nowwhatnow Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 hey LS, this is my first time posting. my bf and i broke up 3 months ago and i went pretty much NC then out of the blue, yesterday, he calls me - dont respond, texts me - i dont respond and contacts me via msn - dont respond but it was to hang out with his friends... my question is, is he just being friendly? inviting me to be his friend Or does he miss me/ want me back? I didnt really talk to him, i just send him a text back saying i didnt want to hang out but what does this mean?!?! or am i just reading too much into this, believing what i want?! p.s. he dumped me...
dreamingoftigers Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Probably just doing the same old ex bs, checking up on you to see if you are still in his back pocket.
Fern Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Unless he's saying in no uncertain terms that he made a mistake and wants you back - or you're over him an don't want him back anymore, stick to NC.
PowerOfOne Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 It'd be nice to think that a dumper would swallow their pride and come back beating down doors. But I'm a little sceptical that's how it actually happens. I'm saying that even though I did once have an ex that came back pleading and begging after 6 months. OP, you did a good thing telling him you don't want to hangout. He might have just been testing the waters but if he really wants to chase a second chance you deserve much more then a half-assed invite to hangout with his friends.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I think he does miss you and is also checking up on you.. Thing of it is what do you want? Do you really want a second chance with this guy? Would seeing him put you back into that painful shell you've been trying to escape? Well the truth of the matter is ex's don't come banging on your door begging for you back usually. For a second chance you have to start somewhere with contact. When doing this you also have to realize this dosen't mean you will for sure get back together. So if you really want him back? If you think you are over the relationship enough to maybe work things out? If you can be at peace with things even if it dosen't work out? Then to start out for a second chance you have to end the nc phase. Alot of people will disagree but you don't normally get your ex back by not talking to them. I think you really just need to figure out what you want before making up your mind on that and maybe you need more time..
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