HeartOnSleeve Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I was going to take MD on a really nice picnic yesterday but with the way this week has played out that did not come together. I wanted to break it down for everyone becuase quite honestly I am confused and a little frustrated. This is the same guy that wanted to court me, chase me and take it slow from previous posts. I thought things were actually going well until this week. Sunday- His parents moved out of his townhouse officially and into their new house..finally he has his place all to himself! He called me probably 4 times this day and it was great to hear from him Monday- I went over to his place to watch a movie and spent the night (he asked me too) as we finally could have some time in his place and not mine! Tuesday- Woke up early and left his place. Didn't hear from him all day. I texted him that night to say "good night" and he texted back "sleep tight". Wednesday- he called me at 3 and said he was starting to feel sick and had his family coming over to help fix the place and get the rest of their stuff. Said if he was feeling better we should do something on Thursday or Friday. I called him back about two hours later and he said he was running to the gym to try and "sweat it out"....I actually saw him at the gym, but didn't say hi. Thursday- I texted him to see how he was feeling...he said "not good". I called him later in the day just to say hi. He called me back, but I missed it and texted him since he said his throat was pretty sore and sounded bad in the message. Did not hear back from text. Friday- No Contact. I didn't call him and he didn't call me. NOTHING...for the first time in almost 2 months I did not hear from him at all. Saturday- So far nothing! lol. I know he has been busy and stressed about work, his new place is still a little chaotic, and he's been helping his family move into a new house etc. But I can't help but feel like I am getting blown off. I am trying to consider the circumstance but it's been a while since we have actually talked on the phone or seen each other. HELP! If I need to just move on I will, but I also, feel like I could be blowing this out of proportion and maybe he really is just busy and sick. Thanks so much in advance! You guys are awesome!
colliejoanie Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I'm the Queen of blowing things out of proportion. So, it's tough for me to give advice on the subject. Only you know the rate of the relationship, and whether or not this is out of character for him. But, it seems like he's had a lot going on, so I'd give him a break on this one.
colliejoanie Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 That being said, I didn't hear from the guy I had been seeing last weekend......at all. And I fretted all weekend about it. Everyone said I was being ridiculous.......but we're not dating anymore. I just FELT something was wrong. So, listen to yourself.
Nemicron Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Sweetie, seriously dont waste your time with some guy thats playing games. I'd chalk it up as you got laid and walk away. its not fair that people treat girls like that I was going to take MD on a really nice picnic yesterday but with the way this week has played out that did not come together. I wanted to break it down for everyone becuase quite honestly I am confused and a little frustrated. This is the same guy that wanted to court me, chase me and take it slow from previous posts. I thought things were actually going well until this week. Sunday- His parents moved out of his townhouse officially and into their new house..finally he has his place all to himself! He called me probably 4 times this day and it was great to hear from him Monday- I went over to his place to watch a movie and spent the night (he asked me too) as we finally could have some time in his place and not mine! Tuesday- Woke up early and left his place. Didn't hear from him all day. I texted him that night to say "good night" and he texted back "sleep tight". Wednesday- he called me at 3 and said he was starting to feel sick and had his family coming over to help fix the place and get the rest of their stuff. Said if he was feeling better we should do something on Thursday or Friday. I called him back about two hours later and he said he was running to the gym to try and "sweat it out"....I actually saw him at the gym, but didn't say hi. Thursday- I texted him to see how he was feeling...he said "not good". I called him later in the day just to say hi. He called me back, but I missed it and texted him since he said his throat was pretty sore and sounded bad in the message. Did not hear back from text. Friday- No Contact. I didn't call him and he didn't call me. NOTHING...for the first time in almost 2 months I did not hear from him at all. Saturday- So far nothing! lol. I know he has been busy and stressed about work, his new place is still a little chaotic, and he's been helping his family move into a new house etc. But I can't help but feel like I am getting blown off. I am trying to consider the circumstance but it's been a while since we have actually talked on the phone or seen each other. HELP! If I need to just move on I will, but I also, feel like I could be blowing this out of proportion and maybe he really is just busy and sick. Thanks so much in advance! You guys are awesome!
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 Thanks guys! Yeah it's a tough call and my gut is going both ways...so annoying! Should I try and contact him as a last resort? Thoughts?
ReturnToSender Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Id wait till he contacts you, to see what he says... youve been reaching out to him so much with not much in return. Give him the chance to do it....
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 That being said, I didn't hear from the guy I had been seeing last weekend......at all. And I fretted all weekend about it. Everyone said I was being ridiculous.......but we're not dating anymore. I just FELT something was wrong. So, listen to yourself. Collie...what what your situation...how long were you guys dating etc. Sorry to hear it didn't work out for you. Thanks for your advice!!
Nemicron Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I'd actually not waste your time with it. In playing this game with this dude. ITs not worth the trouble Collie...what what your situation...how long were you guys dating etc. Sorry to hear it didn't work out for you. Thanks for your advice!!
elastica Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I guess I am the only one here who thinks, yes, you are blowing it out of proportion! The man is sick, people lose their sense of time when they are sick, plus he has so many things going on. Just try to put yourself in his shoes! Why don't you realx and give him some time??
dispatch3d Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 lol he isn't playing games. wtf. He's helping his parents move, obviously as busy as hell, and has a bad cold. The last thing he really needs right now is some girl going off on him about not enough "her" time. Offer to visit the guy or something. He just has a cold cut the guy some slack haha. Ever have the flu?....
welikeincrowds Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 lol he isn't playing games. wtf. He's helping his parents move, obviously as busy as hell, and has a bad cold. The last thing he really needs right now is some girl going off on him about not enough "her" time. I have to say I agree with this. No one wants to feel unappreciated. I can understand why you are reacting this way if that's how you feel. But I don't think you're being slighted. And as for being "blown off" -- as a brilliant poster here told me, there's a big difference between never having plans and not following through, and having decided on actual plans and not following through. I don't see a blow off here. As to what to do: he is not mistreating you. You'd like more attention, as we all would, but for now, he can't give it to you, and is putting up space instead. Allow him to do so. When he's ready, he'll call you. From there, if you still delight in him, then see him. Simple! As to your disposition: remember, this is supposed to be fun! We want momentum in a relationship, and are often so eager to move -- push -- relationships in a direction, hopefully "forward" but sometimes anywhere, because we want to sprint away from the feeling of uncertainty. But uncertainty is a part of any relationship, any job, any life decision of any significance; and even relationships that seemingly had no issues and no questions can end a few months later, with one person left to wonder what could possibly have gone wrong. The feeling of uncertainty, meanwhile, is just a permutation of fear. You should let go of that fear, and accept the reality of uncertainty. That's the only way you will know if you are motivated to be closer to him, and to want more in the form of commitment from him, because of your feelings for him, or because of some other reason within you.
colliejoanie Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 (edited) Collie...what what your situation...how long were you guys dating etc. Sorry to hear it didn't work out for you. Thanks for your advice!! We were dating about 6 weeks. Talking for a little over 2 months. We talked or texted every single day. But, in hind sight I see how I rushed things. I wasn't just having fun, like we're supposed to. I'm not going to make that mistake again. If I were to do it again, I would relax, take a deep breath, and not worry about everything so much. That's my advice to you . Edited November 6, 2010 by colliejoanie
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 We were dating about 6 weeks. Talking for a little over 2 months. We talked or texted every single day. But, in hind sight I see how I rushed things. I wasn't just having fun, like we're supposed to. I'm not going to make that mistake again. If I were to do it again, I would relax, take a deep breath, and not worry about everything so much. That's my advice to you . Geez...Collie are we twins...lol. I'm sorry to hear things didn't work out with your guy. Your advice is precious and I really appreciate you sharing your situation to benefit mine. I tend to rush things if they are appear good. But you are right, I need to step back and remember to enjoy this time and have fun with him if he comes around. ***breath in***breath out***
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 lol he isn't playing games. wtf. He's helping his parents move, obviously as busy as hell, and has a bad cold. The last thing he really needs right now is some girl going off on him about not enough "her" time. Offer to visit the guy or something. He just has a cold cut the guy some slack haha. Ever have the flu?.... Dispatch...thank you for your comments and you'll be happy to know that I was NEVER going to "go off on him" about this. I was simply just frustrated and confused. We are not exclusive, and I totally understood that he had a lot going on. I knew I had no right to be upset or mad at him over this but, it was weird to not really commuicate very much with him for most of the week since that hasn't been the case for the past 7 weeks. I just needed everyones guidance as to how to proceed
Author HeartOnSleeve Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 Thank you to those who responded....all of your comments were so helpful and I got a little of my sanity back...lol. So, I did not contact him yesterday (thank you for the encouragment folks) and to my surprise he texted me and said " Hey there! How's your day going? Sorry I've been MIA. Still pretty sick". Since I was out for a friends birthday I didn't get this until later in the day. Instead of texting I decided to give him a call and see how he was doing. I left a really nice short message and figured if he didn't get back to me than at least I tried and that was that. Again to my surprise he called me back like 5 mins later and we chatted for just a minute as I was out and he was still sick. I told him i'd love to take care of him or cook him dinner and he was cute about it. I than sent him a text saying sorry he wasn't feeling well! and a pic of the party and he finally responded like he normally would by calling me "cutie" or "pretty girl". I am going to tread lightly and give continue to give him some space, I know he is a little nervous about relationships anyways at this momemnt. Cross your fingers that I don't blow it and just relax and have fun with him when he's feeling better. Lucky for me...my week is packed. But man this guy has me wrapped around his finger...yikes. Thanks again guys!!!
colliejoanie Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Yay! Breath in......Breath out, sister.........Just portray yourself as though you LOVE yourself more than anyone else!!!! (tough to do, i know) I hope everything is awesome!!!
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