brainygirl Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I tend to think that serious dating is probably best to pursue after you've gotten education and career started. I've seen so many people of both genders who's lives were basically ruined by attaching themselves to the wrong person. wait until you've achieved the things you want to achieve before finding a partner in life. (Of course, suggesting this to others is usually met with a really negative response)
Nemicron Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Thanks. this is the real me. drop me a email sometime. [email protected] Hey, you've got 8 out of 10, I've got 2 for 2. And BTW You look hot! And that's coming from a girl who normally only checks out guys around 20yrs old.
Nemicron Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I think your being very sensible with you look on everything. But that doesn't mean you should also be afraid of it either. Just be really wise about your decisions
Cracker Jack Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I'm honestly starting to feel that way. I'm only 23 and have had no real dating experience at all. All of my friends have, tho. It's really pathetic. The idea of being 26 or older with no experience scares the hell outta me. I really want to change this, but I just don't know how to change it. It's terrible thinking about it sometimes.
Author counterman Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 I tend to think that serious dating is probably best to pursue after you've gotten education and career started. I've seen so many people of both genders who's lives were basically ruined by attaching themselves to the wrong person. wait until you've achieved the things you want to achieve before finding a partner in life. (Of course, suggesting this to others is usually met with a really negative response) I was leaning towards that line of thought as well. I also think having you're own career and life going sort of gives you that leg up in dating (more money too). I would say to see my friends screw up their careers at the start because they were too invested in a relationship, and it seems some of them are headed down that path. When does the thought of "being together" really becomes something serious after starting a relationship at such a young age and being 3 years in? I think there are still things I want to do, on my own. I guess it doesn't mean that I can't do it while dating but maybe not while tied down in a relationship. I think your being very sensible with you look on everything. But that doesn't mean you should also be afraid of it either. Just be really wise about your decisions Thanks for the head up. I'll always back my decisions but if I make a mistake, then I will find the positive from, even though it could burn me quite a bit right after I'm honestly starting to feel that way. I'm only 23 and have had no real dating experience at all. All of my friends have, tho. It's really pathetic. The idea of being 26 or older with no experience scares the hell outta me. I really want to change this, but I just don't know how to change it. It's terrible thinking about it sometimes. Did you find that being around experienced friends is helping you with dating or not? Also, did your friends start in their teens? I guess that's where the experience comes in and actually going out there and asking girls out. Of course I cannot look ahead for me but I think at 23 and if you have everything together, you'll be right. I heard a lot on LS didn't start dating until later and some seem to be alright. A lot of my friends are heading down that path. I don't know if I should join them.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 I'm honestly starting to feel that way. I'm only 23 and have had no real dating experience at all. All of my friends have, tho. It's really pathetic. The idea of being 26 or older with no experience scares the hell outta me. I really want to change this, but I just don't know how to change it. It's terrible thinking about it sometimes. I only started properly dating when I hit 31! I have internet dating to thank for my last four girlfriends, and now it looks like it's going to be five. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 20. At university I had reasonable success with women (if I'd known what I know now I would have had a lot more) which at least confirmed for me that I wasn't ugly to all women, and that I could get laid if I really tried. However, what I really wanted was to be in a relationship. I met someone at a club in my final year when I was 22, and I thought I'd finally done it. Then she dumped me out of the blue and it really traumatised me. I simply withdrew and didn't have any intimacy with another woman for six years. Anyway, by the time I hit my thirties it dawned on me that by sitting back and hoping for the best, I was condemning myself to a life of bachelorhood. A friend recommended internet dating and the rest, as they say, is history. 23 is young, but you'll be amazed how fast that time goes after that. It seems like yesterday for me. So don't waste it like I did.
terra Posted November 8, 2010 Posted November 8, 2010 I'm honestly starting to feel that way. I'm only 23 and have had no real dating experience at all. All of my friends have, tho. It's really pathetic. The idea of being 26 or older with no experience scares the hell outta me. I really want to change this, but I just don't know how to change it. It's terrible thinking about it sometimes. Hey Cracker Jack, I think working on yourself is the easiest way to change it. If you do more things that expand and grow your confidence, dating becomes a whole lot easier. Try going out and doing new things, join clubs, take classes. You will be doing things that you enjoy and will meet like minded people. You are still really young and have a whole lifetime of meeting people in front of you - I wouldn't worry.
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