youngskywalker Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I admire those in here that are able to just dump a person and move on. I'm one of the nice guys that keeps on trying and takes people at their word. This girl I'm seeing now is stringing me along (I believe) and she's doing a mighty fine job of it! She gives out just enough affirmation to keep me coming back for more and I'm starting to loose self respect. She says all the right words and has all the right excuses to cancel a date or whatever. If I tried to break up with her (which I did once) she assured me that it's just because her life is really crazy right now and doesn't want me to go. So here I sit, writing in a forum because I don't have the courage to ditch this girl and move on. I really like her and feel that I would be giving up someone special but I don't feel like she respects me. *sigh*. I really don't know what to do. Do I just keep going with the flow and let her string me and hope that she comes around? Or do I just move on and believe there is someone more suited for me?
denise_xo Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 Or do I just move on and believe there is someone more suited for me? This. [ten characters]
skydiveaddict Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 If you truly believe you're being "strung along", then it's best to end it (IMO). You will just get your heart crushed to bits if you don't.
JungleLover Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 We all take our bumps and bruises somewhere along the line and learn from them. It's good to get relationship experience somewhere to learn how to work it later in life so I won't tell you to leave her. She is not going to come around. You just have to start standing up for yourself and see how it goes. Start putting your foot down and maybe she will muster up some respect for you. Likely not but I don't get the feeling you will leave on your own.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I think she's already lost respect for you. Even I have no respect for a guy who thinks its better to sit and be pushed around rather than stand up for himself.
Author youngskywalker Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 I don't get the feeling you will leave on your own. That is exactly my problem!!! I know if I called her tonight and said I'm just going to move on she would tell me not to go. She would say anything to keep me strung up. I have met some nice girls lately that I could ask out so maybe it's best to tell her I'm willing to be friends but I'm going to start dating other people. And then actually follow through with it and move on. Honestly I don't have to balls to dump her and tell her never to talk to me again. I think that is a little brash, and I do care about her and hope thing will work out but the way they are going isn't making me happy.
JungleLover Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I have met some nice girls lately that I could ask out so maybe it's best to tell her I'm willing to be friends but I'm going to start dating other people. And then actually follow through with it and move on. This would be a good alternative. Think you can really do it?
Author youngskywalker Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 This would be a good alternative. Think you can really do it? Yes! I think I can actually really do it. I'm interested in a few other nice girls that I know would be willing to hang out. I want to move on and believe someone is out there better for me but like I said I know I won't be able to completely break it off with the girl I'm involved with now. I need to leave the door open. I'm just not that strong right now. So I have to find something that will work for me right??
Angel1111 Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 It's just like anything else you want to accomplish - you have to get past the hurdles first.
Author youngskywalker Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 Well I thought about it a little and I guess I'm going to keep going with it for now. What's another week going to hurt to see where she's at? I'm really not sure where she is at with her feelings for me. Breaking up would be a little brash and unfair to her if indeed her life has just been crazy lately. I know most people would say to launch but.... I just don't know. I was hoping someone would chime in and say to just relax, many relationships go through the same thing in the beginning. I actually wanted my next relationship to go slow but I didn't think it would go THIS slow!
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