SinoXone Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 OK hi everyone this is my first post and I would like your public opinion if you guys were in my shoes. About me: I am a nice guy and crazy sometimes. I am a dancer with a light comedic side (I am a hip - hop fanatic dancer not the ballet and graceful pretty stuff lol the robot and street style of hip - hop). I love dancing by far than any girl until now. I had experienced with dating but dated for a short time with every relationship because I don't feel it by heart. I am a cute - good looking Asian dude. (Reference from my peers although I do not claim I am that good looking but w/e lol). Our Relationship: Ok I have known this girl roughly around 8 months now. Her parents love me and so does her siblings (sometimes clingy with me lol they are so cute!). I had spent time with her parents because of dance competitions and her dad happily gave me rides and booked hotels under his name at the same hotel they be staying at for the competition. I also taught her hip - hop class last year as a Co-op student (going by high school years and semesters so basically March 2010 - June 2010). I also talk to her a lot in between Thursday class because we just have a class for a hour. She also tells me like her day and what's going on with her family because I'm pretty close to her dad. The downside of things is that she is busy and so am I, also her parents are strict with the whole dating scene in high school. She is 15 and I am 17 turning 18 in early 2011 and she be 16 late 2011 so its like a sort of a 3 year gap if you go by school year in reality it's basically 2 years. My Reason to Like/Love Her: During my time as a Co-op student teaching at the studio I had a little crush on her because she was a really amazing dancer. I decided to not go any further than teacher and student since I only liked her because of dancing and she is cute. As time progress and I went with their family to compete in dancing my feelings grew little by little. Then by the end of July I managed to keep my goal to wanting be single for like life and not become so attached to her because I don't plan on dating any girls in general (btw I am not homo or bi-sexual I just don't want to worry my life with a significant partner in life). As school started on September, we hanged out alone for roughly a month in the change room because we don't have any classes during that time for a hour. For some reason every 3 times a week (since I see her for 3 hours) I start to grow that same crush back in March and I tried to hold it in for about a month and a half to thinking myself I only liked her because she is a good dancer. Then it hit me I actually like this girl and just went WTF. I kept on saying to myself if I don't want to get a little more serious relationship. The Confession: On November the second I decided to confess because I had thought about for about 2 weeks and I have to admit the truth that I do like her. I asked if she wanted be my girl and I bought her fresh just bought one hour ago red roses and her reaction was that it took her off guard. Then she told me no. I didn't bust out in tears because I thought her the reason would be her parents so I prepared myself for rejection. I was still looking up and keeping my head high and just brushed it off by accepting it and told her there was instructions with it to keep it alive. As she offered me a hug and walks away I just stood in the office for a bit because classes are switching and I can't go anywhere since I'm the only male dancer there with no where to relax besides the change room or the lobby. After the classes have settled down I sat in the change room with one of her close friends. She told her friend that I gave her the flowers. Her friend told me that she was sad when she declined my proposal and I personally felt bad because she is still young and no where near done high school. Then the lady at the desk knew about this because I ran in the office hiding the flowers there until I told her to come in the office and give her flowers and she told me try later down the year and I felt like saying no because I felt like I have no hope in getting this relationship any farther than it is now. Later that night went home and I was just happy that I got to say it, sure it wasn't my ideal result I wished for but I was glad I loved someone rather than not being able to say it. I still feel bad that she felt guilty because of her parents but I can't change that fact. We are still good friends but we didn't talk as much as before. What now?: What should I do now? Accept the lady's idea in the office to ask her later as I get to know her more? Move onto the single life dream I wish to have? By far thank you so much for reading this novel I will shout out your great help on youtube if you wish (has to be a pretty good opinion) I have 2 accounts one is for dancing and one is for vlogging. Dancing/Entertainment http://www.youtube.com/user/SinoXone Vlog http://www.youtube.com/user/SinoVlog Subscribe please! and like! With love, Sino Peacing and hearin you soon
dreamingoftigers Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Try a different girl later on. If she is rejecting you right out the gate, there isn't enough interest. Very good for you for asking and trying to pursue like a gentleman! That will take you far with quality girls.
mo mo Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 I think the flowers were a bit too much. Anyways, just stay close with her and be patient. You never know what could happen later on.
WIguy Posted January 2, 2011 Posted January 2, 2011 Awww thats a sweet story, you gave it a shot good for you! You can go anywhere you want from here, definately get out there and meet other girls. Maybe it will workout someday just try not to think about it too much and if you do, then meet other girls to occupy your mind. I'm not saying necessarily date them just meet and spend time or whatever. Good luck!
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