My life is not worth living anymore :(

[truthalwayshurts]

Hi everyone;

 

PLEASE TAKE LITTLE TIME TO READ THIS IS JUST KILLING MY HEAD DAY IN DAY OUT PLEASE GUYS I BEG YOU ALL PLEASE HELP ME

 

I have been with my ex girlfriend about 5 years and lived together for the past 2 years. When we met she was 17 and now she is going to be 22 very soon.

 

Our problems started when we started living together. About a year and half my girlfriend didnt have any job so i was supporting all her needs during that time including holidays etc... So we were not living struggling life at all. But during living together she broke up with me 5 times for not great reasons.

 

In our relationship there was no violance, not much arguing (as she hardly communicate anyway), no cheating, no flirting with any other 3rd party, no drinking or drug problems etc.. So all seemed going nicely.

 

First 3 break ups were 2-3 days then she came back and there wasnt any reason at all she just felt like that way i assume.

 

At these first 3 break ups she wasnt working so she was saying that she feels stressed etc... and being bored because not being in employment.

 

Then we have found her a job and after 4 months she brake up with me again with these reasons

 

I dont know what i want in the life, i dont see future with you, i love you to bits but i dont feel like same anymore, i dont want commitments, we are grown apart, im too selfish to be with anyone yet, i see you as a friend, you are very good person and deserve someone better etc...

 

Then after 2 and half months of no contact she saw me in town drive past her i didnt even look at her. When we broke up she didnt wanted to give me her number but all of a sudden i started receiving txt messages from her etc..

 

Then she started telling me that how bad she felt, she realised her mistake that she cant live without me, she loves me more then anything in the life, she cant see herself without me or with anyone else then i said ok we give it a go and i accepted her back again because this time we had no contact 2 and half months and thought she really realised all the mistakes

 

She came back and got my name tattooed on her hip without me saying anything and everything was great. She was very happy, we even went some weekend aways etc.. first 5 weeks or so she was so happy, sex was great, she was all bubbly etc.. But suddenly she started to become mardy past 2 weeks or so and everytime i tried to communicate she was telling me that she is coming to her period thats why she got ups and downs. I said ok and kept carrying on as it is but there was no change and within 22 minutes texting to her while she at work she planned weekend with me, saying her mardyness nothing to do with me again still period hormone changes etc... then 22 minutes later she said she dont see herself with me and dont want to waste my time and she made her mind and i was shocked. Despite me asking to sit and talk these face to face as these mistakes made in the past she didnt want to speak anything face to face and wanted to pack her bags and go after her work. So i said ok and since she is gone its been a week again no contact whatsoever.

 

I just would like advise as this is killing me. All i have shown is huge love in return did i deserve any of this? Is this girl in depression? got any personal problems? No feelings whatsoever for me? What would be her next step? Please someone with experience enlighten me.

 

I really appreciate some help here.

 

Regards

[MalachXaviel]

Sound's like she doesn't know how to be in a real relationship. There's always a point in a relationship where the x factor goes away. A lot of women can't handle not having this AT ALL. That's probably why your relationship with her is like a roller-coaster.

 

When women look for their dream guys, they take into account how polite he is, how financially stable he is, how romantic he is, stuff like that. When men look for a woman, it can be a bit more "realistic" than that. One of the best qualities in a woman is someone who can handle not having that 'x' factor anymore. You can read all the dating advice books and tip sites you want, there's nothing you can do from keeping that x factor from going away EVENTUALLY. Some women don't realize this until they have kids (when they have to stop thinking only about themselves) or until they hit their 30s.

 

I don't have a degree in dating or anything, but I know A LOT about women like the one you're describing (only kind I attract). If she seems really indecisive and self-centered it's because she's immature. Make yourself less available, and don't be clingy or needy- even if she claims to like it.

 

She may have left you for another guy, but since you don't know, it's useless to dwell on it. I recommend moving on, because women like this are a complete waste of time, but if you don't- just make it clear she's not irreplaceable and NEVER agree to be just friends.

 

Just to be clear though, I REAAAAALLY think you should just forget about her and date someone else.

[lapse]

I'm very concerned about your subject line, OP. It may feel this way right now, but please know that nearly everyone feels this way when they lose their first love and first major relationship.

 

You will be ok. Life will start to feel better.

 

I don't know a lot about your role in the relationship and the breakups. When someone is 'randomly' dumping you, that says something about them, though. It says nothing about you. Though it can wreak havoc on your, obviously.

 

What are you doing to feel better? You're processing it and that's good. I think one of the most difficult thing about processing is not getting stuck in a loop. If you see yourself chasing your tail (or hers lol), acknowledge it and see what different tools you can apply to break the cycle.

 

Keep posting. It will get better!

[Disasterpiece]

It sounds as if she is just using you as a crutch. her life sucks, and magically you are there for her. Stop being that guy for her and quit letting her come back when she wants to. When you do that, it sends the signal to her saying "hes ok with me messing with his head"

 

Start going out with friends, begin dating other women, work-out, join a sports league, do whatever you need to do to keep her out of your mind and eventually you will realize that you dont want someone like that in your life.

 

If she does happen to come back, which she probably will, make yourself unavailable and dont let her comsume you. Best of luck

[9Lives]

Well it could be worst. You could have been shot today. You could have been robbed last night. You could lost someone in your family you love. You could have lost your job. Someone could have stole all your money out your account. Someone could have broken into your car. You could find out today you have cancer.

 

Moral of the story....its not that serious. Love is over-rated. She is lame. She gets no respect!

 

Check yourself and find a real woman!

[watshername]

you poor thing. Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. do you regard yourself that low as to let her do this toing and froing? She will more than likely come back to you. She sounds like she has some issues and she really should communicate with you.

Ask yourself, do you want to be doing this for the rest of your life?

[9Lives]

it could have been worst. You could have married her and found all this out then had to divorce her. She will got half your money and spent it on her new man!!!