DreamerGirl27 Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 and wanted more, but it turns out he doesn't want more from me. Backtracking about a year ago, when I started talking to him. He was in my class and I thought he looked/seemed really cool and it wasn't just his looks, it was more the way he talked and the things I heard him say that really drew me to him. Anyway...I was way too shy/chicken to do anything in person, but I had this idea in my head that the semester would end and I'd never see him again and I just couldn't handle that. So...I went the online route. Found him on myspace with JUST his first name (narrowed the age bracket down to about what I thought he was and narrowed down the location to about 25 miles within me/our school etc...) Anyway...by some sort of dumb luck, I found him on like, page 20 of 50 or something totally bizarre like that. So...I friend requested him. To my total complete surprise, he starts talking to me! (This has never happened before with ANY guy I have ever gone after and I'm not joking). sooo...well, basically, this was the start of a friendship. He started commenting on my myspace (a LOT) and at the end of the semester, asked me for my number and texted me NON STOP, every day, all day, every NIGHT, all night etc ALLLL winter break. I asked him to join another class with me the following semester, to which he did (by surprising me) and telling me he did one day by commenting on my myspace. (This was before he had my number). I didn't know for sure whether he was going to or not, he didn't say for sure if he was going to take the class, he just did it and then told me. Anyway, so we go through another semester together and he is sweet as can be, walks me out of my (our) class, comes over to me during class to talk when he can (we had separated seats, don't ask) and all that jazz. One morning comes and the teacher had canceled class, so he asks me to go get coffee with him etc...we go in his car, he offers to pay and everything... flash forward a few months towards the end of the semester and he is inviting me over to his house at 12:30am to drink and play video games with him in his room. At this point, that sounds like a booty call, but it wasn't. Nothing happened, he was very respectful, etc... Now...only prob with all this. Sometime during or after all this goes down, I find out that he does not like me like that. He flat out tells me, well, because I very bluntly and honestly told him I like him (way too early, mind you, but I was encouraged by a friend and did it impulsively one night). Basically, I got the, "I like you as a friend only" speech, without him coming right out and saying it. I didn't get it right away. He didn't say anything the first time I told him. He told me this over this past summer break, was when I got the "friend" speech. Well, anyway, I have never been so heartbroken in my life before. Seriously... and anyway, flash forward to now (about a year later) and we are in another class together and he is still really friendly. He still talks to me all the time, sits by me, acts like the best male friend I've ever had. I get there early and spend about an hour with him before our class. He has had 1 girlfriend since we've been talking, which has been for about a year or so (literally, exactly 1 year ago we started talking on Nov. 1) but that only lasted for 2 weeks and during his relationship, he talked to me about her telling me he thought she was boring. Today...(and a few weeks ago) he goes out of his way to do stuff for me he doesn't have to. He gave me a ride to my car so I didn't have to walk (he left early and skipped another one of his classes and offered 'cause I was parked farther away than him). He doesn't ignore me. (Pretty much most, if not all my other guy friends do). I mean, I talk to other guys, but not on a regular basis. It's basically like pulling teeth to get them to talk to me. He is like, a true friend that's a guy and I've never had that in my life before. I'm totally smitten. He's not a jerk. He can't understand why I like him, because he thinks I should hate him because he's a butthole (said in other words, obviously). He's not. He does talk to a lot of female friends...and that does make me uncomfortable. But from what I understand, it's just online. He's not a jerk. At all. He gave me a few other really stupid, bogus reasons as to why I shouldn't "fall" for him. In person...so far, he refuses to sit by anyone else in class. A guy friend of his tried to get him to sit over with them a couple weeks into the semester, he just basically made some joke out of it and continued to follow me to my seat and continues to do so today. The teacher has referred to us as "you two" saying bye one day... another girl in our class has asked me if he calls me "sweetheart" a lot... I mean...it's like blatantly obvious we are "into" each other in person. Either that or I'm really stupid and it doesn't look like that and I'm blind...totally possible, but I don't really consider myself stupid...or blind. Anyway...he knows I'm totally into him and he's not taking the bait, so to speak. I know he talks to a lot of female friends, but I just...I don't...know. lol I am getting such mixed signals from him. When I get there early, he has done little things like touch my hand trying to show me how to do stuff recently. One day he put himself in front of me and touched ME, like, my whole body saying "oh excuse me" ya know, like joking around 'cause we were both trying to go the same direction and instead of moving aside, he like, blocks my path and touches me etc... I am a little more shy about doing that to him, but just the other day I had an excuse to touch him to ask him something and I did...I so would do it more if he hadn't flat out told me he doesn't like me like that. Now I am afraid to. But the weird thing is, if I did, I don't think he'd mind...at all... The only thing I CAN'T do is get this guy to call me on the phone and he said that is because that is reserved for his girlfriend only...not just his "friends". Even though he has called me before when he was on his way over to my house and vice versa, when I was on my way over to his that one time. Granted...he sort of had to. I am just so effing confused and so effing happy at the same time. That's the weird part. I have no idea where this is going, but I like whatever is going on. The only thing I'd like to change is our "friendship" status. I am totally impressed and smitten by this guy, it's not even funny. I've recently started kicking it up a knotch and tried flirting with him a bit more and I don't know if it's doing me any good or hurting my chances even more. But, then I keep telling myself, "what chances? He gave you the 'friend' speech..." I'm just effing confused. All I know is I care a great deal for him.
dreamingoftigers Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Tough break girl, he is your friend. I had a wicked crush on a friend in my younger years, I would have married him in a heartbeat he had me at every breath. But now I have barely thought of him in years, he and his husband are very happy together in BC. Friendzone happens to all of us, just don't let it interfere with meeting someone else you might be interested in.
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