youngskywalker Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 My friend and I have talked about this a few times. Both of us are the "quiet" type and come across to people as being shy and introverted. It's actually not true. We are both very confident in life but just don't say anything unless it needs to be said. In one on one conversations I'll talk to you about anything and I've always been told I'm a good listener. I feel like people misunderstand me a lot. This doesn't help me in my dating experience either. I'm just wondering if there are other people who feel the same way and how they cope with this. I know I can give a potential mate a lot of love and affection. Let's just be honest...girls overlook the "shy" guys. I think they are missing out and overlooking a lot of people who would stand by their side and give them things in a developed relationship that they are looking for. Just wondering what other people thing about this. Cheers.
jimrich Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 (edited) Re: My friend and I have talked about this a few times. Both of us are the "quiet" type and come across to people as being shy and introverted. ... Does this mean that you may have limited communication skills? It's actually not true. We are both very confident in life but just don't say anything unless it needs to be said. In one on one conversations I'll talk to you about anything and I've always been told I'm a good listener. I feel like people misunderstand me a lot. This doesn't help me in my dating experience either. .... It might help you to look into communication skills, techniques and styles so that you learn how to invite feed back during a conversation and correct misunderstandings as they occur. This is a skill in which you stop speaking or listening from time to time and 'check in' with the other person to see if what is being said is being understood. IMO, this skill can work in general and intimate communications if you suspect something is being misunderstood or missed. "Let's just be honest...girls overlook the "shy" guys. I think they are missing out and overlooking a lot of people who would stand by their side and give them things in a developed relationship that they are looking for. Just wondering what other people thing about this. ... I comes down to knowing and using good relationship skills which can be learned - google: relationships. good luck....... Also, when we study relationship books, videos, on line, etc., a lot of what you have mentioned is covered and solved when applying the methods relationship teachers offer us. good luck Edited November 6, 2010 by jimrich
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