Valie Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Long story short....I met this girl for a week...had a blast and i was so sure she was into me and she told me...i ask her out after a weeek she tells me she has to think about it..2 days later on facebook she talks to me about it and tells me she has indefinite feelings and i tell her that it's okay i guess i sort of pushed it....things escalate we barely talk...gets awkward..then i talk to her a week later about it and she tells me that she had a terrible past with sexual abuse....among other several things...we stopped talking for 3 weeks and then a week ago we started talkin again..she tells me that my smile distracts her......she comments on my smell.....my eyes......then when i told her i might get surgery she was really really worried and was late to class for me...adn she never goes late..she also gave me a hug....she never gave me a hug before....and it was a long emotional hug..... I really dont know whether she likes me or not.....
Jynxx Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Drop her, she has way too much bagage to get into a relationship with. She clearly isn't that much into you either. Don't waste your time, move on now.
Author Valie Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 Well you see...Idk man..i feel if i can get to her it's good....Also the ways he was treating me when she knew i washaving surgery....and the comments that she says about my smile etc..idk...and she doesn seem like the girl that flirts withe veryone u know? but ye she has too much baggage what do you think my next step should be if i want to stil pursue her?
stillafool Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Most people will give a person a hug when they know they are going to have surgery. I would and I think most women react that way, you know, caring, nurturing. You probably do have pretty eyes and a nice smile and she was just giving you a compliment. I think if she were truly interested in dating she would have made more of an effort to see and be with you. She may have told you about her past abuse as a way to turn you off. Who tells a person something like that until they get to know them better. The reason I say this is because in the past I would tell guys things about me that would make them back up some if I felt pressure from them. I think you shouldn't take her too seriously unless she makes an effort to be with you. Right now it seems as if you have been Friend Zoned.
Author Valie Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 Im saying those things about hug..smile..eyes....Cuz she doesnt do that to anyone else...like to her that's different and when she used to like me and told me that she did like me that's her way of flirting...also at the moment whenever she talks to me she cant look at me...she is always shy and not herself...i dont know she just keeps sending those confused signals ;/
Jynxx Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Well you see...Idk man..i feel if i can get to her it's good....Also the ways he was treating me when she knew i washaving surgery....and the comments that she says about my smile etc..idk...and she doesn seem like the girl that flirts withe veryone u know? but ye she has too much baggage what do you think my next step should be if i want to stil pursue her? To me it looks like she cares about you like she cares about a friend. Of course you're worried if a close friend goes into surgery, and you feel bad for ignoring them a couple of weeks. I would also be surprised if she was really flirting with you. Looks more like she felt bad for pushing you away for a couple of weeks and/or noticed how bad you felt because of that and she wanted to boost your selfesteem and make you feel better by complimenting on your eyes and smell etc. If you would want a relationship with her it's gonna be pretty hard. Basically if you start out as a friend you remain a friend until the first kiss (if you start out as strangers you might consider it a relationship earlier), so it's crucial to minimize awkwardness concerning physical contact. Try to get as much physical contact in as possible. Hug her every good occasion you get, kiss her on the cheeck etc. Try keeping a positive atmosphere at all times, share secrets about you and be open to her sharing secrets about herself. Getting into a relationship is still a longshot though, and I think you would be better off moving on
Author Valie Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 I guess...but i sitll dont know why she backed down after askin her out after knowin her for a week...i guess it was too fast....and she sort of mentioned it....but at the same time why would she of backed down like that..when i was talkin to her about it when we ended whaever was goin on her face was red and tearing took couple of steps looked backwards looked at me and left...I dont know i just feel something fishy is goin on ;/
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