moveon Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 It has been about 8 months since I broke up with my b/f, we were together for about 6 years, we love each other very much. (I don't want to talk about why I broke up with him), we had no contact since. Since we broke up, I am having a difficult time to forget him and unable to move on. I still think of him almost everyday. Couple months ago, I sent him an email and a text message to wish him a happy birthday, but he did not respond. Since then, we have no contact whatsover until few days ago, he called me, but I missed his call. Later on that day, I got a text message from him asking me if I'm ok. I guess he learnt from our friend that I had some personal problem. I replied to his text that I'm ok and asked how he is doing. I heard nothing back from him, I thought that he probably still hate me or still mad at me for breaking up with him. This morning, I got a text message from him saying that he's sad. I replied back to him saying that I'm sorry and asked if he's ok. He replied back and said how can he be ok. I replied back saying again that I'm sorry and hope that he will forgive me for causing him so much pain. Then I heard nothing back from him. I was very happy and surprise that he contacted me, at least I know that he still care and still hasn't forget me. I think I still have feeling for him and still love me. I don't understand why he didn't reply to my last text message asking him if he will forgive me. Does it mean that he doesn't want to forgive me ? I'm really confused why he would contact me and when I replied back, he won't reply back to me ??
Cratsky Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 It doesn't really matter if he forgives you or not. You broke up with him. Are you struggling to simply forgive yourself? Are you jealous that he's so readily moving forward and you suspected that he'd find it quite hard? If he's getting out there, making new friends and having fun without you then that's a good thing. He's moving on with his life and you should be too. I'm assuming that prior to ending the relationship, you thought long and hard about the reasons why it wasn't working and conveyed the message to him in an honest, heartfelt manner? I guess some people don't know how to handle walking away from a relationship, and he may fit into that category. Also, since you dumped him you should bear in mind that he probably doesn't want to talk to you so any attempt to be friendly on your part may come across as inconsiderate and proof (in his mind) that you don't care about his need to move on. In regards to his query about how you are going, I would say that your response most likely made him feel bitter and further reinforced the point that he's better off without you. Sorry to say, but he may be moving through the anger phase of ending a relationship and is quite happy to be rid of you. No hard feelings on both sides I hope. If you had any hope if retaining the chance of a friendship, I'm assuming that was also factored in to the way you ended it at the time.
Nemicron Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 You broke up with him and then kinda bailed and then expect him to be all roses after you broke up with him? To be hoenst I dont really think he will trust him. And unless you get back with him its kinda like leading a person on. But being that I dont really know how you broke up its kinda leaving a piece out. But being from what you wrote thats not a good thing to do with a person.
shayan Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Hey moveon, if you really want him back. Honestly want him back, meaning you are not just confused and desperate and looking for someone to cling to, meaning you truly love him and will accept him for who is and she yourself being with him. Then go back, call him, tell him you still love him and you want to reconcile, if he doesn't pick up leave him a message. And that's all you can do. The rest is up to him. If he doesn't call back then you know your answer. If he does then great. good luck
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