Am I Crazy...?

[Joeschm0]

I broke up with my gf 8 months ago, took me 2 weeks to realize what a mistake I made. Case of the "grass is greener" syndrome...it was my first real relationship (2 years) and I really wasn't thinking clearly when I made the decision. I've tried on a few occasions to get back with her but she says I hurt her too much and doesn't think we'll be together again. I know this was all my fault and that's probably what's making it worse because I can't even describe how much loneliness and pain I feel inside. I can definitely see myself marrying this girl but I messed it all up. Am I crazy for holding on to hope that we might end up together one day? what should i do at this point? I have no answers, feel like I don't know who I am anymore or what I want if I can't have her. How could I have been so stupid...

[stillafool]

Sorry for your pain. Considering it has been 8 months and she doesn't want to get back together I think you would be foolish to keep holding onto hope for a reconciliation. If you were her first also she has gotten "out there" and is probably dating others and doesn't want to go backwards. I'm sorry but I think you need to start seeing other people because I bet she is.

[nowwhatnow]

if my ex said this to me in the beginning, I would have died of happiness, in fact, I am still holding out hope that he will. But as time goes on, and people start to heal it seems less and less likely that I would want to put myself in that situation again, with someone who hurt me so badly. If this is really want you want, and you are not gonna screw it up this time, than you have to show her and prove to her that she can trust you and you will not hurt her again. This might make you very vulnerable but if she is worth it, than do it. And if she says no, then I guess keep trying if it is worth fighting for! but if she is over you, than there is not much you can do.

Best of luck!