D-Jam Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Only in terms of the people who are checking out said person. One person's "YUK!" is another person's "YUM!"
loverofloveandstuff Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Plenty of things. A better question is what makes somebody dateable.
Akherousia Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 Does it exist? Should it exist? Yes.AIDS. Herpes. HPV. Men with emotional issues. Men with no ambition. Men without a house(living with his parents). A man with a bad job.
Suerenity Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 No job, or best-put, NO MONEY. Money isn't the most important thing in a relationship but at some point or another, one is gonna get tired of ALWAYS footing the bill or having to sit and gaze into each other's eyes on a park bench. If you have none, you shouldn't date.
terra Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I think unkind, selfish and abusive people are undateable; if you are only in it for yourself , what's the point of having someone else? Unfortunatley it seams that people with very low self esteem will date the undateables.
youngskywalker Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Excluding the obvious like being abusive and such as, I believe that any guy who doesn't have a job and supports himself is a complete loser.
Sarah1977 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 This is what makes someone undateable TO ME. Keep in mind that I'm in my 30's. Some of this stuff would have been OK for me in my 20's. But now I'm too old to deal with a 'project.' 1. Guys who live with their parents are out of the question. 2. Guys who are in their 30's (or older) and still have no idea what they want to do with their lives 3. Guys who smoke, drink excessively, or do drugs 4. Disrespectful guys. 5. Guys that can't control their tempers 6. Insecure guys/jealous guys 7. Overly cynical guys 8. Guys who hate animals and/or children 9. Guys with no sense of humor
brainygirl Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 People with no home of their own, no income to speak of and no concrete plan to change that shouldn't date. (but they do, my brother gets hit on by women who seem to want to move in with him as a means of improving their situations). guys who like to try to tell women what they should or shouldn't like or do (don't like country, we'll fix that - actually said to me). Men who don;t want serious relationships shouldn't get involved with women without making that very clear.
brainygirl Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 So if I've worked my ass off for the past several years and have a career and possesions and savings to show for it, I should invite some douche who's spent most of his adult life sitting in his parents' basement playing video games and smoking pot to come on in and run through all my stuff to? No way, I'm already raising three sons, I don't need a fourth. If you aren't willing to grow up and take care of yourself, I'm not willing to date you.
always_searching Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I would say if I loved someone, nothing would make him "undatable." However, on paper, I'd say that living at home with parents is a major turn off; being a creepier--a certain level of stalking, for example; being physically abusive (outside of the bedroom, but then, in that case, it's not really abuse ); a moron; being more interested in "the game" (meaning "sports", not the book) than wanting to hook-up with me; having no sense of humor; being a prude; being a racist, bigot, sexist, homophobic, etc.; missing teeth; bad hygiene; being a satanist. That's all I can think of for now.
Sarah1977 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Reading this thread makes me wonder what happened to the love. Also it makes me wonder why prostitution is illegal- oh yes, that's right, the straight-forward hookers compete with jaded, cynical money-hungry women for the dollar bill. Not even close, buster. I own my own home, I run my own company, I have plenty of assets, and a SIGNIFICANT income of my own. There is literally NO REASON for me to gold dig. I just have no interest in dating a mooch. Ten years ago? Maybe. But when you get to be my age, you're looking to settle and have a family. A guy that can't even take care of himself is not fit to someday father my children.
carhill Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I think married people should be undateable, however a significant portion of our population disagrees, so they call it something else.
Akherousia Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 (edited) Not even close, buster. I own my own home, I run my own company, I have plenty of assets, and a SIGNIFICANT income of my own. There is literally NO REASON for me to gold dig. I just have no interest in dating a mooch. Ten years ago? Maybe. But when you get to be my age, you're looking to settle and have a family. A guy that can't even take care of himself is not fit to someday father my children. As you said it yourself; you're aging. Why would an insanely hot man be interested in you when you are aging and the crops of hot 18 year olds are banging on his door? What do you have to offer? To an insanely hot man? Are you going to support the man? Are you famous? can you make him a movie star? Only a fool would marry a woman that is keen on having an insanely hot man, just to be used to make your girlfriends jealous. Insanely hot men have options. You don't. You know that. Deal with it. You're not entitled to a hot guy(or a rich guy) much like an average guy is not entitled to Emmy Rossum. Edited November 8, 2010 by Akherousia
Sarah1977 Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 As you said it yourself; you're aging. Why would an insanely hot man be interested in you when you are aging and the crops of hot 18 year olds are banging on his door? What do you have to offer? To an insanely hot man? Are you going to support the man? Are you famous? can you make him a movie star? Only a fool would marry a woman that is keen on having an insanely hot man, just to be used to make your girlfriends jealous. Insanely hot men have options. You don't. You know that. Deal with it. You're not entitled to a hot guy(or a rich guy) much like an average guy is not entitled to Emmy Rossum. Please read my posts and show me the one where I said I was interested in a 'hot' man, let alone an 'insanely hot' man. Heck, I didn't even say I was interested in a 'rich' man. I just simply said self supporting. I have plenty to offer ANY man who chooses to date and/or marry me. I am more than a pretty face. I don't ask for any more or any less than I'm willing to give. I am interested in a NICE man who will someday make a good father. That means self supporting, drug free, and all those other qualities I made note off. I've ALWAYS dated these sorts of men. Nice, honorable, honest, funny, etc. Hot? Pbbt. We're all going to end up old and wrinkled, so it's silly to put much stock in it. Even when I was a teenager, I always went for personality over looks every day of the week and twice on Sundays.
Disillusioned Posted November 9, 2010 Posted November 9, 2010 Someone who insists on drinking during dates. People with kids who behave like they're kidless. Someone who is clueless enough about time to make missing out a way of life. Mean-spiritedness. I don't know about you, but I'd rather date a bitter woman than a mean-spirited one. I can only speak for myself on this one, but I wouldn't date any woman who has the travel fetish. It shows me that she has no imagination and is afraid of commitment.
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