SithLord Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 I routinely do this for my fellow LS readers! How long did it take an EX Boyfriend or Girlfriend to return after being in no contact and for how long? Did he or she date anyone during that time frame? Did he or she want a second chance? Like I said in one of my earlier post, Exes know when to come back when they feel the FORCE of the person moving on. Any thoughts ladies and gentlemen.
bleeg Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 My ex broke up with me July 5th and she asked me out for a friendly drink beginning of Oct. A week later, she said she still has feelings for me when I showed non during our friendly meeting.
Author SithLord Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 3 months, not bad...I know im going to be in No Contact for a very long time...because this guy in the picture and by then i wont care, i already feel the effects coming off.
bleeg Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Yeah but you have to understand, this guy is only a rebound. Rebounds don't last.
DustySaltus Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 8 years later and 26 months were my longest, both didn't work out the second time....
Author SithLord Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Yeah but you have to understand, this guy is only a rebound. Rebounds don't last. Bleeg; this is an ex boyfriend of hers, from Im guessing highschool days.. In mind is like this the one who got away for her..I just have to let time pass, bc I'm her more recent exe. I wanna memory wipe myself like the movie Paycheck.. Dusty: what happened? Damn long time.
DustySaltus Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 The 8 year gap was with my high school sweetheart. She called me out of the blue 8 years after high school. I went out with her one night and we just hit it off. But i told her that I didn't want anything serious (because I had broken up with an ex of 6 years a few months earlier). She was ok with it at first but after a year she grew impatient....which obviously I can't blame. We broke it off and haven't spoken in a couple years. The 26 month gap was with the ex of 6 years. She came on strong but I was with someone else. It took a long time for me to get over her, but I did. Time is the great equalizer. It can help you get over an ex but also help and ex get over you. That's why it's so important to live in the moment and learn from past mistakes. Are you holding onto hope that she comes back Sith?
Author SithLord Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 Not as much anymore, but she ran back to her ex and currently hook because he likes her big size and she feeding into that and I'm disappearing forever out her life....I'm truly done, tonight was the night she's erase...
hitbyatruck Posted November 6, 2010 Posted November 6, 2010 (edited) 10+ years together. 2yo kid. She has affair with mutual friend. We split. Kid goes back and forth. She gets engaged after 6wks. (Many people find this very amusing.) Comes back after 4mths. Will not or cannot cut ties/contact with OM despite my urging and prediction that recon will fail otherwise. Leaves for OM again after 8wks. Claims to be independent. An exercise in guilt-reduction or a genuine attempt at reconcilliation? The former I now am fairly sure of, even if it was subconscious on her part. All I know is that neither of us were ready to reconcile. I hadn't moved on from her and what she did, and she hadn't moved on from me, but more so, OM. This is surely just a female thing isn't it? I mean, we are different creatures afterall. Edited November 6, 2010 by hitbyatruck
Dante311 Posted November 7, 2010 Posted November 7, 2010 After 10 months... Nicole, the woman who broke my heart. The only woman who did.. and I've had better, longer relationships, too... I don't know why... ...about 3 weeks ago, contacted me. No intent for a second chance.. just wanted to check in. I GAVE in. I responded. Gave her my number to call me. She got all excited to call me soon... ...3 weeks later. Nothing. I don't expect to hear from her. I fed into her selfish ploy to feed her own ego. It's still tearing my up inside. And yet, I miss her terribly once again... 10 months later. We broke up tomorrow this month... one year ago.
Author SithLord Posted November 7, 2010 Author Posted November 7, 2010 Disappear on her. Should have acted normal like yeah I don't miss you no more.
summerl0vesyou Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 After 10 months... Nicole, the woman who broke my heart. The only woman who did.. and I've had better, longer relationships, too... I don't know why... ...about 3 weeks ago, contacted me. No intent for a second chance.. just wanted to check in. I GAVE in. I responded. Gave her my number to call me. She got all excited to call me soon... ...3 weeks later. Nothing. I don't expect to hear from her. I fed into her selfish ploy to feed her own ego. It's still tearing my up inside. And yet, I miss her terribly once again... 10 months later. We broke up tomorrow this month... one year ago. This is almost exactly whats going on for me too. in exactly one month, itll be my one year since we officially broke up, too. and he has tried to check in on me and knows how i feel, but never claimed to feel the same. so now im seeing he just wanted an ego boost and knows he can get it from me. not anymore. and not you either dante!! good for you!! miss her, but dont talk to her. eventually, youll move on...so i hear, anyway
Cratsky Posted November 11, 2010 Posted November 11, 2010 (edited) We were together 5.5 years, and broke up because of his on-going anger/control issues. It's been about 2 months and I called him up for a quick 10m catch up (I actually wanted to know how my cat was, instead of him!). I'm moving on, getting out there and doing stuff. Feeling absolutely free (and it must have showed in my voice) because he started saying that he was hoping to take six month alone to fix his anger (seek therapy etc) and he planned to call me then to see where things were. I explained that 'what we have is in the past and there's no guarantee I won't be with someone else by then. I will not be put on the shelf whilst you fix yourself and I know you thought about that risk before ending it.' He was sullen and frustrated, but acknowledged the point. I wished him happiness regardless of whether I hear from him or not. If he calls, it would be nice to see how he is but the relationship is over for me. I want someone with better qualities and who is more compatible with me. Look, don't get me wrong I've been able to move on fast because the last 2 years were just awful. It's not like I didn't see the end coming (honestly surprised I didn't walk away sooner). But as they say, when you start moving on they instinctively try to pull you back despite the fact the reasons you split are still there anyway. In my case, I'm happier without him. This was a blessing in disguise because I know that I am not a victim and there's a brighter future out there for me. There were things that shouldn't have been said on both sides and it's easier/more exciting to find other more suitable partners than working so hard to fix a past one. Edited November 11, 2010 by Cratsky
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