men with no kids

[Insanitylater]

I cant believe all the stupid biased women in the dating world that wont even give a guy with no kids a chance. There are so many profiles on POF from women with kids, and they comment how the guy needs to have a child, to consider them for a date. Yea, because anyone with a child is so much more well rounded than someone without.

 

How do these ignorant people function and maintain life on a daily basis?

[carhill]

How do these ignorant people function and maintain life on a daily basis?

 

Without childless men in them and hopefully acceptably so. TBH, amongst the many single mothers I interacted with in the 80's and 90's, I never ran into this dynamic. Perhaps things have changed.

[JungleLover]

Yep. Some people deserve to drown in their own misery.

[carhill]

With all the new members I have a hard time keeping things straight. Thanks

[JungleLover]

With all the new members I have a hard time keeping things straight. Thanks

 

 

For some reason the whiny women-haters are organizing around here. Seems they are having trouble getting laid so they are getting very frustrated.

[Insanitylater]

LOL I'm simply making a comment on the observations in my environment.

 

And like I've said before, guys are retards too, but since I'm not dating them, I have no reason to bash them.

[ascendotum]

IMO these women are not stupid, I consider it a smart move in terms of improving her odds of long term success. In all likelihood they're biased because they feel they would have a better chance of a LTR with a man who already had children in his life and thus would be less likely to not want more, hopefully have a more mature outlook towards a woman with responsibilities, and also less likely to judge her for being a single mum, when he is the male equivalent (though likely with less responsibility).

 

I seen a number of single mothers who bounce from STR to STR, and I feel a big factor behind it is because the single guy no kids guy wont see her as the women he wants to settle down with. He either will want kids of his own when she doesn’t want anymore, resents having to take on more involvement in another man's children, or if he is half decent looking and has options will at some point when the relationship loses its sparkle, could well likely seek out a child free woman to settle down with (for a number of reasons that have been discussed her in past threads).

 

RE: your last sentence..you should have posted a question asking what is it with women with kids doing this then you be less ignorant on the matter maybe.

[Insanitylater]

could well likely seek out a child free woman to settle down with

 

There's child free women over 35 out there?

[skydiveaddict]

I cant believe all the stupid biased women in the dating world that wont even give a guy with no kids a chance. There are so many profiles on POF from women with kids, and they comment how the guy needs to have a child, to consider them for a date. Yea, because anyone with a child is so much more well rounded than someone without.

 

How do these ignorant people function and maintain life on a daily basis?

 

 

I know how you feel. I've never been married, no kids, somehow that makes me an outcast as well. It;s not that I didn't want that, it just never happened. But if you don't have any baggage to carry into a relationship, you are automatically dismissed. Go figure.

[Insanitylater]

I actually was married to a woman that had 3 kids prior.

 

Dont I get special bonus points for marrying a woman that already had kids, instead of running the other way like most guys do?

 

Is there a card or something I can show to other woman so they know I check out ok

[ascendotum]

There's child free women over 35 out there?

 

If you are doing OLD and are hoping to find datable women mid 30s to mid 40s with no children, well then unfortunately they will likely be well outnumbered by the single mothers, so I can understand the nature of your post a bit more. I remember seeing some women with children ask this, but I didn’t think it was predominant. Just skip over these profiles and try not to take it so personally.

 

Also - you had step children, so go ahead and msg these women.

Edited November 6, 2010 by ascendotum

[D-Lish]

There's child free women over 35 out there?

 

I am one of those women without kids over 35. I personally prefer to date men without children.

 

My reasons have to do with having a bad experience dating someone with an over-involved ex-wife. Some men with ex's that they share a child with can come with a built in drama factor. I am coming around to the idea of giving it a shot if I met someone that had kids and was worth giving it a shot despite my preference.

 

I can see why people with kids would want to date others with kids- I think they feel they would relate better.

 

I have to admit, I was a little impatient trying to arrange time to even see the guy because the kids always came first. The ex wife would often throw a wrench into our plans last minute. He made me dinner once, and she stopped in during our dinner to meet me so she could decide if I was worthy of getting to know her kids. Ultimately, I just felt like #2 all the time and I'd already played #2 to my exH's job previously- so in my next serious relationship, I want to be with someone that I can be #1 to.

 

When you have kids, they should come first- and maybe another person with children would be much more understanding of that?

 

Don't forget that many men that don't have children are really reluctant to date women with kids. Single mothers often face bias- and maybe some of the women have faced enough bias to just give up and market themselves to men that have kids? Someone with kids isn't going to have an issue with someone else that does. It could just be a little bit of a pre-emptive strike on their part.

 

You do have step-kids, so as far as I am concerned, you qualify to message these women.

[GivenUp0083]

Try OKCupid.com instead. POF is on the same level as myspace and craigslist dude. OKCupid is free and actually puts some effort into making it fun and matching people. You still have a lot of trash on the site but at least there's some decent people on there.

[brainygirl]

I've heard of women rejecting guys with kids, but never rejecting men who didn't have kids. I've definitely run into men who wouldn't date a woman with children.

 

I personally will date a man with or without kids. If he has kids, I want to know, does he pay his child support, is he active in their lives, does he take care of his responsibilities in other words.

 

I get a little ticked when I hear or see guys say they won't date a woman with kdis or a woman who isn't a certain weight, but really, I should thank them. becuase they've done me a favor and allowed me to sort them out as unsuitable without me having to do much work.

 

btw: Skydive, I'd maybe go out with you, but probably wouldn't jump out of a plain . . . at least on the first date.

[alexlakeman]

As a single parent I prefer to date single parents, period.

 

Many reasons, some of which are:

 

• They understand not being available every weekend and less chance of htem wandering off every other weekend when I am with the kids.
  
• Understand last minute changes, ie daughter is sick or son has a game.
  
• Hopefully like kids as well.
  
• Understand cash flow when kids are involved.
  
• Won't change their mind later on of having a kid.. ie I do NOT want more kids.
  

 

The pool is much larger for us single parents over 35, etc..

[112233]

There's child free women over 35 out there?

 

Well there's your problem. Why do you need a woman over 35? What are you planning to DO with her anyway? Make soylent green?

[Disillusioned]

Would it ever occur to any of you that the reason some of us men don't want kids (ours or anyone else's) is because maybe we wouldn't enjoy the extra responsibility?