lazybonez Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 My ex and I have been in love for over 2 years, but could never find a way to get together. We were best friends. We're both twenty now. Finally, one day we got together. It was wonderful. We both felt like better versions of ourselves. Our friends and family began confirming this feeling, telling us we seemed happier (no one knew of our relationship at this point). I loved him so much and so did he. We began to work towards our future. We were already living together (I lived with him and his family). We got jobs, saved some money, and we were so excited. We planned on getting our own apartment. We would stay up for hours at a time talking about the future, cuddling close, and professing our deep undying love for another. On spring break I decided to take him to my family. His mom hated the idea of him coming with me to my family out of state. Ever since our trip was over, she began tearing us apart. Daily she would take him to the side and criticize me behind my back, and tell him lies about me. He knew better than this, this only made us want to leave quicker. One Tues night we literally couldn't go to sleep. I received a 2,500 check. This meant we could move out sooner. We already chose the apartment, and were going to look at it the next day. He told me how much he loved me, and we fell asleep happy. Next day, his mom takes him aside again. This time the conversation lasts over an hour. He walks back inside, tells me he needs to talk, breaks it off, and tells me to be out by monday. Just like that. When I ask why, he only says he's not ready for a relationship. I was destroyed inside. Not only did I love him more than anything, he was my best friend. It's been a little over two weeks, and since then, we've not lost contact. I began calling him everyday and he answered. I realized that I was making full contact, and decided to not call him. The night I told myself I wouldn't call him, he calls at 11 before he went to bed. Since then, he's been calling me every night. He calls me before he goes to bed because he's "lonely" and "feels like somethings missing". Our conversations on average last from an hour to an hour and a half. I try to cut the conversations at about 15 min, by saying he should go to sleep so he could wake up early, and he'll say things like, "But there's no one to talk to in my room." I want nothing more than to get back with him, is there any chance? Now we broke up, i've picked up and moved out of state. I would do anything for this man. I love him so much. I just want him back.
Hhhh Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 we all know what your going through, but time heals all wounds and when you have moved on you will realize hes a mama's boy for breaking up with you because his mother told him to do so
Leandro Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Yea. Go NC to heal. This guy isn't a man for not standing up for you. My grandma has destroyed 2 of her kid's marriage and is in the process of destroying another one. She's tried to destroy my parents, but my dad knows that she lies and stands up against her.
durkadurka Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Yea. Go NC to heal. This guy isn't a man for not standing up for you. My grandma has destroyed 2 of her kid's marriage and is in the process of destroying another one. She's tried to destroy my parents, but my dad knows that she lies and stands up against her. Dude, it's impossible to choose between an SO and family, someone always loses. It's a situation with no winning option. One of the reason's I lost my ex was because her family is just a mess, and I couldn't tolerate it.
Leandro Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Dude, it's impossible to choose between an SO and family, someone always loses. It's a situation with no winning option. One of the reason's I lost my ex was because her family is just a mess, and I couldn't tolerate it. Yes, but she made it sound like he wasn't even trying. He just did what his mom told him to do.
Author lazybonez Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 Yes, but she made it sound like he wasn't even trying. He just did what his mom told him to do. sorry if I made it seem like he didn't try. This criticizing went on for about six months, and we lived in the same house. So it kinda felt like it was going on ALL the time. This only caused fights between him and his mom because he would take up for me. Even though she was the cause of all this frustration, she blamed it on me. I guess he started to believe it. Looking back on the relationship, it was pretty one-sided anyway. I put too much effort in to keeping him happy. I want someone who puts in as much as I do. Lol.. maybe I should go back to women... sex is surely better
Author lazybonez Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 about the whole NC thing.. I stopped calling him when I noticed I was calling him too much. Since then, he's been calling me almost everynight. It used to make me happy when he called. He called me last night after he got off of work (the job I got him :C). He's telling me how no one wants to hang out with him anymore. His friends are ignoring him, and work is "stressing him out". He seemed so interested in what i've been doing lately. I just sort of blew it off because I have NOTHING to do. When he kicked me out I had to pick up and move out of state to my family, I had nowhere else to go. Not to mention the fact that I also left all of my friends behind, along with my job, and my college credits. So I have to start over. Great. He was my best friend for five years. Should I just ignore all of his calls?
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