SinoXone Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 (edited) OK hi everyone I would like your public opinion if you guys were in my shoes. About me: I am a nice guy and crazy person. I am a dancer with a light comedic side (I am a hip - hop fanatic dancer not the ballet and graceful pretty stuff lol the robot and street style of hip - hop). I love dancing by far than any girl until now. I had experienced with dating but dated for a short time with every relationship because I don't feel it by heart. I am a cute - good looking Asian dude. (Reference from my peers although I do not claim I am that good looking but w/e lol). Our Relationship: Ok I have known this girl roughly around 8 months now. Her parents love me and so does her siblings (sometimes clingy with me lol they are so cute!). I had spent time with her parents because of dance competitions and her dad happily gave me rides and booked hotels under his name at the same hotel they be staying at for the competition. I also taught her hip - hop class last year as a Co-op student (going by high school years and semesters so basically March 2010 - June 2010). I also talk to her a lot in between Thursday class because we just have a class for a hour. She also tells me like her day and what's going on with her family because I'm pretty close to her dad. The downside of things is that she is busy and so am I, also her parents are strict with the whole dating scene in high school. She is 15 and I am 17 turning 18 in early 2011 and she be 16 late 2011 so its like a sort of a 3 year gap if you go by school year in reality it's basically 2 years. My Reason to Like/Love Her: During my time as a Co-op student teaching at the studio I had a little crush on her because she was a really amazing dancer. I decided to not go any further than teacher and student since I only liked her because of dancing and she is cute. As time progress and I went with their family to compete in dancing my feelings grew little by little. Then by the end of July I managed to keep my goal to wanting be single for like life and not become so attached to her because I don't plan on dating any girls in general (btw I am not homo or bi-sexual I just don't want to worry my life with a significant partner in life). As school started on September, we hanged out alone for roughly a month in the change room because we don't have any classes during that time for a hour. For some reason every 3 times a week (since I see her for 3 hours) I start to grow that same crush back in March and I tried to hold it in for about a month and a half to thinking myself I only liked her because she is a good dancer. Then it hit me I actually like this girl and just went WTF. I kept on saying to myself if I don't want to get a little more serious relationship. The Confession: On November the second I decided to confess because I had thought about for about 2 weeks and I have to admit the truth that I do like her. I asked if she wanted be my girl and I bought her fresh just bought one hour ago red roses and her reaction was that it took her off guard. Then she told me no. I didn't bust out in tears because I thought her the reason would be her parents so I prepared myself for rejection. I was still looking up and keeping my head high and just brushed it off by accepting it and told her there was instructions with it to keep it alive. As she offered me a hug and walks away I just stood in the office for a bit because classes are switching and I can't go anywhere since I'm the only male dancer there with no where to relax besides the change room or the lobby. After the classes have settled down I sat in the change room with one of her close friends. She told her friend that I gave her the flowers. Her friend told me that she was sad when she declined my proposal and I personally felt bad because she is still young and no where near done high school. Then the lady at the desk knew about this because I ran in the office hiding the flowers there until I told her to come in the office and give her flowers and she told me try later down the year and I felt like saying no because I felt like I have no hope in getting this relationship any farther than it is now. Later that night went home and I was just happy that I got to say it, sure it wasn't my ideal result I wished for but I was glad I loved someone rather than not being able to say it. I still feel bad that she felt guilty because of her parents but I can't change that fact. We are still good friends but we didn't talk as much as before. What now?: What should I do now? Accept the lady's idea in the office to ask her later as I get to know her more? Move onto the single life dream I wish to have? By far thank you so much for reading this novel I will shout out your great help on youtube if you wish (has to be a pretty good opinion) I have 2 accounts one is for dancing and one is for vlogging. Dancing/Entertainment http://www.youtube.com/user/SinoXone Vlog http://www.youtube.com/user/SinoVlog Subscribe please! and like! With love, Sino Peacing and hearin you soon Edited November 5, 2010 by SinoXone
spiderowl Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 This is difficult because it's hard to know whether her reaction was because she was taken off guard and didn't know what to say or whether it was because she wasn't interested at all. She is still young and, in my country at least, considered to be under the age of sexual consent, so a relationship between a 15-year-old and a 17-year-old would probably be somewhat unwelcome here. However, she is growing up and the age gap is not much so why not just keep in touch with her as a friend and see how things go over the next couple of years. You can't really expect her to accept you as a lover when it would be illegal, but I can understand you want her to care for you as you do her. It may be worth waiting this one out and seeing how she behaves towards you in future. Being so young, she might not be used to male advances at all and might have been a little freaked out. It's good that she gave you a hug as it shows she is fond of you. If she had no idea of your feelings before that, imagine what a surprise it must have been. Be friendly but take a step back and let her come to you. I think she will probably need to come to terms with this change and decide what she wants in the future. If you are a friend who does not pressure her, she can decided freely and that's surely what you would want? She may never be interested, in which case you'll realise that is the case and hopefully move on. I think it's sweet that you told her how you felt. You are both very young and may well have several loves ahead of you. Don't invest too much in anyone until you have a pretty good idea it's reciprocated.
Author SinoXone Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 Thank you for your opinion I'm gonna give you a shout out sometime later. Thanks a lot =)
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