bboy Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 What are your theories on this? Why do a dumper run away?
sacg Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Many reasons; (i) They dont want anything to do with you (ii) They feel guilt (iii) They have not got the respect or decency to be honest about what they left for (iv) They have someone else (v) they respect your time to deal with it Depends on how things ended I guess, want to shed some light?
ReturnToSender Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Cause theyve moved on is my guess, and them being gone helps tremendously with the dumpee being able to move on too. Im almost jealous LoL! A year later after breaking up it still feels like a slow painful death cause even though he obviously doesnt wanna be in a relationship, he wont be gone, still acts affectionately and keeps giving me false hope. Blah!
sacg Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 That too. it is a silent blessing them disappearing..also jealous
ppge4 Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I agree with everything sacg said. Here's my additional two cents: Even if the dumper is going NC for all the right reasons - the dumpee at least deserves can explanation. Otherwise (in my opinion) he/she is just being a selfish jerk.
Author bboy Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 Ok. To be more clear.. Nothing about respect/new bf or so. We're talking NC from start right after a real relationship. Why would a dumper then run away? Avoid all contact and burn all bridges?
ReturnToSender Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 My answer stays the same...because theyve moved on. I dont mean in the way of silently tacking on "...to be with someone else". Just that they moved on. Period.
Author bboy Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 I would understand that in a way. Still, I'd say that you can't move on right away. Ny theory is out of sight out of mind. That the NC is to heal.
sacg Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Still a little vague bboy?? How did it end, what was said, who id what? I still say all of my reasons and others on here. Agree people deserve explanations, but when they dont happen, it sadly steers towards points 1-4 of my OP. Granted, It could be to self heal and out of sight if thats what you mean, but you sure thats not you hanging to hope? More details would help a bit.
ARISthess Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 Let me add... It could be that the dumper had made the decision a while ago.. If it was a relationship where 'lets give it another try' was said several times, then the dumper may have lost hope a while ago... hence the complete NC
Author bboy Posted November 8, 2010 Author Posted November 8, 2010 No really. It's not about hanging on hope. If a dumper goes NC it pretty much says it all. They want no contact with the dumpee and continue their life not only as separated, but also without any contact. So the question is more about the benefit of the difference between just breaking up and burning the bridges.
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