confused neurotic infatuation for love. You're not the only one to have done this. Listen to what LS is telling you. Own your emotions. I didn't mean it literally. Like... I heard that he bought her an iPhone. Screw that. I wouldn't do that unless it was like Christmas and we've been together for a long time I just meant that I'd let her have a good time. Probably worded it badly, but I would try to make her realize that she likes being around or with me. Basically, I wouldn't kiss the ground she walks on, but I'd try to let her know that I care about her and I want her to have a good time
welikeincrowds Posted November 10, 2010 Posted November 10, 2010 I didn't mean it literally. Like... I heard that he bought her an iPhone. Screw that. I wouldn't do that unless it was like Christmas and we've been together for a long time I just meant that I'd let her have a good time. Probably worded it badly, but I would try to make her realize that she likes being around or with me. Basically, I wouldn't kiss the ground she walks on, but I'd try to let her know that I care about her and I want her to have a good time Look, if you're not going to move on from her, despite all evidence telling you that it is the best option, then you only have two options. Wait... ...or persist. It's up to you which one will be better for your psyche.
Author Kain Highwind Posted November 11, 2010 Author Posted November 11, 2010 Look, if you're not going to move on from her, despite all evidence telling you that it is the best option, then you only have two options. Wait... ...or persist. It's up to you which one will be better for your psyche. idk :/ And remember how I said before how I've never seen friends for a long time last together? Two just broke up today 0_0
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