curiousbell Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Here's the deal: I've never dated/kissed a guy/held hands and I'm nearing 21 years of age. I don't really know what I'm doing. I think I may be dating this guy, but I can't tell if he is seeing it that way. We've known each other for a couple of years now, and I know for a fact there was initial attraction because of a mutual friend we had then. Nothing really happened until a couple of months ago. We see each other at least once a week, and when there is an opportunity to pay, he pays. I thought at first he was being chivalrous, but when we went to the movies with a few of his friends (mixed company), he still paid for me, and only me. Also, we have both made a point to at least say a few words to each other nearly everyday, regardless of the topic. He called me "sunshine" once. He has put himself in situations he usually wouldn't to spend time with me, and the fact he spends time with me even though I'm six years younger and he doesn't usually enjoy young adults. He even was only going to an event his friends set up if I was going. Did I mention he's a great complimenter? He knows that I have never been in a relationship, and he is probably the most respectful guy I know. The only physical contact has been hugs (he hugs all of his friends, though). I have written off lack of physical contact being respectful or scared because it's been a while since he's dated as well. I was pretty convinced we were dating at this point. It seemed common sense. However, I let him know that I've really been enjoying spending time with him and talking to him the last couple months. He responded by saying he really has too, and that I'm a valuable friend and a good influence. What? Talk about mixed signal right there. That response plus the fact that he is a chivalrous guy in general makes me question what I think has been going on really has been. What do you all think is happening here? Thanks.
mogul Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 The fact that he paid for you, and only you, in the company of a mixed crowd is a good sign. Maybe he is just being respectful, and taking it slow since he is not sure what pace you are comfortable with being your first relationship. When the time is right, share your feelings with him and have a talk to see where he stands.
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