How can women jump from one guy to the next so easily

[lekker01234]

I have a friend who is a bartender. She is in a relationship but I am assuming an open one since she goes out a lot after work. She meets people at the bar, usually men she flirts with, then goes to another bar and hangs out with them. There is nothing wrong with that but I would think a woman who is in a relationship would go home. She usually hangs out with the guys that are passing on through or in the area for work, never hardly someone who lives in the area. Is she searching for something or is she just trying to see what else is out there? What should I do since she also flirts with me?

[Nemicron]

OOOO stay away from that one. My ex did the samething behind my back. It means she has no respect for the person she's in a relationship with at all. Unless your right and they have a open relationship. But if not Thats total toxic mess right there.

 

 

I have a friend who is a bartender. She is in a relationship but I am assuming an open one since she goes out a lot after work. She meets people at the bar, usually men she flirts with, then goes to another bar and hangs out with them. There is nothing wrong with that but I would think a woman who is in a relationship would go home. She usually hangs out with the guys that are passing on through or in the area for work, never hardly someone who lives in the area. Is she searching for something or is she just trying to see what else is out there? What should I do since she also flirts with me?

[carhill]

Attention whore. Watch the orbiters circling. Great example of a personality type to avoid when seeking a committed partner in a LTR. It's a different path.

 

*Some* women are like that. You got some good information with this one. Use it

[dreamingoftigers]

If anyone were to describe the behaviour of this person without the gender, I would have assumed it was a male... (this is not a dig, just showing the different wrong impressions we get of each other based on gender)

 

It just sounds like this isn't a very mature person and I wouldn't go chasing after her.

[fltc]

Is she searching for something or is she just trying to see what else is out there? What should I do since she also flirts with me?

 

Sounds like a woman I once dated briefly, her motto, "I know I can't have sex with every man in the word but I'm sure going to try!" And try she did!

 

Take her up on her flirting, the sex will be fantastic for the first couple of times......

[Cee]

I admit I once was like that. One man was never enough. I needed to flirt with others and sometimes I cheated as well. It had nothing to do with sex or romance. I was acting out my childhood abuse and abandonment issues. It took a lot of years of therapy to overcome that.

 

Don't feed her dysfunction. Treat her with platonic respect and appropriate boundaries. She'll probably never notice it, but it seems like the right thing to do.

[shayan]

she's not emotionally invested in the other guy. I wouldn't do anything with her cause she is in one. But, there is nothing wrong with this personality type in general, it's the fact that she's cheating, in fact I would find it attractive and hit on her.

 

I have this personality type I talk to so many women, and go from one to another. But when I am in a relationship cheating becomes an impossiblity.

[TheMENemy]

Leave your bartender friend alone.

 

What she does is none of your business.

 

When she flirts with you just be cordial and friendly but not sexual.

[lululucy]

Leave your bartender friend alone.

 

What she does is none of your business.

 

When she flirts with you just be cordial and friendly but not sexual.

 

Precisely!

 

So she flirts. Big whoop. Some people like flirting with strangers, some don't -- hell, my grandma is the biggest flirt I know and she used to do it at all the faculty parties for my grandfather's university! Nobody thought of her like a skank as you are thinking of your "friend".

 

If you don't know the details of her relationship status, it isn't your place to comment. If she is just hanging out with people, it isn't your place to comment! You don't know if she's sleeping with them or using them as character inspiration for her next novel. Give her a break.

[carhill]

OP, TBH, given the attention I've received from married women over the years, you're probably getting good advice from others here. No one but the couple knows the particulars of their relationship. As a control measure, I suggest flirting back with her and see what happens. Although such has gotten me into 'trouble' a few times with married ladies, perhaps it is a good learning experience. Nice ego boost too. Caveat: Don't consider or expect anything 'serious' to come out of it. Good luck