wilson Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 My gf and I have been together for almost 6 years and have a six month old son. We are a lesbian couple and he is biologically hers. My gf is not interested in sex or any kind of intimacy at all. No kissing or hugging. This has really came on in the past two and a half years. We used to have sex maybe once, twice a week but it slowly diminished and by the time she was pregnant it was non existant. Since she became pregnant and had our son we have had sex 3 times, this is in a year and a half. Once since he was born. She told me recently she does not like kissing and so that is firmly off the cards, not even a peck before work etc. Its obvious she doesn't have any attraction to me anymore. She makes comments about my appearance sometimes even though I do work hard on my looks, not overweight and I wear make up,nice clothes. I have suggested going to see a counsellor about this but she refuses. She doesn't really like to share her feelings, her whole family are very closed. They have never hugged, told each other they love them. So I know she won't do it with a complete stranger. If I suggest going away, having a special night in she doesn't want to know. Our son will go to bed at 8 and so we have the whole night to ourselves so its not tiredness getting in the way. She is completely content with carrying on with this roommate type of relationship and she knows I cannot leave because our son is not legally mine and won't be for a while as I have only just started the adoption process. She has told me if I leave I won't see him again and I couldn't bear that. I have no rights at all. If I say I'm going to leave she just laughs and says no you won't. She knows I am stuck. I don't even want to leave just want her to want me I guess I really need some help on trying to get this relationship back on track. I love her, we are close but I can't live like this for years. Do you think this can be saved?
dreamingoftigers Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I really thought that I responded to this one ages ago. I would suggest seeing a counselor by yourself and see what they have to say.
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