redhound13 Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 ill try to keep it as simple as possible. me and my ex were together just shy of a year, sure, we had our problems, who doesnt? anyway. she meets new friends, dumps me for one of these new guys she meets. Litteraly the same day. Ive ignored her for 2 weeks, then she calls and texts me saying her friend wants a shirt back that i have, etc etc. I just tell her ill work it out later, im busy. Then she starts texting me, a very rude text involving my mother who hated her, and that she hopes that i am happy. I played it off, said im doing great. She tries to open a convo but puts in there" you probably hate talking to me." I just said i didnt hate her, but whatevers fine with me. Then comes the "i feel like an *******, but what i did i think was for the better" I just stated that i completely agreed with her, and i allready told her its over and done with and im moving on. She then ended with maybe we can be friends in the future, i laughed and said i have stuff i have to get done and hung up. I think she was just trying to get me to forgive her and justify her actions, and stupidly i want her back. and i honestly dont know what her intentions are. Am i doing the right thing? did i do the right thing?
Author redhound13 Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 she did try calling me about a week ago,then texted me asking if i called her, which i find odd. and has been trying to invite my friends to come chill with her. hrm.
seibert253 Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 If you keep looking back, you will soon be headed in that direction. You need to let her go my friend. The old "we can still be friends" line is an attempt to ease the guilt she's feeling, and help her to feel better about what she's done. Classic. Don't fall for it. IMO you just need to let her go and stop answering if she calls or texts. If she realizes she F#ed up and wants you back, she will pay you a visit in person. No retreat, no surrender. Peace,
Author redhound13 Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 thats exactly what i wanted to hear, i just was hoping someone else would say it. Thank you.
Capital P Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 I think you have done brilliantly. She is a total bitch by all accounts. She is so selfish she wants you to be angry at her so she can feel that you are pissed off with her dumping you. You being non commital, acting like you dont care gives her NOTHING. It just makes her feel like **** , that you didnt care anyway Which is perfect. You handled it perfectly
Am4Real Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 thats exactly what i wanted to hear, i just was hoping someone else would say it. Thank you. Your actions so far have been ideal; they will help you put yourself first and this person second which is paramount throughout the healing process. You’ve been gracious enough to take her texts and calls but like one poster told you, such continued action will drive yourself backwards which is what she wants or is trying to do. Your next step is to permanently (or at least for 6 months) ignore all of her initiated communications so you can flush her from your emotional system and prepare yourself for the next really great girl that will come along… Best wishes, Am4Real
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