Maybe there some open options that can prevent cheating

[samsungxoxo]

After too many stories those who dealt with getting cheated on and the cheaters themselves doing it out of boredom, neglectful, etc (whatever the reasons/excuses were) maybe there is a way to not let this happen.

 

I figure it's too much harvest in this one person you proclaim your life to. Some people become overwhelm with boredom so if the solution is simple: don't get too emotional nor intense with the ''Only you and me, we'll die together'' thing.

 

Although still a relationship, make it more exciting. You can allow them to date a 3rd person and perhaps do certain things... depending how this goes.

 

Ok I have never done this before and currently I'm single but is on my mind as of now. When it comes to marriage it's the same thing (minus kids.... I have no interest in that)... there is such a thing as adding some spice to it otherwise you can get bore. Counselors? Please.... they can advice you but then it's back to square zero again.

 

So I guess I must be smart into thinking that way ain't I? Inputs please

 

I'm heading off to work now... will be back tonight....

[dreamingoftigers]

Personally the non-monogamy thing would actually kill desire for me. It would make me feel like my spouse was kind of a shared tampon.

 

I already feel that way over the cheating, I can't imagine feeling that even more with the open relationship thing.

[jenifer1972]

Yes, there is a solution - it's called DATING..! People who have this kind of itch they need scratched have NO business making a formal commitment to a monogamous marriage! But these people often want to have their cake and eat it too! And they often want the open option ONLY for themselves and not their partner!

[samsungxoxo]

Wow this sure was a digging you guys did and thank you for the replies. This thread might be a realization that I might not be ready for total commitment at this point and would need some freedom (but not to the point of being promiscuous).

 

If there was a way I can know for sure my next relationship won't bring any headaches nor hassles then it might be worth grasping on to.

 

However, I just realized how long term relationships or marriages can be very complex and worsten if infidelity is added as yet another problem.

Edited January 3, 2011 by samsungxoxo