Should I tell my ex about random hook up?

[Emptiness]

Hey,

 

I am in NC with my ex atm but we are having a get together in a few weeks to talk about our future together. She broke up with me.

 

Well last night I randomly hooked up with a girl from work, just a one-nighter sort of thing.

 

Qustion is when we have the meeting with ex. Should I tell her about hat happened if she asks? I think Iwant to get back together with her if tht is an option but telling her about a random hook up will probably kill my chances of that as she is insecure

 

Thnks for advice

[Eternity001]

I wouldn't and haven't in my situation, only because I know absolutely nothing positive would come out of it and I don't need the abuse I would likely get.

 

I have no desire to hurt my ex and that's all it would achieve.

 

I can't see how it would beneficial to either of you.

[Am4Real]

Hey,

 

I am in NC with my ex atm but we are having a get together in a few weeks to talk about our future together. She broke up with me.

 

Well last night I randomly hooked up with a girl from work, just a one-nighter sort of thing.

 

Qustion is when we have the meeting with ex. Should I tell her about hat happened if she asks? I think Iwant to get back together with her if tht is an option but telling her about a random hook up will probably kill my chances of that as she is insecure

 

Thnks for advice

 

Telling her will not accomplish anything except bring about jealous visions. Believe me she will ask you, so be well prepared with your answer and the consequences if she ever finds out you've lied...although it likely the truth will bring about the same reaction. Tough call but that's what happens when couples take breaks and are free to roam.

[Nemicron]

YEa I totally agree. if you were broken up. Then it doesn't really matter. But if she asks about I think you should be honest with her. But other then that its no biggie. I'm sure she did something with someone along the way also.

[iamawesome]

Don't sleep around and tell, it's just bad manners. You owe this respect to the person you slept with and yourself. Call me old-fashioned, but it is none of her business. You don't have to lie, you can steer the conversation by saying you don't think its relevant because you want to start "fresh" and forget the past, or something.

Edited November 6, 2010 by iamawesome
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[PegNosePete]

If you're randomly hooking up with girls then it doesn't seem like you really want a future with your ex.

 

Who cares what the ex thinks? She is your EX, not your wife or mother. Tell her what you like, if she doesn't like it, f*ck her. (Not literally...)

[Citizen Erased]

If she asks, don't lie. If she doesn't, don't bring it up.

 

You should probably question your need to get back together with her considering you have no issue with hooking up with someone else. Of course you had every right to do it, you're free and clear.