irc333 Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I saw a post somewhere on here , the past couple of days about physical appearance, how the person (might've been a woman, I dunno) that said he or she wasn't all THAT great looking, then people were suggesting working out to attract other people (which probably doesn't help...for instance, if you're face can stop a freight train...just being honest here.) Or perhaps a change in wardrobe and what not, those are all great suggestions, too. Me, personally....I've weighed around the same for the past decade or so...165 at 5'8", though I wouldn't say I work out at a gym, you could say I go walking every day, and do the basic calistinecs (sp?) daily.....I do enough to do some damage, and I DEFINATELY watch what I eat...been eating Boca burgers lately. LOL I'm not the one to eat out all the time, or stuff my gullet constantly, so I do not have an eating problem. I mean, I have seen people that haven't even reached the age of 30, and are chronically obese...so in comparision, I guess you could say I'm attractive...I mean, I have a "pooch" but, I don't l ook disgusting shirtless either. lol I'm bald. When I do have a "dry spell" of no dates...when I DO get a date, and sometimes it's someone I've met in person (not online), she's an absolute knock-out, and I"m thinking "Wow, I haven't had a date in 6 months, and now when I get one, I'm blessed with a date with a perfect 10? How'd that happen? lol When it comes to dating, with me, when it rains, it POURS. And earlier this year I've gone out with some very lovely ladies in appearances with great personalities...so obviously, they found me physically attractive (I met THOSE online though) or just cute. So in those cases, I don't know what's making them initially attracted to me. But I'm wondering, considering I'm more average looking or this is a post for all the average joe's and janes out there....even though beauty is in the eye of the beholder is there some..."Universal" standard out there of what MOST people find attractive phyically? When I was back in college, I knew of this woman, she had this "Daisy Duke" look about her....remember Catherine Bach...wore the same duke's shorts, too. lol....when she walked into the room...You, if you made an effort NOT too look at her, and experiment and see HOW MANY men turned heads....you'd see a great amount of men following her as she walked. ...no joke...and that's a good way to determine some kind of "Universal" standards, when ALL guys look....you can get an idea that she turns a lot of heads even outside that specific room.
carhill Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Yeah, though no rainstorms have happened in my neighborhood, I can relate to what you're sharing. To put it in terms like you did, imagine this picture, with Lana's (on right) eyes and body and Natalie's face, and you have precisely and exactly the image of the 'friend' from my journals. IMO, the main reason we 'connected' for all those years was she was able to be 'herself' with me without all the affectations. It really had nothing to do with me (I could've been anyone) but rather having someone she could relate to who didn't focus on the obvious surfaces. IMO, a life of that, having known her for 25+ years, probably went a long way to creating the psychology which caused me to part ways with her. Kinda sad, really. Beauty fades and what one has left is reality. But, yeah, I think you're spot-on about universal standards, at least in this narrow context.
Author irc333 Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 Right, there are a few that look past the looks, for me, it doesn't take much for me to be attracted. I've even been physically attracted to somewhat overweight women..typically these women kind of dressed very feminine and demure, kind of filled out in the right places, and had gorgeous smiles.....but were not chronically obese. Which I could name some famous celebrity chunky girls that I thought were attractive...I can think of that one cast member from "Yes Dear" That's the first person that comes to mind, right now. Going back to the people look past looks....I emailed a woman that I knew from my conventions I like to attend...Sci-Fi. Some women do the Mary Kay business, other's do "The Pampered Chef" THIS woman, is a P90X fitness coach, and is very succesful at what she does, even had a testimonial piece done on her from Beach Body company. For some reason, I came to her with my concerns about dating and physical appearance, and would working out the way she does with P90x would be one of those "self-improvement" steps along with wardrobe and stuff. For the record, I think she has never done online dating, so that might have somethign to do with it. I came to her with concerns I hear on these message boards and she said, "Well, when I dated, I dated ALL kinds, chubby, skinny, non muscular..fit guys" She just thought they were funny, endearing, sweeet, made her laugh, etc. I was kind of suprised...they were all gentlemen. I had the pleasure of befriending an online lady friend that was a current RN, but a former exotic dancer at a club (that's how she paid her nursing school tuition) She used to send me pictures of herself in various nudes, topless and hot outfits, and even some video clips of her jumping up and down on a trampoline topless. LOL She did online gaming with our gaming group, and that's how I met her, hoenstly, I think she was kind of lonely the real life town she was in, and she wasn't meeting any people, much less dating....she mentioned she was lonely and wanted a boyfriend....we even talked on the Voice, too. She was a body builder. She could've probably kicked my arse. LOL Not sure WHY she found me attractive, but...she wasn't entirely intelligent, but all heart.....I just simply made her laugh. Sometimes.....there's ONE thing that can woo a woman, and making her laugh was KEY...that was it, everything else was incidental. But there are those few out there that, if they find ONE thing about your character that's attractive, they can look past the other things. Yeah, though no rainstorms have happened in my neighborhood, I can relate to what you're sharing. To put it in terms like you did, imagine this picture, with Lana's (on right) eyes and body and Natalie's face, and you have precisely and exactly the image of the 'friend' from my journals. IMO, the main reason we 'connected' for all those years was she was able to be 'herself' with me without all the affectations. It really had nothing to do with me (I could've been anyone) but rather having someone she could relate to who didn't focus on the obvious surfaces. IMO, a life of that, having known her for 25+ years, probably went a long way to creating the psychology which caused me to part ways with her. Kinda sad, really. Beauty fades and what one has left is reality. But, yeah, I think you're spot-on about universal standards, at least in this narrow context.
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