Ms_Sweetness Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I don't know how to get a relationship from dating to being exclusive. It seems like after we date for awhile, things normally fizzle, even with the guys I really like. What do I do to make sure it doesn't do this? I think the guys I date get really comfortable with me and leave me in the friend zone. I want to get OUT of this zone, how do I do it? This one guy in particular that I've been dating for a few months seems to really like me. We have gone out to eat and movies a few times but normally we just hang out at his house. I mean its fun and great but I want to take things to the next level. Where can we go, what can we do? Suggestions? I want to keep him interested.
GivenUp0083 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I don't know how to get a relationship from dating to being exclusive. It seems like after we date for awhile, things normally fizzle, even with the guys I really like. What do I do to make sure it doesn't do this? I think the guys I date get really comfortable with me and leave me in the friend zone. I want to get OUT of this zone, how do I do it? This one guy in particular that I've been dating for a few months seems to really like me. We have gone out to eat and movies a few times but normally we just hang out at his house. I mean its fun and great but I want to take things to the next level. Where can we go, what can we do? Suggestions? I want to keep him interested. Ok, first off, guys don't put girls we are physically attracted to in the "friend zone". What do you do when you hang out at his place? Anything physical? Are you having sex? If there's any physicality involved he's using you as a friend with benefits and you don't realize it. As for keeping guys interested. If there's a guy that likes you and you feel you're pushing him away, maybe try to be a little more flirty. Don't be so easy to please, be a little more mysterious about what you want from him. If guys get scared away, it's because they get scared away of things moving too fast or seriousness when they aren't ready for it. Maybe try to slow it down. Let him ask YOU out, and when he does don't be so available, maybe shoot one night down, but suggest a different night. That way he'll know you're busy and have a life, but you aren't rejecting him because you still offered another night to see him. I don't know enough about your situation to really give super solid advice.
Author Ms_Sweetness Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 I guess I feel like many of the guys are dating several other girls and are trying to figure out which one is best. I'm not sure. When I hang out at his house we have made out but usully it's movies or he cooks dinner and we just relax.
GivenUp0083 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I guess I feel like many of the guys are dating several other girls and are trying to figure out which one is best. I'm not sure. When I hang out at his house we have made out but usully it's movies or he cooks dinner and we just relax. There's nothing wrong with him doing that. So like I mentioned earlier, if he is dating other girls then you need to win him over. Depending on the type of guy, you either need to be more aggressive if you've been shy (meaning if you've been holding out at all on him physically or intimately you need to open up to him and let him get to know you on the next level through deep conversation or maybe sexually, depending on the situation). Or, if you think a lot of girls are throwing themselves at him, then be the girl that's hard to get. Don't come over whenever he calls. Call him back a day or two later and see if he wants to GO OUT ON A DATE and if he doesn't and just wants to hang out at his place you need to let him know he hasn't won you over yet. Guys take out girls to dinner or dates to win them over, to show respect. If he's just asking you to hang out he's not showing respect and he's not trying to win you over, he thinks he's got you. In all honesty he sounds like a tool and you should find a guy that wants to spend real time with you.
skydiveaddict Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 (edited) Ok, first off, guys don't put girls we are physically attracted to in the "friend zone". .There is really no such thing as a "friendzone" for women. Just be more assretive and you will get what you're after. Edited November 7, 2010 by skydiveaddict
Author Ms_Sweetness Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 Thanks for the response. I am confused about how he feels because he spends EVERY weekend with me, so at this point he has very little time to spend with other girls like before. I thought this was a sign that he is leaning more towards me. He also cooks dinner when I come over after work. He asked me to spend this weekend with him but I turned him down because like you said I don't want to be too available. We have talked about getting sexual, I really want to but I don't want to do it then be put into that zone, or become FWB.
GivenUp0083 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Thanks for the response. I am confused about how he feels because he spends EVERY weekend with me, so at this point he has very little time to spend with other girls like before. I thought this was a sign that he is leaning more towards me. He also cooks dinner when I come over after work. He asked me to spend this weekend with him but I turned him down because like you said I don't want to be too available. We have talked about getting sexual, I really want to but I don't want to do it then be put into that zone, or become FWB. Why don't you just try talking to him about it? Ask him where he sees this going. Tell him you like him but don't want to rush things, and that you don't just want to be a FWB. Hopefully he'll be honest.
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